In reality, the difference between taking a daughter and taking a son after a divorce is not so much on the male side. For the woman's side, on the other hand, the difference is very obvious.
For the man, it is normal for him to take his son with him after the divorce - I have a successor! If he has the means, he will take another wife; if it is difficult to get a wife, it is not a big problem if he doesn't - as long as he puts in some effort to raise his son, get married and have children. Then the lineage of the family will be passed on. Life is short, grass and trees are short. The vast majority of people do not seek to spread their leaves, pass on the family name, and prosper, right? Although it seems a little vulgar, but you take a closer look: more than ninety-nine percent of the people, are not all like this?
The situation would be different if the man had only brought a daughter. The traditional culture in Chinese society is that men are superior to women. Again, ten thousand times the equality of men and women, in front of the deep-rooted habits and traditions, you also have to admit: in many cases, no son to inherit the flame, is extinct. Don't make up all those empty words that daughters are also blah, blah, blah. Let me ask you one thing - have the daughters inherited the male Y-chromosome genes?
Therefore, in the absence of a son, the vast majority of men will find a way to marry and have children. In order to pass on their lineage of blood.
See? There's a big difference between taking a son and taking a daughter after a divorce for the man!
And for the other party to the marriage, the woman, the difference between taking a daughter or a son after the divorce is as big as ever.
Five years ago, the second daughter of a neighbor's family, instigated by her brothers and sisters, had daily trouble with her in-laws. Many times, she made unreasonable demands (such as taking money and goods to support her mother's family. And the amount can easily be tens of thousands of dollars). Can not meet the requirements, then threatened to divorce. Finally, in court and insisted on a son (inner purpose is to know the other side wants a son, hoping to blackmail each other a sum). I did not expect the other party insisted that after the sudden hand. "The woman's mind".
After the woman's divorce, at least a dozen men came to her door to meet her. But to this day, she still can't get married. One of the main reasons is that no one wants to raise a son for someone else. I personally heard the matchmaker say about her family: if she had a daughter, she would be fine if she got married when she was older. If you have a daughter, you can marry her when she gets older, and then you'll be fine. If you have a son, you'll have to marry him when he gets older. He won't be able to make it without a million or so dollars. If we spend so much money, the offspring won't be ours. What's the point?
That's the biggest difference between bringing up a daughter after a divorce and a son.

There is a big difference between divorcing with a daughter, and with a son.

Male divorce, with daughters, that indicates that there is no one to follow in the footsteps, remarriage and then children will appear to be more intense; with sons, there is someone to follow in the footsteps, the desire to remarry is not so urgent and strong, and not so anxious to have children. The male divorced with a son seems to be better than with a daughter. This is related to the male superiority and female inferiority, patriarchal ideological customs. Sons can pass on the family name and honor their ancestors, while daughters are married off.

When a woman divorces, taking a daughter is preferable to taking a son. In particular, when a divorced woman chooses to remarry, she is often disliked for taking her son with her and is regarded as an obstacle and a burden. When a woman takes her daughter with her, she has no worries about marrying out when she is older, and it is beneficial. A son is a very different matter, and there are many concerns. It is difficult for a family to tolerate people with three surnames, and there are a lot of problems. There is a difference between men and women, and there is also a difference between men and women who divorce and take their children with them. If a woman divorces and remarries with a child, there will be many conflicts in the future, and unless she doesn't marry and focuses on her child, she will be in a lot of trouble. If a woman is divorced with a child, there will be fewer conflicts and less trouble, and it will be much easier to choose and marry.

I have seen a woman divorced with a child, and then chose to marry a man divorced with a daughter. Two years later, the woman with a child and the man with a woman and married a pair, and then the divorced man with a divorced woman with a child, the child with a child and the woman married with a child, so that the relationship is quite complicated, I do not know how to call it more appropriate and better some?

Divorce with daughters and sons is very different, with daughters to grow up and get married, do not have to buy a car, buy a house, but also to collect the dowry money of the man, the economic pressure is basically no, only limited to maintenance only.

If you bring your son to adulthood, you will have to buy him a car, a house, and pay the bride price, which is too much of a financial burden.

For this reason, most of the men who choose to remarry will choose to take their daughters, divorced or widowed women for the most part, are not interested in taking their sons, if the parents are divorced, the children will grow up to recognize their own fathers, so it is not possible to get remarried men, for their mothers and children for nothing to work all their lives, and in the end, it is not good, and the result is a pathetic end.

To answer your question, "Is there a difference between a divorce with a daughter and a human son?" There is a big difference.

First of all, you have to remarry, with a son, remarriage, is a major obstacle to your reorganization of the family, in general, the man does not like the boy, one is the economic pressure, pay more, less return. Secondly, the boy's desire to recognize his ancestor is strong, and the boy's is very escape, not good management and communication, hatred of the stepfather, the family is difficult to integrate.

Girls have less to do, are obedient, are less burdensome to raise, are easy to communicate with, and girls are dependent and marry once they reach legal age. So there is a big difference between divorcing with a son and with a daughter, and the reality is there.

Xiao Mei, after more than 5 years of divorce, has finally remarried with her son. When she called me to tell me the news of her remarriage, I was very happy for her. With an 8-year-old son, she was able to find someone who was willing to combine her family with hers, and as a friend, we know how hard it is!

Back then, she and her husband divorced for a reason:

The conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is acute, and the mother-in-law always interferes in the couple's affairs. The most outrageous thing is that her mother-in-law even asked her husband to beat her, saying, "A woman, you have to beat her twice more. If she doesn't listen, clean her up a few more times, and she'll be honest."

Perhaps it has something to do with the loss of her husband in middle age, her ex-mother-in-law, who was known as a strong, powerful woman in the village.

That said, her mother-in-law was a poor woman. Before she was 30 years old, her husband died of an illness. She was a woman with two sons in tow.

Back then, she wanted to find another man who could help her raise the two sons together. However, as soon as the men saw her dragging her two sons with her, they were so frightened that they hurriedly fled.

So many times, she also completely died. Since it can t rely on others, it can only be the test itself.

In order to raise these two sons, she, a former mother-in-law, had done every kind of work. As long as there was money to be made, she went for the hardest, the tiredest and the dirtiest jobs.

It was not easy for her to survive until her two sons got married and had children, and it was time for her to enjoy her blessings.

Mei married a husband who was the oldest in the family. They have been married for over 8 years and their ex-mother-in-law has been living with them.

As long as she spends a little to buy something, her ex-mother-in-law will talk about it. As soon as she took something for her mother's family, her mother-in-law would beat her up, saying that she was supporting her mother's family. ......

These, she tolerated. But she absolutely couldn't stand the fact that her mother-in-law had her ex-husband beat her over and over again.

The last time, the beating landed her in the hospital for a week.

Discharged from the hospital, she insisted on a divorce.

At first, her ex-husband insisted that he would not give her the child. But she insisted on having the child and giving the house and car to the man.

It went to court twice, and in the end, the son was given to her, and she netted the link to pay poor child support without asking the man to pay.

Life after divorce:

After the divorce, she moved back to her mother's house with her son.

In her mother's family, there were two siblings. She has an older brother above her, who is married with two children and lives with his parents.

At first, when she returned to her mother's home with her son, her sister-in-law was fine with it. However, after living there for half a year, her sister-in-law began to dislike her. And, she thought her son was naughty and the three children always fought.

Her sister-in-law can't afford to kick her out outright, so she's always looking for reasons to fight with her brother and throw shade at her parents.

She stayed at her mother's house, for about ten months, and had no choice but to move out and rent a house with her son.

In the years after her divorce, she went on n number of blind dates, some men, disliked her divorced status. Some men, divorced themselves, did not mind that she was divorced, but once they saw her with a son, the man did not even pay alimony. Scared and fled in a hurry.

Actually, we can understand men who are scared away. Nowadays, it is not easy to raise a child. Especially boys, later raised, but also have to come out of the bride price money, buy a house and so on, the pressure is enormous.

That's why she was divorced for over 5 years before she finally remarried.

Her current one, too, is divorced with a child. Only, the man with a little girl. Before the two of them got a marriage license, it was clearly agreed that the two children, as if they were their own, could not favor any one of them. After the marriage, they will have another child.

In fact, she almost planned to spend the rest of her life alone!

She once said to us, "I am divorced with a son, and others dislike me for fear that my son will be dragged into it, and that I will have to buy a house, a car and a wife for my son. I understand all this. If others dislike me, I also dislike them. If I remarry, I certainly won't look for a man with a son. I have a son, he has a son, and after I get married, I will have to have another son, which is horrible to think about. If I'm destined to live in stress and tragedy in the future, then I might as well live well alone with my son."

Beside me, there is another neighbor. She is also divorced and remarried. However, unlike Mei, she divorced with a girl. On a blind date, the other person didn't have much to say.

There is another colleague who is a man. His daughter-in-law was said to have let grasslands grow on his head back then, and he could not stand it anymore, so he got a divorce. He is a son, and he has a strong sense of tradition, believing that his son is the one who carries on the family line in his own family, so how can he be taken away for the woman? Therefore, her husband insisted on Yao Ze's son.

After the divorce, he remarried quickly. The remarried daughter-in-law was divorced with a girl. He said, "I myself have a son with me, so I definitely won't look for another divorcee with a son. If I remarry, I can only look for a childless one, or at most one with a daughter. Divorced woman with a son is, I resolutely can not want!"

Therefore, the key to whether there is a difference between taking a daughter and a son in a divorce also depends on whether the party taking the child is a man or a woman! If it's the man, it doesn't make much of a difference whether it's a son or a daughter. However, for the woman, with the son later remarried, it is more difficult, and also very easy to lead to remarriage family conflicts!

Divorced with a 5 year old son, ready to go on a blind date, but getting disliked everywhere. And I plan to never get married in my life, that's the reality. The following is a friend's true story.

My name is Xiaoli and I come from the rural area of Guangdong. I have a five-year-old son, two years ago and ex-husband divorced. When we divorced, my ex-husband asked me to leave my son with him, but I didn't agree, I felt that if the child didn't have a mother to take care of him, he would become more lonely.

A child is a piece of a mother's heart and a piece of her own flesh, so through the law, I gained custody of my son.

I was convinced that as long as I put my heart and soul into raising my son , all other problems would not be a problem . But I realized that I was too simple.

The first month after the divorce, I couldn't go to work with my son because the child was just three years old and my mother's family was far away from home. My parents were also helping my younger brother with their two children.

I finally realized that I can't do anything alone with my child, and I was forced to send my child to a daycare center.

Because of the divorce, I do not dare to go back to the old family , because everyone knows that if the old family also knows that you are divorced, it will look at you with all kinds of colored eyes.

I found a job in the neighborhood with free time so that it would be easier to take care of the kids. But the income was small and gradually I felt I could not make ends meet.

Then I got another job but couldn't take care of the child. At this time I discussed with my mother's family to put the child back and give him 2,000 dollars a month for living expenses. My mother's family saw that I had no choice, so they agreed.

Two years have passed and I have not found the right person . Nor have I said I want to find one because the damage from my first marriage was too great . I think I have developed a fear of marriage .

At the New Year this year, my family thought that it was not a good idea for me not to get married because I was already so old. And with a son, life is particularly difficult.

So I promised my family to go on a blind date at the beginning of the year, and guess what, the guy I went on the blind date with was in his forties. And he also has a son and a daughter.

I'm only 28 years old and a decade younger than him. People who didn't know thought they were father and daughter. But the results surprised me when I said I have a five-year-old son. But the other side said he could not talk about it, the original he felt that the cost of raising a son is too high, and it is not his own son.

Especially in the rural areas of Guangdong, people around you will look at you in a different way. In the words of this place, it's the most humiliating thing to bring a tortoise.

So we were both unsuccessful in our blind dates and had no choice. My son gradually felt the lack of father's love, and I was anxious to find someone to replace his father's role for him.

I've been on five blind dates, but every time people hear that I have a son, they avoid me. A lot of people say it would be fine if it was a daughter, after all, girls get married when they grow up.

And I think in terms of bringing up a son, it would really be a far cry , mothers simply can't replace the kind of confidence and bravery that fathers have in bringing up a bit of a boy.

After failure after failure, after dating, I may not be up for it . Maybe I'll just live my life slowly with my son .

No matter how hard life is, if I had to choose again, I would still choose to bring up my son. Even being a single mom is pretty good .

I have two neighbors, one married off with her daughter and the other with her son, and the difference in life is so obvious.

Her neighbor, Ms. A, had a very happy family, a very loving husband, a smart and cute daughter, and very kind and open-minded in-laws.

But a car accident a few years ago changed Neighbor A's happy and peaceful life.

One day, the husband worked late, in the drive home on the road by a speeding through the red light of the dump truck hit the back, the scene of the accident is tragic. The car was scrapped and the husband died on the spot.

The house was bought by the in-laws before the marriage, and now although the son has passed away and is no longer with us, the granddaughter is only a year old. There was no lawsuit over the property. The in-laws said that the daughter-in-law does not remarry, the house has been living, if remarried, it will be recovered, leaving the granddaughter in the future. Compensation for all the money left to the daughter-in-law and granddaughter. This is reasonable and sensible, and both sides understand each other.

Three years later, A met the right man to remarry. Took her daughter and married him. She returned the house to her in-laws and saved the compensation for her daughter. A said that her daughter's father had left it to her, and she would not touch a cent of it. Now she has a son after the marriage. I have a son, and I have a son and a daughter, and I have a son and a daughter. I often take my daughter to visit her grandparents. Although life has been unfortunate, I have survived.

Neighbor B, a bad husband and wife, divorced and awarded her son's house to her ex-husband, with visitation rights and no alimony. A few years after the divorce, she met a widowed man in our neighborhood and married him the year before last. The man has a son and a daughter, B married in, at first the man's children quite care, although there is a component of ingratiation, but also for the sake of family harmony and happiness.

Maybe B felt that she had been running the business for more than a year and the family status was a bit more stable, so she took her son, who was studying in junior college, over to live with her for a while during the summer vacation last year, and also wanted to fulfill her duty as a responsible mother. So every day in different ways to cook delicious food for the children to eat. Children are happy to eat, the husband ate the face of green, to throw out B's son, said he where to support the three and a half-year-old child, and then there are children have children and do not expect outsiders to old age. Look at the back of the son left B sad for a long time. When I thought about it, my heart was also cold. However, the second marriage is less than two years, is it again divorced? In the end, B did a smart man, no longer deliberately to please, only to do their part. Put more time and energy in the work to earn money. She has to plan for her future retirement.

Original #Divorce with a daughter vs. a son is there a difference male? Of course there is, and it's a big difference!

First of all, let's talk about people's thinking and vision. Most people have been influenced by the feudalism for thousands of years, and they always think that having a son is the most noble thing to do, and it is a symbol of passing on the family name to the next generation and honoring the ancestors, and a few young people in the new era also have such a viewpoint, as if a man is a man who can stand up to the heavens and the earth, and a woman is a small daughter-in-law, and she is not as good as a man...

Nowadays, with the development of society and the passage of time, from a certain environment and the meaning of survival and real life, women really take up [half the sky] their ability, vision, learning and thinking is not worse than men, or even better than men, there will be leftover women stick men.

In the other hand, women are far kinder than men (except for a few, of course) from the point of view of fickleness and kneading, otherwise Mother's Day and March 8 Women's Day would lose their significance!

In today's society, in terms of survival and life, raising a son is better than raising a daughter, because women are almost like a mother-in-law, and in them, you can see the essence of love and care, but boys are different, even if they want to be filial sons, but what about after marrying? Even if a boy wants to be a filial son, what happens after he marries his wife? As the saying goes, when you get a daughter-in-law, you forget about your mother, and nowadays, most men suffer from the problem of being overbearing with their wives, so it is not easy for them to get a daughter-in-law.

From the social point of view, the male child shoulders a double mission, to protect the family and the country is the first thing that is obligatory, but from the family life situation, the pressure to raise a daughter or bring up a daughter and the prevention of old age space is big, this is my personal opinion, do not like the person without spraying, go around as a thank you [prayers] [prayer] [prayers] [heart]

Divorce with a daughter and with a son is still a big difference, there are four main cases:Women with sons or daughters, and men with sons or daughters. Today, the main difference between a woman with a son and a daughter.

In the case of reorganizing a family with a divorced person with children, there are many problems, such as the family name, whether the couple is sincere or living together, the family finances, and so on.

With the ordinary people women with sons, can be said to be the most difficult, first of all, it is difficult to remarry, men are most reluctant to touch is a woman with a son, not only to raise a child for others, but also to buy a house to marry a wife to send the bride price, and finally have to bear the risk of being abandoned. There are many such examples in real life.

The ones with daughters are much better, and men are for the most part okay with women with daughters because the girls grow up to be married and don't have a major impact on the couple.

Finally, we still want to advise unmarried men and women, marriage must be careful, with children can not divorce as much as possible do not divorce, divorce to the child caused by the great impact.

There is a difference, and there is a difference between targeting men and women.

Divorce of a man with a daughter

From the mainstream social point of view, the burden of men with daughters is a little lighter, on the whole, girls compared to boys to bring a little better, less naughty, generally to be married in adulthood, the burden is not too much, and for remarriage has little impact.

Divorced man with son

The burden is a little heavier compared to bringing up a daughter, as the son has to bear the burden of the son's marriage matters when he becomes an adult, especially the bride price house and car, but the impact on remarriage is also more limited.

Divorced woman with daughter

Because of the mainstream thinking of society, after divorce, the woman lives in her mother's home for a shorter period of time, and most of them finally have no choice but to rent a room outside, and the economic pressure is a little bit bigger compared to the man. The impact on remarriage is also more limited.

Divorced woman with son

In addition to the same burden with the daughter, but also to consider the child as an adult, to buy a house for their marriage and other burdens, especially the woman remarried, the man is more mindful of the woman with the son, from the man's psychological and economic feeling of the burden is too heavy, and in the future, the son may not recognize the stepfather, from the point of view of personal interests, the loss outweighs the gain and it is a more troublesome problem.