Those who find money want to have a son are thinking of divorce, where is the pain, can enjoy the pleasure of a few women, why would you say it is pain? For that kind of person is not responsible for the family is no pain in terms of

The subject of the question is middle-aged, perhaps life experience around the people around the things have feelings, I feel that the subject of the question of the cognition is very correct, I support! Therefore, the desire has been middle-aged men and women cherish marriage, love and care for feelings. The following is my simple analysis of the problem:

First, it has been said that for ordinary people, the greatest career success in life is a happy marriage, which is easy to understand. Compared with celebrities, great men, scientific giants, and so on, ordinary people may spend their lives learning a skill to seek a foothold into a family of three or five to see the world's prosperity, and do their best to promote the development of society. Great men and mortals, such as trees and grasses, each in its place to perform miracles, so mortals do not cherish the marriage does not make sense, the failure of the marriage is also the biggest failure of their lives.

Secondly, for middle-aged people, the cost of divorce is the most damaging. That is why we say that marriage is like a "building" that is built over time, and the value of the marriage increases as both parties become more emotionally invested in it. Men and women's understanding of each other's tacit understanding, the children's happy to join, the old man's filial piety support, all in the value of the marriage in a small proportion. Once a divorce destroys the marriage "building", the breakup of the couple's relationship, the harm to the children, the fear of the elderly, the harm is great, and the difficulty of reorganizing the family how easy it is?

Thirdly, for divorced men and women, perhaps a single party or both parties to get relief, not to mention the difficulties of reorganization of the family, the harm to the child is generally difficult to avoid or even the tragedy of child casualties. Recently saw two cases reported: April 5, Sichuan Anyue, a 14-year-old teenager, and step by step step step back with his stepmother to get along with the despair, in leaving a similar "letter of death" after the disappearance of the 10th in the nearby river to find his body; Nanchong, Sichuan, GaoPing District, Ms. Qu divorced with a seven-year-old daughter to spend the day, March 10 in the family sent the following message After sending a message to her family, "I can no longer survive ......," she tied her daughter to her side and threw herself into the Jialing River. ...... In any case, the divorce has led to such a tragedy that their loved ones left in the world will never be at peace! The family members will never have peace of mind for the rest of their lives!

Therefore, people in their middle age, the failure of the marriage business, the harm of divorce to children, and the difficulty of reorganization again is not difficult to imagine. Although the family of middle-aged life, the elderly and children, and even mortgage car loans and other kinds of pressure attached, but as long as couples are of one mind, understanding and tolerance, and reject the temptations of society, marital happiness is still not difficult to fight for, may each middle-aged family enough to cherish!

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Hi, I'm happy to answer your question. It can be put this way. People to middle age, have more sense and life experience, this marriage recorded our growth, recorded our youth, when to a marriage to pay so much, it is best not to give up lightly. After all, we are no longer young, these years accumulated feelings, is the time to give us the best gift. When a person's age to a certain time, for most people, a stable life is more suitable for us, cherish what we have now.

Marriage is a period of excess / Divorce is a watershed / No matter what age / It's a fatal blow /.

The lesser of two evils. If a marriage's settling makes you feel intolerable, then divorce is a relief. If divorce feels like the end of the world, then a will-be marriage at least has a form.

Why do so many people go through divorce every year after the high school year? Because finally you don't have to settle for kids.

Marriage is something that needs to be run, and no one is dictating that it all has to go all the way. And because from the beginning, it feels like it should all go all the way, that's why it feels like it's agonizing to break it in the middle.

The question was once asked: if you could choose the duration of a marriage, how long a duration would you choose for your first marriage?

Some people think it's one year, three years, or open-ended. If you know it's about to expire and you need to be good to renew it, will many people in a marriage value it themselves or run it with more care than they do now?

The lack of a sense of crisis is the reason why many marriages are headed for dissolution.

How can it be considered painful to get out of a not-so-happy marriage when you're in your middle age, if you're successful in your career and have your own development?

If that's all you have left of the marriage itself, and then you get divorced, you have nothing left, and that's got to be agonizing.

Never lose yourself in a marriage, don't let yourself lose your choice and initiative or you will really suffer.

If divorce is the most painful thing that can happen to a person in middle age, then I think you're pretty lucky that it's just a divorce after all. Why would I say that? Please see the following reasons:

1. Being healthy and alive is a blessing

As the saying goes, there are three great tragedies in life: the loss of a father (mother) in youth, the loss of a spouse in middle age, and the loss of a son (daughter) in old age. Contrast these pains, is not think just divorced is really lucky, after all, still alive, maybe there are a lot of good days in the future.

The subject of death is too heavy, so let's switch to a lighter one. Disease, which attacks you at a young age, not to mention divorce in middle age, which prevents you from getting married.

Isn't all of the above a lot worse than your mid-life divorce? So you're being disingenuous with this question. Either way, let's just say then that midlife divorce is far from the most painful.

So let's limit it to people being in a healthy state and just talk about marriage, is midlife divorce the most painful thing you can do?

2. sometimes leaving is the best solution

Suppose a marriage in which the other party does not respect you, attacking you with words every day, or else torturing you with cold violence. In ordinary life, not only does he not help you, but he also asks for you in a thousand ways, abuses you in a thousand ways, and even beats you with violence and puts your life at risk. Do you still want to continue this kind of marriage?

Divorce is far better than if you are barely keeping it together, right, and having almost lost even your life, having lived the worst, there is no such thing as a worse day. At this point in time, divorce is not painful, it's too late to celebrate!

You say this is too extreme for me, that regular people don't encounter it, that it's just a normal divorce. This is the kind of situation where a middle-aged divorce is just the worst pain in the ass.

3. Suffering knows no age, and how well you live your life depends only on your ability.

You say that people in the middle age divorce is nothing more than that there is an old man, the next child, it is the time of life's greatest pressure, and secondly, after the divorce is neither as young as a large amount of capital to start over, nor willing to be as old as a companion on the line. This kind of thinking has made two mistakes:

For one thing, whether one lives well and acquires material goods in abundance depends on the strength of one's personal abilities, not on one's marital status.Those who are capable can make a better life for themselves at any age and in any state. You feel bad about divorce because of lack of ability, either dependent on the other person's ability, or two less capable people holding on to each other.

Secondly, the loss of true love is painful at every age.The pain of parting from what should have been a good couple is not exclusive to middle-aged people. There are young people who are crazy about love, and there are old people who live and die with love. As for finding a new partner, there is no denying that it can be difficult at different ages. But as long as you are really good, the difficulty of different ages can be negligible.

In summary, leaving aside life, death and health, and extreme circumstances, what makes you feel miserable is not at all middle-aged divorce, but the ability to fulfill your own expectations. Let's talk about what is the most painful thing when your ability can support your desires.

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No matter how you put it, divorce in middle age is the most painful thing you can do, don't you think? My answer is: First, the marriage should be divorced regardless of age, decisively divorced, not divorced more painful. Since the marriage, especially for the sake of children, everyone does not want to divorce. But the fate is over, should be rational, rational both sides respect, both sides blessing, both sides smile and shake hands to separate. There is no love marriage, so that both sides are suffering, and really realize that living is worse than dying. Divorce is unable to retreat, remarriage is not bad, and there is nothing wrong. Secondly, both sides more self-criticism. As the saying goes: a single slap does not clap. Anything has a two-tier nature. At first love to death, to now a day can not pass, both sides certainly have responsibility. Both sides should think calmly and look for reasons from the subjective side. Carry forward the achievements, correct the mistakes, and then take every step in life. Better to the marriage, responsible for the family. Thirdly, I sincerely wish that both parties will find a lover soon. The end of an unfortunate family, heralding the beginning of two happy families. After all, was a husband and wife, one day husband and wife a hundred days of kindness. Moreover, you have been through that pleasant and beautiful time, to be loyal from the heart to wish each other to find a soulmate soon. Fourth, to cherish each other. To bear in mind that once was the true love of the couple's emotions, after the divorce should understand each other, respect each other. Being a person should have a sea-like mind. After remarriage to learn a lesson, always put the lover, the family first. Is a person, should not make the same mistake twice.

I don't think you can generalize, and there are different feelings of pain, and you have to distinguish between being divorced and divorcing.

1. was divorced, perhaps because of the partner cheating or other reasons, the partner is not willing to continue the marriage, in this case, was divorced by the people must be very painful, the balance of life some of the balance is broken, and their own abandonment, self-esteem is trampled on, all the effort to become a joke, such a feeling more than just pain, it is worse than death.

2. The person who initiates a divorce may have pain, but that pain is a severance, a farewell to his or her former self. At best, it is a release.

Marriage is a happy event. Divorce is painful, especially for couples with children. The pain of a lifetime of remarriage with a child is known only to oneself.

I don't think so, life doesn't go on divorce is a good thing to be celebrated: he'll walk his sunny way, I'll cross my one-way street. Out of sight, out of mind.