My parents died when I was a child, and now I think about how good it would have been if they were alive, and how happy I would have been to be able to fulfill my filial duties. No matter what they say about me, I just smile. It's a pity that I don't have a day when I can fulfill my filial duties. [Prayer]

Filial piety is a family legacy. Everyone will grow old one day, and if you want to be treated well in your old age, then you should take the lead in treating the elderly well.

Being filial to the elderly is easier said than done. My mother has raised five elderly people: my great-grandparents, my second grandmother and my grandparents. My mother used to say, "It is better to praise filial piety only when there are no old people," and "Most of the old people are the benefactors of a bowl of rice, but the enemies of a bucket of rice". This means that the more you give to the elderly, the more likely you are to be blamed.

The old is still young, some old people talk a lot, some talk less. Some are more stubborn in old age, and some have more or less dementia and often lose their temper for no reason.

Therefore, I think that we should not be too serious about the unreasonable demands made by the elderly sometimes or their tantrums. Try not to quarrel with them, and you can calm them down by stroking and distracting them.

Rather like my father with Alzheimer's, he was previously very good at treating people and was afraid of offending them. But after the disease, he often scolded the nanny for no reason, lost his temper, and said that he still did not accept advice.

We then used to make amends to the nannies, telling them that father was not in his right mind and not to be angry with him. Petting my father to calm him down during his tantrums or singing old songs to him, which he sometimes couldn't help but sing along with.

Then my father lost his speech and mobility, and he was still put in a nursing home for better care. He passed away last November. But he was better cared for, cleaner and went peacefully!

Thank you for the invitation, filial piety ~ filial piety, filial piety and obedience are inseparable, so as long as it is in, do not destroy the principle of the issue, just go along with the old man! As a late generation to give parents a happy and happy old age is a human child must fulfill the obligation! But filial piety does not mean stupid filial piety, the brain is a little confused old man, put forward excessive requirements, can do as much as possible to do, can not do to be firmly rejected.

Anyone who wants to serve four elderly people, an old man in the family is better than a treasure. My parents and parents-in-law, are teachers in colleges and universities, so there is not too much of the so-called "excess", and filial piety is about filial piety and obedience, the old man's excess, but also have to go along with it, and make them happy, which is the test of filial piety standards.

I remember my father, at the age of sixty, declared two articles: 1, will not for the sake of their children, to change their habits, because he is 60 years old, more than 40 years ago 60 is old. 2, 4 children's homes, there are good things can be told to the home, bad things annoying do not come into the door.

We followed our father's request to the letter until he passed away at the age of 97.

My father-in-law 78 years old cancer, and then metastasized, 83 years old, turn the brain, people stayed, then living in Li Lanjuan academician served in Zhejiang First. Often in the middle of the night, the hospital to call, my wife and I immediately ride a bicycle, rushed to the hospital, it turned out that the old man in one by one, knocking on the other wards, so that everyone get up to study the document. Nurses can not persuade, father-in-law only listen to me. Rushed to the hospital, my father-in-law to see me, immediately sober, the nurses are strange, they do not know, my father-in-law to me more than his son.

This went on for seven whole years until my father-in-law died at 85, and we didn't complain a bit because that's what we were supposed to do, and that's what we taught our own children by example.

My parents and father-in-law would be over 100 years old if they were alive, so I'm sure they are doing well in heaven!

How can I refuse to serve the elderly and their excessive demands in order to make them happy?

Good-hearted and optimistic old people generally do not make excessive demands, only the elderly who are physically ill and emotionally unwell will do so, in fact, they also know that it is not right or excessive demands, they just want to vent their uncomfortable mood!

Encountered this situation, as long as the warm and caring attitude to explain to him, generally will be resolved, if the character is too screwed up, unreasonable, can only spend a little patience and coaxing, the elderly sometimes like children, coaxing the happy, everything is good, because the old man's heart is to love their loved ones!

It takes energy to serve the elderly. May each of us pass on the virtues of the Chinese nation! A hundred virtues of filial piety are first!

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The question that should be asked is: Nowadays, you middle-aged people will become old people one day, have your demands been demanded by all your parents? If you encounter these unreasonable demands, how do your children answer? Now you come to answer to be answered later. First of all I am also taking care of an elderly father in his 80s now. Usually I don't refuse his requests. Of course the old man speaks like an official, not the feeling of a father, but the feeling of a superior who knows his subordinates. And I can only listen to him, who asked him to be a father. And more than 80 years old there is no need to oppose him, what he said how to do, as long as not illegal and not chaotic lifting.

Take care of the elderly is not an easy thing, more children, the elderly do not like to take care of the children around them to say a good word, on the contrary, do not live together with the children, come to see him and them against the happy, laughing and joking, the old man talked about taking care of him around them children are not good, say a bunch of bad words, call who can not accept, I think so, call the elderly children take turns to take care of the rabbit has to cause conflict in all aspects.

One should be filial, not foolish.

How can you serve the elderly and refuse their excessive demands in order to make them happy?

It is not easy to serve the elderly, it depends on what kind of solitude of the elderly, and then what kind of people to serve, whether it is the children or spend money to care for the people of this difference.

Sons and daughters, as juniors, have love, have filial piety, no matter what the old man asked for may not be too much, sometimes the old man confused a little unsurprisingly, open mouth on the scolding you have to endure, pretend not to hear, hands hit you to hide, it can not be hit. Give it more to do good food, do not let them thirsty and hungry, sick quickly go to the hospital with the doctor, this is enough.

If an outsider fails to do this, you must do what your master requires: do not move without honor, do not speak without honor, and do not worry without honor. This requirement is within the contract, not to exceed the rules. I know little, I can only say this.

I'm sure I'll get flak for my answer [tears]. But I still want to say it, love to scold or not, anyway, and do not know each other [cute]. If the old man has excessive requirements, I will never be foolish filial piety, although I am still filial piety. I'm not used to the old man's problems, just like I've never been used to the children's problems [picks nose]. For example, this year's New Year's Eve, when the epidemic was so severe that no one was allowed to visit the family to celebrate the New Year's Eve. My seventy-six year old father insisted that I go to my uncle's house to celebrate the New Year, he did not listen to a lot of reasoning, but also choked me, saying that I am afraid of death like that. Well, I went straight back to my own home, whether he was happy or not [cool drag].