Are your girlfriend's parents dead? Doesn't she have any savings? You haven't got a marriage license yet, why are you lending her money? Why don't her family go borrow money from relatives and friends! You're on your own. Grow a brain!

The fact that a family needs to rely on the sister's mouth to borrow money for medical treatment shows that the family is burdened. Marry or don't marry.

Analyze it first:

One, it's not wrong to be sick, everyone wants to be healthy, but there are always accidents.

Secondly, borrowing money is not wrong, whoever lives a life has a step and three urgency.

Thirdly, it is wrong not to have savings, but to worry about the near future.

Fourth, borrowing money from your boyfriend is wrong, and borrowing money from your boyfriend for your brother is even more wrong.

To summarize, your girlfriend's family of origin:

Lower quality, very burdensome, no dignity, no understanding of the human condition.

Think twice before you go or stay.

Lend money to others really want to see each other character, ability to ➕ debit vouchers, do not just listen to what people say, lend money the moment maybe she really want to marry you, a few months after a year or two after it, people's minds are not fixed, married to divorce, and then a lot of people do not mean to become a scoundrel, helpless to overestimate their own ability, so many times not enough to make ends meet to become a scoundrel, I am typical of the 😳, to do the surgery may be really short of money have no other way to talk to you! Borrow, I do not know how to do, bless her brother surgery, healthy and happy life! Thank you!

Borrowing money to spend on a house is not borrowing, but it's a life saver yeah.

According to you, are boyfriend and girlfriend, and further, is the object of marriage. For the possible future brother-in-law, in the case of the ability, you do not want to borrow, or people? To a cold and unaffectionate person, who still dare to entrust the life to you? Some people may say, can find someone else to borrow, boyfriend and girlfriend refused to borrow, find more others have drama.

Of course, a bridge is a bridge, and since it's a loan, the procedures for borrowing money are followed. Normal and sensible, really need urgent money, she will certainly be in accordance with the normal procedures. Is not a scam, you should also have a number, and then not, you can borrow to visit the hospital to see the situation, one can give each other a good impression, two can explore the truth. In addition to your motives are not pure, did not run to the main marriage to go. I believe that you are not that kind of person, just a petty no opinion people only.

Girlfriend's brother for surgery, to borrow money from you, on the surface is a "money" problem, the real is a human problem.

Sick, this is very normal, surgery is also very normal, but to borrow tens of thousands of dollars from you, it is a little abnormal, why do you say so? Listen to me slowly:

Is your girlfriend's family just their siblings, no parents.

If this is the case, it is understandable. However, in the family without parents, is not more should know life is not easy, usually will be more thrifty, focus on savings it! Of course, it may also be a serious illness , not so much money, so find you to borrow, if so, it is understandable, you should help them, after all, is your girlfriend's brother sick well.

Your girlfriend has two parents and is in good condition.

If that's the case, then nine times out of ten he's testing you by borrowing money from you to pay for her brother's medical treatment and surgery, and saying he'll marry you later, lol! That's what I think.

On the one hand, it means that your girlfriend's family is not assured that you, her parents do not recognize you, you have to be more cautious in the future, a good performance, otherwise, the chicken and egg is also possible; on the other hand, your girlfriend may be stepping on two boats, she is under the final determination to go on with who is good, borrowing money is just an excuse.

Your girlfriend's family is not well off and cannot afford to pay for her brother's medical bills.

If this is the case and you like your girlfriend, you should help them in any way you can, it's the best chance you can touch her and she'll die for you. Hehe! Of course, if you do not like her so much, then you can according to their own situation, appropriate to help a little is also necessary, after all, is your current girlfriend well.

That's my answer, I don't know if it helps you or not. One thing, in life, it is necessary to do good deeds once in a while, so you can see for yourself!

If you have already established that you are friends and you know your girlfriend's character, then you can lend it to her, saving a life is better than building a seven-floor pagoda! Good intentions will be rewarded.

You saved your girlfriend's brother's life, which means that your girlfriend's parents couldn't borrow the money, and out of desperation, your girlfriend asked you for it.

You gave your girlfriend the money, showing that you have the responsibility, you have the ability to solve the emergency, your girlfriend's parents will be relieved to give their daughter to you, your girlfriend's parents will not dare to talk about the bride price.

There are many excuses for borrowing money, the key to see what the situation is? Your girlfriend so far and you estimate that there is no marriage, just a verbal promise may marry you later, so do not easily believe that such words, most can not be relied upon. You can reply to her your brother is not my brother-in-law for the time being, there are difficulties in their own way to solve, if the future is a family will certainly help, so that the reason is sufficient.

You're not stupid, and hard earned, not to borrow for proper, tens of thousands of dollars is not a small amount of money, promised to marry you in the future, do not believe that this, the future does not want to marry you, to ask her back are problems, for tens of thousands of dollars in court, time-consuming and not necessarily win the case. Then she will say it is a gift during the relationship. Unless she made an IOU and you have it in hand.

Do not borrow money, the girlfriend blew up; borrow her money, but also married, the money can not get back; borrow her money, not married, the back is absolutely ripped off.So, what exactly should we do? Let's hear it in detail.

First, read the girlfriend's voice outside the string

All other factors aside, just analyzing your girlfriend's words is profound.

• First, the girlfriend's proposal should be the result of her family's discussion.If your girlfriend's brother is having an operation, even if you need to use money, it's definitely the first thing her parents worry about. Your girlfriend can't possibly take over the responsibility and make up her own mind. She borrowed money from you, must be the result of discussion with the family, at least she told her parents about their own ideas, and her parents agree.

• Secondly, there is no intention of repaying the money borrowed from you.We all know that you borrow money from others, certainly to say that after borrowing money, when to return, to interest, and so on. However, your girlfriend said, to borrow money from you, but also said later to marry you. The meaning of this is very obvious, later is a family, borrowing money is a euphemism, later is certainly not return.

Your girlfriend's strings are advancing her dowry.

Second, the girlfriend borrowed money, you should do in the end?

A girlfriend borrowing money in this situation is a tricky thing to do.Handle it badly, and the chicken may fly away and end up with a basket of water.So, what the hell to do? I think you have three choices.

• First, don't lend money, give condolences.If you don't want to borrow this money, but you want to keep your girlfriend, your brother-in-law is hospitalized.You can visit and give a certain amount of sympathy. Three and a half thousand, or some other amount, within your means.The heart is there, and even if you don't end up with a girlfriend, you won't be heartbroken over the money.

• Second, borrow money and follow the program.You have to understand that the relationship you have with your girlfriend right now is just a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, not a husband/wife relationship yet.Although she said, she will marry you later, but who can pack a bag for the future.Married to you, became a family, also okay to say, at most a little bit of heart.If you're not married, what's the final word on this money? Did you help them or did they borrow it? How do you prove it?So, if you want to lend to them, then you have to fulfill the formalities and make an IOU, first the little man, then the gentleman.

• Third, don't borrow money and say it's difficult.If you don't want to borrow this money, or find it difficult, then you just cry poor. If your girlfriend, as a result, breaks up with you, then it just goes to show that your girlfriend is perhaps not worth dating. Because, she's not smoothing out the relationship.In short, if you don't borrow money, be firm in your attitude and polite in your words.

All three of these options need to be talked about in the context of your situation.If you have money and don't care, then you can just give it to her. If you have limited means, then it is still advisable to think twice before doing so.

Third, the attitude of talking about money, not ambiguous and unclear

You and your girlfriend, right now, are just normal friends.Ordinary friends, then talk about money as ordinary friends.

She's able to go beyond her current relationship and talk to you about money like this.You mustn't squirm and be embarrassed that you don't have a clear attitude.This, on the contrary, tends to cause conflicts between the two sides.

Combined with your actual situation, after you choose your course of action, you talk to each other about your ideas. Ideas said, if your girlfriend can think differently, certainly can understand.

Talk about money purely and simply, and don't get involved in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that you're not sure about yet.This way, your attitude, it's clear!

Finally, after my analysis, then a comprehensive answer to your question. My girlfriend's brother is having an operation, and she wants to borrow tens of thousands of dollars from me, and says she will marry me later, what should I do?

First, it is clear from your girlfriend's words that the money, nominally borrowed, will not actually be repaid.

Second, you can give condolences without borrowing money. Or borrow money, follow the procedure and write an IOU. Or don't lend the money and say it's difficult.

Thirdly, when you talk about money, you have to have a clear attitude, and you can't mix it with other relationships, throwing in the towel and making things difficult.