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In the first generation of one-child families, parents are already in their twilight years; the reality of childless elderly people is by no means small. Elderly care is definitely a problem that will be faced not only by individual families but by society as a whole in the next 20 to 30 years.

It is the choice of the elderly themselves whether to let nature take its course or to plan ahead. Different choices will determine the quality of life and the dependence of the elderly in their twilight years. Here I just want to tell the elderly: letting nature take its course is not the only choice.

• To let nature take its course is in fact to rely on the "sky" to eat. Have only child, hope on the children filial piety, the elderly are willing to trouble children, children have the ability to support the support conditions; no children, hope on the law, policy; the worst, can only take one step, when things say - in fact, you will find that, no matter what the situation, the elderly heart is not solid, the elderly is no In fact, you will find that no matter what the situation is, the old people are not at ease in their hearts, and they have no right of initiative. Whether or not they can enjoy their twilight years is a matter for others to decide.
• Advance planning, the elderly to take the initiative in their own hands in their old age - old age, in fact, really rely on their own, do not rely on those nebulous, uncontrollable factors above.

How do you take the initiative?Seniors are advised to focus on planning for four things: a body, a mind, a sum of money, and a person。

One body

I believe that everyone can understand the rationale. Good health, comfort for yourself, less burden for your children, two birds with one stone, why not?

Here I hope that the elderly must set up a concept: people to this age, do not have any more lofty pursuit, as long as they live in peace and good health, is the greatest contribution to the family and society.

If you are physically fine, don't be careless, after all, your body parts are aging. Pay attention to your lifestyle, diet and exercise. Don't be anxious if your body is in trouble. It's normal to have problems with your body parts, so just be open about it.

A state of mind.

Whether you have a good life or not, your body and mind are equally important. Don't think that health problems are all physical problems, I'm afraid that psychology and mindset account for more weight. Nothing to go out more often, meet people, see the scene, think of the youth of the rags and now prosperous, lament the life so far is not easy and the development and progress of society, will let their state of mind to open up a lot of health and longevity will be of great benefit.

If the body and the mind are more "empty", there are two other things that are concrete, actionable, and critical - the body and the mind.

lump sum

This money refers to the property used by the elderly for their old age.

Money, important; grasping it in one's own hands, very important; how to use that money, even more important - learn to make that property protected, disciplined, and stimulating.

• protected.. Advise the elderly: property, is used to protect themselves, not to share, used to pass on. Therefore, the only thing to do is: property, when you are alive, tightly grasp in their own hands, do not easily move, and do not think to make money. This age, enough on the line, capital preservation is more important than anything, more useless.
• constrainedThe money is going to be passed. Is the money going to pass? Definitely. Whether it's with or without children, the money always has to go somewhere. So why not use the money to constrain others while you're still alive? Those who have children and those who don't can use it in the same way - if you support me, I'll leave you the money; if you don't, I'll donate it.
• irritating. Irritation means, I'll give you this money, but I won't give it to you now until you do what needs to be done. Remember, it's unchanging human nature for anyone to be profit-seeking.

These three purposes can be achieved, specifically, by means of a will or by means of a legacy support agreement. None of these are troublesome to achieve and are relatively well established.

one person

The "person" is not the child or another person, but the role of "guardian".

Here involves a thing that many people are not very cognizant of - many people think that the elderly can just have money and can make their own arrangements, the big deal is to hire people to serve and live in nursing homes, is not it enough?

This perception is, at least, half wrong.

What happens when an elderly person can't make his own arrangements? What do you do when you're in a coma? What do you do when you have Alzheimer's? Who do you look to? Doctors? A nursing home? The community? A nanny? Or even ungrateful children? ...... can tell you very responsibly: don't count on anyone, the only one you can count on is the "guardian".

A guardian is a "person" who can take the place of an elderly person and make decisions in his or her favor when the elderly person is unable to do so himself or herself.

• Children are the legal guardians of their parents.
• If a child is unfilial, or if he or she is unable to fulfill his or her filial duties by his or her side, or if he or she has no children, the elderly person may appoint a person whom he or she trusts to be his or her guardian.

This designation is called "guardianship by intent" - you may have time to learn about it. I personally think that this is one of the most important policies in recent years for the elderly. This is the only way to enable the elderly to truly realize active dependence instead of passive support.

Therefore, for those elderly people who have the mentality of letting nature take its course, the above points can be ignored; but for those who have the initiative, it is very important to plan ahead and take the initiative to do so. As for other issues, such as what to do if they have housing but no money, whether they should stay at home or live in a nursing home, and so on, they do not involve the fundamentals of old age and can be solved through operation.

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We are also an only child, a daughter. Bless their two mouths down the day the body to be healthy, really worried about their own health is not good, in addition to the pain, live without quality, but also affect the husband, children. Nowadays, young people are busy with their own work, children are also small, if we two parents are not good health, enough to make them tired, I believe that time they have the heart to do ah! So the question of how to retire in the future, do not dare to think. Let nature take its course! I just hope that the two mouths of the body slowly grow old, less disease, do not drag loved ones.

First of all, you have to take care of yourself, lest you get sick, to the point where you can't move when you live in a nursing home, with the development of society, the nursing home will become more and more perfect, there are private nursing homes, there are public nursing homes, nursing homes have a health care practitioner, the big disease will be in the hospital.

My parents have three of us, two sons and one daughter, the mother has died, the old father can not move, who wants to take care of every day? I go home every day to watch, he is bent on thinking that those half a month to see once is good ...... I have no children, and do not expect this! I can move a day to live a day.

The problem of old age is the same with or without children. Perhaps the old age of the elderly is even more problematic when there are many children to earn an inheritance.

It is indeed a big problem! Think about it, how can an only child face four elderly people and bear the burden of caring for them when they are sick! Whose home is it better to go to. And then there's the question of how an only child can take care of an elderly person when he or she is sick himself or herself. Not to mention the childless elderly!

I was at the mercy of the Government. At that time, the government propaganda was that it was good to have only one child at a time, so that the government would take care of the elderly in the future.

Even with children do not necessarily count on, only to protect their own health less sick Do their own favorite things, have their own savings, is now a common phenomenon, used to be the children to prevent old age, with the development of society, progress, there will be a new way of old age, live in the moment!