Pity the world's parents, do parents are hoping that their children have success, happy to live a better life. Although you are a farmer 50 years old, no car, no house, no savings, but you have a very high awareness, know the knowledge of changing destiny. Even if you have to work hard all day long to earn money, you still have to raise your three children and train them to be college students, which is really valuable.

In the future, your three children will surely become pillars of the country and contributors to society. I am sure your children are proud to have you as their parents and will be very filial to you in the future. Honestly I admire you for raising three children when many families say they can't afford to raise one child every day, raising children is really not an easy thing. So these three children are not only your greatest pride and wealth, but also your contribution to the output of talent to society.

What is most precious in this era now? Of course it is talent, talent is the first productive force. The development of the city, the industrial upgrading of various industries, all need all kinds of high-end talents to join, in order to be realized. Just take a look at the war for talents among various big cities in the past few years. Various cities have issued preferential policies for the introduction of talents, such as preferential housing purchase, rental subsidies, business subsidies, in order to attract talents to these cities to develop.

LOL, I'm about the same age as you and have raised three college students and I really regret it, I didn't feel like it was a fortune, I felt like I fell into an endless abyss.

Three sons in college, in order to pay tuition I owe a lot of external debt, the village people have built a house and bought a car, while my family is still broken tile house frame car, other families are the old man leading his son to make money, while my family, only I am this old ox pulling the dry, other families out of the money less into the money, while my family is out of the money more into the money less, so poor ah.

Now my children have graduated and I am getting old. What is more difficult for me is that several children after graduation, looking for a job is also all very general, old brother ah, I do not know how your children after graduation, I think everyone's son is a normal person, there is no more than normal ability, so the three of them to earn barely enough to maintain their own lives, basically not to save any money, and the village did not go to school for a few years of experience at the construction site, and now they have all reached a daily New several hundred.

Children graduated, the worse thing came, you said the university, can not go back to the countryside, now several children are basically to the age of marriage, the first task is to buy a house in the city, my God, not to mention the three children, is to give a child to pay the down payment, I can not afford to pay ah, do not talk about the house, the bride price of the wedding and banquet is a big expense, just said, the children are now earning less money, these still have to let me pay ah. I really can't afford to pay for all this.

Can not afford the money, the child may face the bachelor, so I was tossing and turning all day long, sleepless nights ah, I really regret letting all three of them go to college, I also blame myself for their own incompetence, if I am Wang Jianlin should be so good ah.

In the past, the village people look at my family out of three college students, are cast envious eyes, but now, the village people ask me what the children do, in the city to buy a house or not, married or not and so on, I don't know how to answer, although the children are learned cultural knowledge, but now can not earn money, and then have the culture and what is the use of it ah.

Now I have the biggest perception of rural children in college is that, in addition to the 985, 211 these famous schools, on a general undergraduate college or something really don't go on, there is no point, because now full of college students, there is no competitiveness, it is better to take advantage of the site to move bricks to make money to marry a wife to learn a skill.

So I don't think that providing for three college students is wealth, and going to college is like an investment, and I think I invested in the wrong program, so now I feel very self-conscious and I feel like I'm harming my children.

Although children and grandchildren have their own blessings, but how many college students can rely on themselves to start a family, not still rely on their families, but I'm old, no money and can not do it.

Raise a child 100 years old and worry about 99 for a long time.

The kids are out of college and if it's normal you should start working, then you'll get married and have kids. If everything is normal, you will live a happy life with children and grandchildren in your old age. It's a wonderful picture to have grandchildren in your old age, and if your children are filial, they will start feeding their parents.

But not every family is so happy! I was one of those kids who made my parents unfortunate.

My parents gave birth to three siblings, my sister and brother were very sensible, and after finishing school, they got married and had children, and everything was in order. I got addicted to gambling after graduating from college, and didn't get married until I was in my 30's. My parents didn't know that I had a gambling habit, but they just pushed me to find a girlfriend. My parents didn't know that I had a gambling habit, they just often urged me to find a girlfriend and get married.

After I graduated from college I took part in online gambling, I owed a lot of money to other people and took out a lot of online loans. When I couldn't afford to pay back the money, the collection began to burst my address book, and then my boss, my parents all knew about my secret gambling since graduation.

The first time the company dismissed me, my parents in order to save me to ask various relatives to borrow money, anyway, in order to help me raise money to pay off the debt, they almost every relative have begged. My dad took me to visit every relative's home, my ah aunt finally willing to lend me money to pay off the debt, but want me to write a note and confession in front of her, I wrote.

The money was paid back, but my dad borrowed over 300,000 dollars from several relatives just for me. He still goes to work every day to earn money just to pay back his relatives. He's 68 years old, and he gets up early and works hard every day because of my ungrateful son.

So you ask me if having three kids graduating from college means you can rest on your laurels and wait for your kids to come back to you. I would say it depends on if each of your kids are well behaved and don't go astray, otherwise it's hard to tell!

Play here to advise you to have self-control, do not indulge in gambling, or you will regret it for life ah! I am a negative example.

If you have a car, a house, land and property, and three kids who can help you out after college and make the family take off, but none of that and still stupidly naive enough to think you're tough, then I'll just have to wish you well on your way.

And more than twenty years ago a bachelor's degree is equal to a vice mayor is not the same, now bachelor's degree already stinks the street, every year seven or eight million college graduates, the college students work grade has been pulled down to the level of Foxconn, I do not know where your enigmatic pride comes from?

And compared with ordinary high school high school and even technical school students, college students at the grass-roots level is not popular at all, high not low, light and fearful, not as good as junior high school out of the mix will do, not as good as high school out of the mix of real, not as good as technical school out of the theory and practice, so the three wastes of snacks, and you are happy from where it comes from?

Take a step back, your children are all one hundred miles are hard brand university graduates, can find a job in one, two, three or four cities to get a firm footing, then the question comes again: let three each owes a butt of student loans student child to go to the big city to fight, you as the old man and no one network can not afford to room and boarding money, so that they can drink the north-west wind to live? Wa said not to fight father that is wa have backbone, you also want to take this as their own face of the gold everywhere fooling around, I have nothing to say.

Instead of pushing the children into the pit of the university and then sit back and watch them in deep water and fire for the rest of their lives, in fact, it is better to look at oneself earlier, and send the children to work in agriculture and learn to work earlier, so that they can find their own positions in life earlier and establish their own life in the future. We are the people's family to raise children to what the mountains sing what song, do not want to be rich and wealthy, but to be peaceful and safe, the old have a sense of support, the long have a long, each in its place, this is the most harmonious.

Whenever it comes to the question of whether or not paying for your children to go to college is considered wealth, my tears can't help but come to my eyes because I've been divorced for four years now at the age of 57, and I've provided for four children. One did not graduate from high school and came out to work, one in the Southwest University of Political Science and Law, one in the Southwest Forestry University, one in a private school to read the first year of high school, a year outside the home 13,000 or 140,000 expenses. I rely on a month early morning and late at night to sell hard labor on the 10,000 or so wages, really not enough to use. Three years ago to build a house owed a little foreign debt, has been unable to pay, every day to work late into the night, an old bone, a sleep can only secretly cry, but in front of the children never dare to cry. -NETWORKER

In fact, many parents are torn by the problem of paying for their children's university education for similar reasons, mainly for fear that their children will not be able to find a job after graduation, or that they will not be able to find a desirable job with a high salary, and as a result, they will only be able to find a low-paid job. If this is the case, then it will be regarded by many people as a wasted study or a waste of diploma. The question then arises, is paying for a child's college education considered a fortune or not?

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1. Children can go to college, seemingly bright surface, in fact, who suffered who knows, I said myself, fifty-four years old, two sons have gone to college, the eldest child in 09 years on the examination of the second, the youngest child in 11 years on the examination of a book, have bought a house, buy a car (70,000 or 80,000) to get married and have a child, daughter-in-law are the same classmates in college, although the examination of the local civil service, but at present it is still a slave of the life of the house.

And I am still in the stone factory in Qingzhou stone smashing, dry fourteen years, fifty years old less than all the teeth fell out, hair almost all white, suffered the crime can not be imagined. In addition, there are old people on both sides of the home, I and my partner one to the son's family to see grandchildren, all the way, all friends and relatives have not helped me.

Neighbors say I am terrific, rely on their own stone to arrange a good child. In fact, the heartache only their own pay, suffered tired to eat bitter, the first few years to wear clothes, all the other people to give, to catch the market never spare to buy fruit. I don't want to talk about it, but when I think about it, my tears will fall again, I'm from the Yimeng mountainous area.

2.For children to graduate from college, children are twenty-three four, rural people have no old bottom of the family, to buy a house and a car, rely on their own struggle, there is the risk of bachelor, and now the female college students want to have a house in the city, only to be willing to marry. For the rural people said cultivated college students, let him struggle for their own people, fine, my son graduated from college company executives.

Because did not buy a house, talk about girlfriends are difficult to resist the state, 30,000 to 40,000 a square meter, nowadays college students a catch, the job is not easy to find, the salary is not high. One thousand a month is considered a good job, eat and drink and how much left? It takes ten years to buy a house on your own and make a down payment. People are old, people and a few youth, rural college students try to take the civil service, by working to buy a house to get married is difficult ah.

3. I am a farmer, already sixty years old, due to the previous J scratch childbirth, son is only twenty years old, at present, is still in the flight academy, his two sisters graduated from university, has been married and started a family, in order to son's education I and his mother, had to go out to work, due to the age of the old, can take the wage is not high, barely take care of his son's tuition fees and living expenses.

To be honest, I don't even dare to go to the hospital for checkups, for fear that any physical condition will affect my children's schooling. I've been doing this my whole life, and I have no savings, no deposits, and I have two cars, a bicycle, and an electric car. But I'm not pessimistic, although no savings no car. But, the child can go to college, can become a pillar of talent, is my greatest wealth.

4. I am 52 years old this year, two daughters, both undergraduate graduates, the eldest daughter also just got married, and did not ask for a bride price, the youngest daughter just graduated this year, and is currently working in the Learning and Learning Online School, I have to say that farmers is the collective name of our life, but is not a farmer of the mind is what you and I should do. The children go to college is the goal of our struggle, after graduation, we can not afford to give them a stable job, (in fact, can have a stable job people do not necessarily with the ability to come in, the monopoly of contacts do not need me to say, you all understand.) Now the pressure is on, you have to struggle for most of your life just for a house.

I still have to have children, a child to grow and educate the majority of their lives, clothing, food and medical care have to double the struggle, not to mention the ability to provide for our old age, I am now really confused, I pay for their schooling is right or wrong? If they do not go to college, and now also have a family, and do not have such a big demand on the quality of life, honestly I feel the pressure for the children, do not think that after the university all is well, you have to face the problem of monopolization of human resources.

5. Paying for a child's schooling is indeed a hidden treasure, a high investment with a high return, with more depth and breadth than material possessions. My parents were both teachers in the mountain villages, working in the rural areas until retirement, the school is our home, and today their children and grandchildren have fifteen graduate students and PhDs. Although some of their sons and daughters are laid-off workers, they are also very good all have their own companies.

In order to honor the two old people, the boss of the company's money in Guangzhou, Changsha, Chengdu, Harbin, four purchase of housing for the elderly season to live, retired children to live with their parents, the family is everywhere a laugh, four generations under the same roof, more than twenty people in a small family of nine, distributed in many provinces and cities, there is a holiday with the old man will be living with the old man to catch up with each other, and that's the wealth.

6. I am also the father of three sons, now also have to pay for their three college expenses, I am working outside the home, the family with me, the old family has over 90 years old mother to look after, there are four sisters, none of them can help. Luckily, my children have excelled in reducing their burden with semester scholarships and grants, otherwise it would have been very difficult for them to finish their studies. My oldest child graduated from undergraduate school this year with a double degree, majoring in electronics and computer science, and this year he entered a graduate program in computer science, which will take him another three years.

The oldest two are juniors this year, and have scholarships and grants to reduce the burden, began for graduate school, reading the mechanical design automation. The oldest three college entrance examination this year, the results in the three brothers in the best undergraduate, ready to enter the second most prestigious school in Guangdong, in the high school stage there is every semester performance scholarships, to the high school entrance examination after the settlement, enough for him to pay for college tuition and accommodation costs. In the future, every school season to prepare for 30,000 to 40,000 yuan of tuition fees, really struggling.

But for them and for this family, I really tried my best. From the time they went to school, I was responsible for everything, and my wife did not do anything but stay with the children and the elderly. This year is the reason for this epidemic, has been in April to stay home unemployed so far. What should I do now? It will take at least four years for the children to graduate.

7.The children are college students, seem to be good, depending on the fate of how? Our hometown a family of four, the old couple raised two daughters, the eldest daughter graduated from college married, the second woman is also considered a college graduate, it is more than thirty years old, I heard that only two years before the marriage, the hostess suffered from cancer surgery, I heard that the eldest woman gave the money, coupled with their own relatives and friends borrowed some money to do the surgery did not come through and go, and now the hostess is more than sixty years old.

Used to be an old couple of righteous son of a foreigner, now his wife is gone, his daughter married, the second woman field work, he can only be a man alone is not willing to live at home, I heard that back to his hometown to his sister-in-law door to door, seriously the old couple of young in order to study for the two women is really abandon all, pouring all their money, in the end, I think it is a blank, two years ago, I also heard that the big woman took the civil service exams, alas. Or look at life, rely on yourself, if you have the ability to have savings, it is estimated that it will be another scene.

8. Farmer family children for children to go to college is really not easy ah, I have a family nephew grandson, now Peking University on graduate school, the child is excellent, parents worried about the Ching Ming Festival back to their hometowns, see the family. The nephew and his wife are about fifty-five years old, working in a factory in the countryside (the kind of small factories, with said long-term work on people's health is not good) can not be ah, the child is too good, the parents are under pressure ah, I advised my nephew's daughter-in-law, the child is so good, you have to pay attention to their own bodies (the old couple's bodies overdrawn for many years, there are also sick).

In the future, the child's yearly earnings will be the same as you earn for many years (money) she replied with a bitter smile, that is later, now we have to work hard to earn money ah, not to mention their own old age, let's say that now, first of all, you have to earn tuition fees for your son (the child is very frugal), and then the child graduated from the almost thirty, have to buy a house to marry a daughter-in-law, right.

I said he works in a first-tier city, and it would be a nightmare for a rural family to buy a house for him. She said she also knows, not to mention a few million, or even a few hundred thousand, for her can not come up with, but want to do their best to help the child ah. I am afraid that they will fall ill at some point. Think about how much pressure the child is under. This is a true reflection of an ordinary peasant family who raised their children to go to college.

Farmer fifty years old, for three children to go to school and study, and is a university graduate, although the family does not have assets, seek to gain knowledge for the honor of cultivating talents for the benefit of the country and the people, to build a small family on the basis of knowledge, surely an inexhaustible wealth. The following talk about their own understanding, for reference only.

First, the inheritance of the ancient tradition of the honor of study has led to the prosperity of the family and the fullness of its honor. From ancient to modern times, reading is the fairest way for a family to prosper. Everyone aspires to study, and strive to obtain knowledge as honor. In ancient times, productivity is not developed, only the landlord's children can study, and the landlord's knowledge comes from the sweat of the peasants. Nowadays, a small family of farmers rely only on the efforts of parents, for three children to study in college is not easy, first of all, clap your hands! First, the grandparents have been farming for generations, from the current generation to end the history of working at the farm gate. Secondly, in the past, rural elementary school graduation, relatives and friends to come to congratulate the new year's custom has been continued, and now three children graduated from college, will go out into society is even more joyful. Thirdly, the three children's small family will be settled in the city and become urban residents. Fourthly, it is rare for a village to have three college graduates in one family, and their honor is famous both inside and outside the village.

Secondly, with the development of the times, it is necessary to dispel the vague idea that it is not possible to get rich by studying. Rural parents for their children to go to school on the road is very difficult, rely on farming income to provide the demand for education, its power is limited. Must take the road of working to earn money. Part-time work is hard work, dirty work are dry, in the eyes of others seem to be very unworthy of too lowly. Secondly, there is no rest day, busy working all day long, and there are few chances to meet with relatives and friends, as if they owe a debt of gratitude. Third, thrifty and frugal, do not spend money, in wearing clothes on the comparison, appear shorter than others half a cut, and its tears can only be self-flowing self-wiping. At present, after eighty rely on their parents to help, relying on the method of repaying the loan month by month, has bought a house in the city to get married and have children, only after ninety after zero zero, the city to buy a house is very difficult to settle down. As a result, some parents of farming families think that the road to study is very slim, and it is unlikely that they will settle down in the city to build a small family. This fuzzy thinking must be clarified and eliminated, must rise to the challenge, there must be dark flowers and a village.

Thirdly, with the development of the times, the sense of well-being of the elderly is less obvious, and young people need to raise their sense of gratitude. Rural elderly through years of hard work, for children to go to school, establish a small family, into the task of bringing grandchildren. Due to physical health for a long time out of strain disease, either back pain, leg pain, or "three high" spend more money, only a little bit of a meager pension, far from meeting the need for medication and medical care. Therefore, children must be grateful for support. On the one hand, to get financial support, on the other hand, to get the spirit of encouragement, people are old to ask for warmth is also necessary.

The owner of this problem, let me admire the feeling of rise: you are great! As a fifty-year-old farmer, rely on farming for a living, at best, just take advantage of the spare time to do odd jobs, earn a few money, actually provided three college students, although now you do not have a car, no house, no savings, but these three college students is the biggest wealth of the family, you are really great, admire you!

If you calculate according to an average college student, the cost of four years of college will be about 60,000 yuan, three college students, four years will be nearly 200,000 yuan! Well, this does not count the four years of junior high school (junior high school for the time being, according to four years), three years of high school costs! Think about it, this is a lot of investment in family education ah! You have to realize that a farmer's family can afford to send three college students without extra income! How hard it is to make ends meet, and how hard it is to make ends meet! You can imagine. Not to mention the parents of this courage, how great, and do not have to say for the country to train the pillars of the talent, how honorable! Let's just say that in the process of providing for their children, that a hard work, that a hard, that a hope that their son will become a dragon, hope that their daughter will become a phoenix of the persistent faith, and that a loving heart! It is admirable and touching!

To survive, people must first eat! When students go to school, they must first have money! Let's talk about the university level, the beginning of the school year, some students have to take more than 10,000, which is three students ah, have to take more than 30,000, and, the money to be prepared early! Think of all the hardship and suffering during this period, this is the greatness of a farmer! The selfless devotion of a farmer's parents to their children!

Knowledge is wealth, you have three college students, the same, you already have a wealth of wealth! When you see their own children, in the parents hard work under the pull, work in their respective positions, career success, thrive! The heart will be like a trip to the river of honey, happiness, sweet and sweet! What is the suffering of the children in the beginning?

I this person will not flatter people, with all due respect, to make in thirty years ago, your family can have three college students, not to mention one in a hundred miles, is a thousand miles, ten thousand miles can not pick a family, talk about the wealth is even more needless to say.

Some people not only want to ask why? Because of that time the gold content of college students is not the same ah, all with high scores to be admitted ah. What was the concept of college students at that time? University unified from rural households into quantitative account, not only do not want the family to study in the university a penny, the state also issued living allowances, graduation of the state arranged for work, the work unit will be assigned to the house to get married, you said it's cool not cool.

As the old saying goes, "Thirty years east of the river, thirty years west of the river", decades have passed, and the situation has changed dramatically. In the past, college students were rare and expensive, firstly, because there were not as many universities as there are now, and secondly, there were not as many families in the rural areas who invested in their children's education. Now it is different, whether it is the city or the countryside, every family attaches importance to investment in education, and the State has also increased its investment in higher education.

In the past, the specialist graduates are very popular, now the undergraduate is full of street, the past to read the national burden of the university, and now read the university to spend their own money, it is no wonder that you don't have a car, no house, no deposit, these three children are read to the university, but also really hard for you to a rural cropper.

All three children have graduated from college, I don't know if he/she is a boy or a girl, I don't know if he/she is working, I don't know if he/she is married. If it is a girl, you are lucky, if it is a boy, I can't say. I don't know if the kids have gone to graduate school yet. If they are just ordinary college students, only just stepped into the society, you as a father, please do not be optimistic too early, the children's employment, marriage will be crushed you.

The family has three college students, in a way this is the spiritual wealth you have, and back to reality, this is still the arrival of the difficulties you face, do not ask why, the reality is so cruel, I do not know if you agree with my point of view.

You don't have a car, a house, or any savings, but you have a lot of foresight. To be honest you have paid for three children to go to college is already very impressive, you must have suffered a lot. You have cultivated three talents for yourself and the country, and I believe you will be well rewarded. In the past, it was you who suffered and nurtured three college students, but in the future, it will be the three college students who will repay you together. You are happy, and your three college students are your greatest wealth. Bless you!

Cultivate three college students! Definitely is your wealth, but also the wealth of the country, such as all "good character and academic excellence 'that is also a small contribution to the country, than have a car and a house and savings more happy and happy!

All the energy is used in training children, such a payment is selfless, but as a farmer is not easy, can be said to have done to the extreme, a thousand hardships into the norm, frugality is of course, decades of perseverance, the bitter frugality of life in general is to look forward to lack of progress, but also do not have such a turnover to maintain.

How did you do it? He did it! This father is very great, more worthy of three college students sons proud, think of this sons will also be for their father's sorrow, will certainly repay their father's 'great kindness', and more will be a hot conscience, to contribute to the country to report to the various levels of government policies to support the people, only to have today's return to school.

Besides; the car is made by man, the house is also built by man, there are talented parties have everything, 'talented' will not worry about 'wealth', this kind of conviction is to adhere to the original heart, right?