All around me, I see more of it: older people actively letting their children "nibble" at them.

City kids go to school, start families, have kids. Parents buy houses and cars and do repairs, and when there is a third generation, they are busy helping out at home or taking the children into their own homes to raise them, while the parents continue to be "children".

I have a classmate, tell me one thing: usually daughter-in-law's underwear are she washed, there is a period of time, daughter-in-law cousin came to play, daughter-in-law and she said: "Mom, these days, the trouble is that my sister's also washed it.

I said, "The, who made you over 60 and splattered bones. Of course in my heart I sympathized with her.

The key is two points: 1, the city old people have a pension, because of the thrift habit, pension generally not finished. 2, now in the second generation are only child, living ability is poor, chewing parents are comfortable.

What the title asks is a good fit for my family and my wife's family. We are all four siblings and all public employees. Both parents are cadres in government agencies, or teachers in colleges and universities, with retired salaries and public health care, ensuring a worry-free retirement.

The only thing we can do is: 1. Companionship, visiting on holidays, talking and eating with...2. Help finding the right babysitter, which in town, every family will have stories about. 3. Companionship when the elderly are sick and hospitalized. 4. Medical care for the only surviving mother in law, who is currently 90 years old.

Filial piety is a Chinese virtue and tradition. If our generation has done it with a clear conscience, what will our next generation do to us? We'll see!

First of all, congratulations on having 4 kids and all of them are public employees. Alimony should not be a problem and is negotiable. You can start by proposing a figure, so that everyone automatically contributes whatever they want, and you make the final call. The least expensive way is to split it equally.

Admittedly, 10 fingers have lengths, and 4 kids certainly don't generally fit together. Income and expenses are different for each family. So after you mention a basic idea, get everyone together and determine an approach. There are so many issues in this that you need to consider ahead of time.

1, Income of your elderly couple, real estate situation.

2, Does someone have to be home cared for now?

3, Do you plan to age in place or in a nursing home in the future?

4. Should the financial power be held by oneself or by one of the children? It is recommended that they should be in charge of their own finances as long as they are still able to take care of themselves.

5. Prepare a will. After the above situation is clearly organized, the real estate deposit and so on the afterlife pre-arrangement. It is best to get everyone's consent, so as to avoid future disagreements between brothers. This is now a generally popular, but also more practical approach.

Also, do you need them to take turns accompanying you at the moment? You should be paid during the time of chaperoning, even if you pay for the necessities that the kids usually bring in, which should be the main use of your pension money.

All four children are public officials, and as parents, they are very decent and honorable in front of and behind people. However, just recognize the successful side of their family, it is only intellectual education is better than others, moral education is poor. Family education is the foundation of moral education, is the direction, the son does not teach, the father's fault, there is his father, there must be his son. The four sons study and work with distinction, but, put forward a unified standard of filial piety, not out of sincere sincerity to filial piety, do people no good! Nothing worthy of decency, but rather shame!

Money is often the problem, but money doesn't solve all problems. I don't think you are short of money either, what you lack is the filial piety of your children.

What standard is needed to support one's parents? What is more, all four children are public officials with fixed monthly incomes, so is the need to standardize the criteria for fear that someone will suffer?

When my parents were unable to work in their later years, my brother was the one who bore the expenses of the family, and when my parents were ill, my brother basically bore the burden, with my brother and I only giving a portion, and my two sisters not taking any money at all.

Usually I give my parents a little pocket money once in a while.

After my mother was left alone, my oldest sister stayed with her for a few years, my brother gave my oldest sister money, and my brother bought occasional food for my mother's side of the family.

In the last two years, my second sister served my mother, and we gave her money because my elder sister's family was in difficulty, so my brother gave her money on behalf of my elder sister, but she did not want it. My brother also had to take care of all the expenses in the house. My brother gives money to my second sister, but she doesn't want it, so my brother also buys things for the family.

Their parents are old and need to be taken care of, and their children should fulfill their obligation to support them, and do it according to their conscience.

Doing filial piety for one's parents is also a way of accumulating blessings for oneself and one's children. My brother has done the most for his parents, and my brother is now living the best life possible, with two sons he doesn't have to worry about, and grandchildren who all know what they are doing.

Do filial piety is a voluntary thing, not let people force things, have the heart to give the elderly some more, no heart to give less, the elderly will not care.

You have raised four children well educated, trained all of them are public officials, then your cost of living and old age will not worry about. Because the public official thought is educated by the party, is more advanced, they are also educated, what they are taking the lead, but also others to learn from the example. In my point of view you don't have to worry, you 4 children will arrange the standard life and cost!

Your family can be standardized if you have quadruplets, not 10s with time on your hands, then no there is no standardization.

It should be the same standard, not based on the wealth of the children to determine who gives more and who gives less. Do the children of the family conditions of the rich in the support of the elderly when their own a little more is a piece of mind to do children, if the parents of the different treatment is not appropriate, may lead to children and the elderly between the contradiction or even between the children of the contradiction.

Parents should be even-handed in their treatment of their children, both in giving and in taking. Of course, the standard of alimony can be based on the actual situation to take care of the children of relatively poor family conditions, according to their conditions without affecting the parents' future standard of living under the premise of the standard of alimony. Personal opinion, I hope it can help.

Of course there should be uniform standards. The standard is not uniform, 4 children to pay you how much living expenses. You can refer to the local wage income level, price consumption level and medical costs, etc., after a comprehensive look at how much your monthly living expenses, and then call your four children, make it clear who who each burden how much, can be shared equally among four people, or four people can be different, according to the specific circumstances of the specific analysis. I believe your children will be happy to do a filial piety!

This is a matter of one person, one approach, a uniform standard for children to bear the alimony seems to be fair, but in fact, it is also a shade of hidden problems.

First of all, children's incomes and economic conditions will not be exactly the same, nor will family burdens be the same, and if emphasis is placed on equal distribution, although the economically disadvantaged will have nothing to say, there will always be a little bit of discomfort in their hearts, and the four children will not be able to show compassion, and the issue of solidarity among children will give rise to distractions.

Secondly, there is the question of the property of the elderly. If the elderly do not have any financial income, do they have assets such as fixed assets, how will their property be distributed after they have passed away, and will it be fair enough to cause conflicts among their children. If the property is intentionally left to a certain child, will other people argue about it. If the elderly have a financial income similar to retirement pay, and there will be a batch of financial subsidies after 100 years, all these things will be a problem in the future.

Therefore, it is best to let children know that supporting the elderly is an obligation imposed on them by law and a virtue of the Chinese nation. Elderly people take care of their young and children take care of their parents in their old age. Uniform standard equal sharing of alimony, the road is not as good as letting their children to negotiate, money to pay, no money to pay, inheritance of more to pay more, in the children of the formation of sympathy for the weak, care for the poor, discussing the work.