People suffering from depression bear great psychological pain, a lot of ordinary people is impossible to feel, and there are even some people think that people with depression is just pretentious, depression is mainly based on depressed mood, they can not control on their own, want to get relief from depression, so that the mood is good you can try the following ways.

Each person's impact on themselves allows them to feedback to the other person an attitude that should vary, but it is incorrect for a depressed person to have the same emotional attitude towards all people, such feedbackTry to make your understanding as clear as possible and correct your attitude towards people and things.

Interest is a prerequisite for doing things consistently, if a person's interest in a single, depressed mood when the mood is bad to fill their own, want to use their own that specialized interest to beat off part of the mood but found that there is no way to do it, soLet the interests be wide-ranging and the good mood have an extra companion.

There's no pain without comparison. Life is your own.Don't always compare your current situation with the state of someone else's life.

Although people with depression are negative and depressed most of the time, there are many lifeunforgettableThings to remember at this time of yearrecord, take it out when you're in a bad mood.

Always repeating the same thing, the same state of affairs, can aggravate one's depression, thereforeTry more environments you've never been in before, and reach out to people you've never met before, keeping the new mood high.

The environment can have an effect on a person, and the people around them can have an effect on one's emotions, too.Engage more with positive and optimistic people, letting their emotions infect themselves.

Work and study are a program of activities for a person soDon't let yourself give up the opportunity to work and learn.Go and take in more new knowledge to enrich your life.

For people with depression, there are many things that can make them depressed and in pain, but since they are already suffering from this mental disorder, they should learn to regulate themselves in this state and not to think of struggling with it all the time. Use some simple and positive ways to keep yourself away from negative emotions as much as possible.

I hope my answer is helpful.

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For the average person, everyone has a way of making themselves feel good. But for a truly depressed person, being happy is not an easy task. Because our human world is actually made up of our brains, and the information that the brain does not receive just does not exist for us as individuals. When we are in a state of depression, even if the warblers are singing and the flowers are smelling good and the world is peaceful, we often do not feel it. At the moment there is a severe lack of dopamine and other chemicals in the brain that transmit happy feelings. Therefore, if you are severely depressed, you need to rely on drugs to adjust the brain's neurotransmitters. When the brain gradually adapts to the normal level of dopamine adjusted by drugs, to feel happy emotions.

The dopamine that gives us the feeling of joy can be found in love and can also be produced in exercise. Love is something that can come and go, even in a hurry. What can put us in control is exercise. Regular and sufficient exercise and a certain amount of sunlight exposure can ensure that happy feelings are produced regularly in our bodies.

When the degree of depression decreases, patients can gradually feel happy emotions, their hobbies in the past can make their hearts happy again, the visit of friends or the company of family members can make them feel warm, and they feel that they can connect with the world, they can consciously adjust themselves and urge themselves to do things that can produce happy feelings.

When choosing to do what makes you happy, also remember to avoid hobbies that put us into passive dependency, such as alcoholism and online gaming. These only allow us to fill an inner void at the time, and when we stop doing them, we are even more empty inside and bounce back worse. And healthy hobbies like talking to old friends, playing soccer, fishing, etc. can make us feel peaceful inside when we stop.

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The main characteristics of depression are low mood, persistent bad mood, vicious cycle of negative thinking, self-blame and self-guilt for past setbacks or bad events, remorseful, full of worries about the future, the world in front of them is gray, a sense of worthlessness, the lack of the meaning of life, no interest in anything, unwillingness to meet people, closed to themselves, not even have the strength to speak, answering the phone becomes a burden, even small things produce great pressure, want to sleep over and never wake up, constantly appearing suicidal thoughts, severe hallucinations, hallucinations and fantasies of people talking to themselves. A small thing also produces great pressure, want to sleep over and never wake up, the constant emergence of suicidal thoughts, serious cases of hallucinations, hallucinations and fantasies of people cursing, talking to themselves in the eyes of others, serious closure of the self will be a state of wooden stiffness, the loss of response to external stimuli, living in their own world (similar to the manifestations of schizophrenia, but the pain experience is very deep) ... ...

In short, depressed people experience pain so severe that life is worse than death, because they are attached to their loved ones but do not choose to die because they are too responsible.

In addition to medication and psychotherapy, self-help and self-growth are important, especially during the recovery phase.

The following recommendations were made

I. Adhere to the medication and maintain the lowest dose of medication after the symptoms have subsided to prevent relapse.

Second, self-healing. Here the main way is by reading specialized books in psychology such as Pop Pop New Emotional Therapies by Berns and the series of books by Martin Seligman. Martin Seligman's pop pop the way to happiness and other series of books. Both of these books use the A-B-C theory of cognitive therapy. For example, if there is half a glass of water on the table, a person who is very eager to drink water after exercise may be very happy to see it, because there is still half a glass of water to quench his thirst, while another person who is also eager to drink water after exercise is very angry, thinking why there is only half a glass of water instead of one, and the other person who is also eager to drink water after exercise is very angry, and thinks why there is only half a glass of water instead of one. half a glass of water instead of one, and has no choice but to drink half a glass of water, but the mood is clearly unpleasant. Therefore, Burns believes that changing the cognitive style is the fundamental solution to the bad state of mind and negative emotions.

So he believes that in order to change C you must first change B. In his book The New Emotional Therapies, he makes extensive use of the A-B-C theory of cognitive therapy, by repeatedly and meticulously explaining the importance of changing cognition, and by offering many ways to change cognition as well. It is also accompanied by a book devoted to occupational therapy.

Changing perceptions doesn't happen overnight, it takes a long time.

Martin L. Seligman discovered the same pathogenesis of depression in rats as in people suffering from depression. Martin Seligman discovered through experiments on rats that rats suffering from depression have the same pathogenesis as people suffering from depression, namely learned helplessness. The depressed rats were unable to get out of the predicament designed for them by the psychologist Martin no matter how hard they tried. As a result, it develops psychological conflict and anxiety, and eventually becomes depressed and powerless, losing its mobility, appetite, and other survival needs. The person suffering from depression is also in a rut for the same reason, because he believes that no matter how hard he tries, he cannot get out of the rut, also a kind of learned helplessness.

So, Martin believes that depression is learned helplessness, a pattern of thinking. The way to change it is to change the mindset by using learned self-help. Since helplessness can be learned, the habit of self-help and optimism can also be learned. So he proposed ways to acquire optimism and a positive mindset.

Specific methods:

1. Three good records.

Record three good things a day, either small things like "It's a beautiful day" or big things like I got my much-awaited college acceptance letter today. It could be something as small as "It's a nice day today" or as big as "I got my eagerly awaited college acceptance letter today". The purpose of this is to change your focus (the bad side of things) so that you can focus on the sunny side of things and look at the positive side of things. Stick with it, and in a few months your mindset will change significantly, and the gray world will become brighter.

2. Gratitude.

Direct your words of thanks to the person who helped you. If you feel embarrassed, write a letter, or e-mail or WeChat, in short, any way you can.

3. Debate the negative perceptions and recognize that your thought patterns are wrong. For example, the second perception of the half glass of water example mentioned above is negative and incorrect. People provide you with half a glass of water, at least temporarily quench your thirst but anger is their own wrong.

Positive psychology is not only for people suffering from depression also for normal people to get a more positive mindset. To live a happier and better life. That's why positive psychology is also called happiness psychology.

II. The psychoanalytic school of self-therapy.

Psychoanalytic theory suggests that people with depression are suffering from subconscious complexes cemented after major traumatic events in early life experiences that have been resurrected by major setbacks and great difficulties or other significant loss behaviors.

So it is necessary to express these emotions through the channel of excretion. The exhalation here can be physical, verbal, even artistic, or more abstract such as representational and imaginative.

Therefore, psychoanalytic therapy chooses various means such as suggestion, hypnosis, imagery, painting, music and so on to let the patient's bad emotions out.

Self-medication can be through various avenues of excretion such as cursing at a wall, breaking rocks, running fast until you are drenched in sweat; it can also be writing one by one to write and burn the emotions that you are unable to express. Painting, music (listening to songs that resonate, classical music, etc.)

In conclusion, helping yourself out of depression is a long process, and with the right approach, you will not only be cured but will gain a better state of mind than you had before. Make yourself more fulfilled and satisfied.

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As a veteran of depression, I can especially understand the struggle, the depression, the loneliness, the abandonment by the world, the lack of interest in anything ......A feeling of engulfment bordering on drowning.And when you try to find someone to talk to or even seek help, you often find that no one understands you. And when you try to find someone to talk to or even ask for help, you often realize: no one understands you, and you feel like there is no one behind you.

Depression is notable for.Lack of psychological pleasure。

The specific symptoms are: an inability to take an interest in eating, shopping, shopping, pastimes ...... Anyway, it is impossible to take an interest in entertainment and everything related to life, not to mention work! A patient once told me that during her depression, she couldn't even get out of bed to cook a meal for her child who was preparing for the midterm exams during her weekend break. As you can imagine, those who can still hold down a job during their illness are basically giving all their physical and mental energy. And there is another problem that plagues many depressed people:Severe insomnia。

Taking myself as an example, before I was officially diagnosed with depression, it was the severe insomnia that reminded me that I couldn't continue working! After 3 consecutive days of sleepless nights and days, I was so disorganized that I was unable to complete very simple tasks during the day or eat, and at night I just stared at the ceiling in trepidation and stayed up until dawn. I tried to rely on alcohol and a lot of exercise to promote sleep, and it was not until I was not able to beat the alcohol and almost vomited up all the support that I realized that I was really sick. And then, one night, I was nearly devastated by insomnia. So my husband took me to the hospital emergency room, the doctor gave me three tablets of sleeping pills, told me to come back to the psychiatric department tomorrow to see, and instructed me: first take half a tablet, can not take another one.

When I got back that day, I didn't go to sleep until I had taken all 3 sleeping pills. I woke up in the morning and the sky was spinning.

I have always been an extremely sensitive, low self-esteem, insecure and bullheaded person. My friends around me say that I am too serious about everything. At work, I am also a stickler for every detail, and I often have friction with my coworkers. These character traits have been given a nice sounding phrase: the pursuit of perfection. But it is precisely this perfectionist tendency that makes many patients, like me, suffer.

Cong Fei never said that:Depression is not a disease, perfection is. Depression is what is used to cure the disease of perfection.

Later, I started to get involved in psychology, enrolled in many courses, read many books, kept exploring myself, and have been doing counseling, learning and growing with many of my fellow patients. Now, although I am still taking medication (microdose), but along the way, looking back on the road of depression, those thorns and thistles that have caused me pain!，Now it is also vaguely fragrant. I also finally understand what it means tolove oneself！

I've even been able to help some of my depressed friends like me at times, heartbreakingly telling them when they have no hope in the world and even want to give up:"I understand how hard it is for you, but trust me no matter what, one day you'll love the world again".

Here are some of my suggestions for people with depression, but if it's more severe:Follow medical advice!

1. Depending on the condition of the patient with depression and taking the advice of the doctor, the patient should decide whether or not to take medication.

You may have been told, "The heart needs a cure"; "Drugs are like opium"; "They just don't work!" ...... But medical research has proved that drugs can reduce anxiety, social fear, panic in depressed patients to a certain extent ...... and other symptoms. My own personal experience is that on the second day of taking the medication, those symptoms of panic, wild heartbeat, fidgeting, and difficulty even breathing, were significantly improved. You know, before that, I went to the hospital three times to prescribe medication, and when I got home, I threw it away. Because I firmly believe in the truth, as I said at the beginning of this paragraph. But unfortunately, medication only works for sixty to seventy percent of patients. So it's not really a surprise if taking medication doesn't work for you.

Therefore, if more serious depression patients, for example, suicidal tendency. It is all the more important to follow the doctor's advice and decide whether to take medication or not, depending on the situation. Because the side effects of drugs are nothing compared to the value of life itself.

2. Find a friend to talk to often, and if conditions permit, find a counselor who is there for the long haul.

One of the causes of depression is the chronic repression of the patient's emotions, that is, the inability to direct the attack externally, and therefore can only be directed internally resulting in self-aggression. So, talking to a friend who knows you well, and who you feel will tolerate you, is a good way to sort out your emotions and break down the foci of repression to some extent. At the very least, you'll know that those emotions of yours are real and are being seen and acknowledged. Otherwise it would have hidden in other ways into our subconscious, causing repression and internalization.

Of course, the ideal way is to find a counselor and seek long-term psychological guidance and companionship. After all, friends and family around us, not professionals, can not provide us with timely and reasonable psychological support, not to mention that many normal people's personality development is not perfect. Therefore, if you want to do more in-depth self-exploration and psychological growth, it is recommended to seek the company of a professional counselor. I am surrounded by friends who have grown a lot and even gained new life experiences through counseling, including myself.

3. read, study, exercise ...... Try to find ways that help you grow mentally and stick to them.

One of the best habits I've gained from having depression is: reading. Because when you're struggling with an illness and don't have a lot of financial resources, reading, a low-cost thing, becomes one of the main ways to help yourself. There are methods in the book that are effective through repeated practice, and there are many patients who have been benefited and even saved as a result.

Once, because of some unpleasantness at work and colleagues, after returning home, depression turned over, even dinner could not eat, and the night was in a painful insomnia. In the middle of the night, I simply climbed up, sat down in front of the desk, picked up a book, and seriously practiced the methods in the book for 2 times to do emotional self-composition, and immediately felt a lot of mood calming. That time was the peak experience of the effect of practicing the methods in the book. Later on, I had more and more of these experiences, and I was often able to recognize my emotions and channel them in time.

So, here is a grand introduction to two books that I hope will help you.

The book The Burns New Emotional Cure has a rating of 8.9 on Douban and is a best-selling self-help book worldwide for 30 years. The author, David . Burns, M.D., Stanford University, is a renowned psychologist and one of the most important developers of cognitive therapy with numerous awards.

The book presents 22 simple and effective principles and techniques that can help us fix our emotional knots in time. The author first introduces the theory and research on depression, as well as cognitive therapy. Then, in terms of practical application, it provides readers with viable methods of self-help through large exercises and quizzes that are more relevant to everyday life. Secondly, the book also introduces many preventive measures and personal growth programs, as well as how to cope with the stresses of daily life, which has helped many patients gain spiritual freedom.

Another highly recommended book is Reconstruction of the Mind.

THE REBUILDING OF THE MIND is as bestselling as the book's cover description suggests: 29 reprints in 20 years. Author Louise Hay, an acclaimed and legendary American woman, spent her childhood in hardship, with her parents divorced at an early age, raped at age five, and abused and mistreated by her stepfather throughout her teenage years. After fleeing to New York City, where she worked as a fashion model and married an English gentleman, but after 14 years her husband moved on, Louise began her life's work in New York City in 1970. Later, Louise was diagnosed with cancer, and she began practicing holistic healing on herself, and after 6 months, the cancer cells actually disappeared!

Many readers of this book have exclaimed that it is incredible. Many of the things that we find impossible in our daily lives are physically corroborated by Louise Hay. As the author firmly believes: our thoughts and beliefs always become reality, and all the pains and pleasures in our lives are entirely self-inflicted. Perhaps after reading this book, you will be able to gain new life enlightenment and rebuild your mind.

If reading books can purify your emotions and optimize your thoughts, then you can also try to enroll in some psychology courses to learn, nowadays the Get App and Ten Points Reading have some courses to help psychological growth. I myself have enrolled in a lot of online and ground classes, where I can see a lot of psychological blind spots ignored by myself and get new healing.

Also, many people recommend exercises such as yoga, running, swimming, etc., which are said to release emotions to some extent ...... All in all, find a reasonable way that you feel will help you, practice it and stick to it.

There is a girl with bipolar disorder on the new issue of "Oddball Assembly", she said that she had changed more than 20 counselors, all of whom were unhappy, because she was looking for the meaning of life, and those counselors could not give her a satisfactory answer. Later, she moved to the United States and asked the same question to a senior psychiatrist with almost no hope, but the answer she got was: you are asking for the meaning of life, what is the meaning of this thing, itself?

--- That's the question and the answer.

I think.Existence itself is the greatest meaning.And meaning, sometimes, is nothing more than a myth that we give it.

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I am a TCM doctor and I have treated several depressed patients while they cured me of my depression.

One of them tuned up a postpartum depressed patient she in turn tuned up my depression.

A year ago, an acquaintance referred her over for acupuncture treatment. Said she had a bit of postpartum depression and insomnia.

The first time I saw her, she was nervous and afraid of needles. I was hardly too sure. Almost two months postpartum, she was very thin, with a dull complexion, two dull eyes, and a wandering trance in her eyes. Insomnia, poor appetite, cold hands and feet, fear of cold, constipation in stools.

After checking my tongue and pulse at that time, I was diagnosed with deficiency of qi and blood and qi stagnation and blood stasis. At that time, my mind suddenly presented a picture:

Autumn and winter in the north, grass and trees withered, rivers dry, gusts of cold wind, whoosh ~ ~ ~ ~. She gives people just one "elephant".

To heal her, you have to give her sunshine, rain and warmth. Dissolve her cold, unify her chi, in short, bring her from the north in the fall and winter to the south, to the spring.

The first reaction was stress, not to mention a friend of the head nurse. At least I have some ideas on how to treat her. The first step to do is to communicate with her first, first let her try a needle, oh, acupuncture was such a feeling, which put down the heart to give me treatment. When the heart is settled, the treatment is effective. This should be what the Neijing says about regulating the mind.

Step 2: First, remove the cold from her body and open up the path. Acupuncture prescription: qi formula, along with stabbing blood in the ear tips to get rid of the pent-up fire. The first goal was to improve sleep first. Went back from the first treatment and wasn't as nervous on the second visit. She said she could sleep a little better, but she still woke up easily and was easily startled by the slightest sound. This time, she was more relaxed, and she could talk to her slowly and actively. Slowly adjust the qi and keep the needle.

Forty minutes to pick up the needle. She said my feet felt so cold. Didn't I get a blanket? Actually, they were covered with towels. When I heard this, I knew there was a reaction, at least there was hope. Explained to her half a day, why the foot will be cold after the needle, in fact, this is the process of cold drainage, but also expected to occur. And so the second treatment went back.

Twice a week, then the third and fourth treatments reacted similarly, with feet still getting cold. On the fifth visit, she said she could basically fall asleep, but still woke up easily, even the sound of a car in the distance would wake her up, and it was hard for her to fall back to sleep when she woke up. I reluctantly said I would think of something else.

In fact, my lack of confidence at that time was somewhat worried that the treatment had entered the plateau area, and such patients are very prone to anxiety and overthinking for fear of recurring conditions.

Arranged her to lie flat on her back and told her to take deep breaths, after five rounds she was mostly relaxed. In order to give her enough sunlight, I'd better needle the Warm Passage Method. A total of four points, slowly into the needle, regulating the qi. When my fourth needle just went in that moment, she ah.

I thought I'd stung her, and it scared me too. What's wrong? Did it hurt? She said, "It's not the pain, Dr. Goat, it's the fact that I suddenly remembered why I was so timid.

Then she began to tell of the time when she was a child and was often boarded up alone in a neighbor's house because her parents were too busy and didn't care much for her, a time when she couldn't sleep at night because she was afraid, and spent the whole night in fear.

Tears were streaming down her face as she spoke. I responded to her words as I went along, coaxing her to continue. Originally, the needle was to be left in place for fourteen minutes, and she was to lie still, but this time when the needle was left in place, she talked about her childhood, almost for half an hour, and I sat next to her and listened to her. While listening to her, I got a sense of what was going on in my heart.

She was saved from this disease. That last needle going down was like opening the lock that closed her subconscious mind. With a clunk, the lock opened and the contents clattered out ......

It turned out that what was done through counseling and psychotherapy could be done through acupuncture. After that treatment, she stopped coming.

Then also slowly forget, there is a period of time, the work feel every day is a copy, and encountered a lot of things do not go well, I also emotional depression. I don't know how to solve the problem, really can't heal themselves press ah.

It was the week I was depressed that I saw her again in the hallway of the department. She had a big smile, yikes, Dr. Goat you still work here, thought you were gone.

I'm surprised to see you! I said, "Yeah, I'm here all the time. She used the word "surprised". I asked, "It's been a long time, how are you doing? How are you doing?

She said, after the last treatment, I am much better. Then later went to work, until now every day is very busy, eat and sleep everything is good, the body of other things are not too big problem.

Just a little less fit, I have some free time in the meantime and would like to come back and tone up and regulate. I said, you look thinner, but in good spirits.

She smiled and I smiled back.

What did I see in that moment?

I see a big sunflower blooming toward me on a bright spring morning with a warm breeze. It was like a little sun. Just like that, my depressed half-month mood suddenly brightened up. The recent period of depression was dispelled by a smile from this patient.

Everyone or more or less has some depression at times, it's just that some things, and some people help us, to drive it away...

I hope you'll read through this one soon too, sometimes it just takes a little time and chance...

Depressed mood, if you want to get relief as soon as possible, then you should find the root cause of depression. If it is a problem in the family of origin, then you should have a calm communication with your family to eliminate the problem as soon as possible.

If you are in a depressed mood in the middle of your work, you should also take the initiative to communicate, and if there is really no way to solve the problem, you can use your silence to deal with the polishing of the years.

Everyone should learn to make friends with themselves, accept their own imperfections, accept the imperfections in life, make peace with themselves, relax their ego, let go of themselves and reconcile with themselves, which is a good way to solve the depressing mood.

If you can have a friend of the soul, it is best to communicate more, if you still feel too depressed, I recommend going to a regular tertiary hospital to do a psychological test to see if it makes a change in depression.

If you are suffering from depression, then get treated in a proper hospital and you will get relief soon.

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Hello subject!Depression is a mental disorder, we are all mortal, we can't escape the influence of our seven emotions, naturally we can't escape the influence of our emotions on us, when pessimism starts to take control of our behavior, this is the beginning of depression.As a former depression sufferer, I'm sharing my experience with you in hopes that it will help you in your current predicament.

First, find the cause.Chinese medicine treatment process emphasizes the "root cure", and depression as an emotional disease, also need to be rooted in order to achieve results. As the saying goes: "Heart disease also needs heart medicine. We first find the root cause of our mood swings, where you know best why you are depressed and why you are unhappy. Please face it, just like treating a pustule, squeeze the moment a little pain, but after squeezing it is immensely comfortable. Find the "pustule" that affects your mood and squeeze it out.

Second, treatment.Although the "pus bag" has been squeezed out, it is still far from being cured, and only through further treatment can you get rid of the disease. Just now just found the cause of the disease, face your deepest problems, and then we have to eliminate some of the negative effects of depression. The most immediate ones are low mood, suspicion, lack of self-confidence and possible slowing down. The usual approach is to face up to yourself, encourage yourself daily, take the initiative to make friends and chat, and be active outdoors. Chat with people who know how to listen, talk about what you are good at, and slowly build up your self-confidence, so that you can look back and see that depression is just that.

Third, solid healing.That's where we come in, extending the second part of this article, by creating a regular and scientific routine to ensure that you're in good spirits the next day. Regular socializing with friends makes you talkative and confident. A healthy body is the foundation of your defense against all illnesses and diseases.

The above three points are summarized from my two-year struggle with depression, or as the saying goes, someone else's will always be someone else's, and when you find you can't solve it by yourself, turn to your doctor, there's always someone who can help you out.