Tell me about myself: 27 years ago, my old man from the big mountain to put firewood bundles and firewood bundles rolled down the big mountain together, fell and broke the central nervous system. On the breathing, hospitalized for nine days, no improvement, in-laws to give up treatment ...... maternal family to go all out to save, and then transferred to the military hospital. After the expert consultation, looking for me to talk to say, after the cure is a vegetable! You rural a woman with two young children, there is no way to live on, asked me to continue treatment not? What are my plans? I said, "Let's treat it, it's better if it's cured, but if it's not cured, it's not good enough for my conscience! My family supported me. Two months later, the old man will finally talk (gibberish) I carried him out of the hospital ...... home all the valuable things are sold, owed to the foreign debt on New Year's Day there are still people to ask for money! Every day, I hope that he will open his eyes, turn over, eat, urinate and defecate on his own ...... Every day, I carry him from the east end of the village to the west end of the village, whenever the old people see me walking on my back, there is no not shedding tears! It is more careful than caring for a baby. Half a year later, a miracle, the old man can walk, urine and feces can take care of themselves! I cried mixed black ......

Four years later, I took my old man to the military hospital for a review, and the specialist who had stayed in Japan was amazed and said that it was a miracle in the medical world! He gathered his students and gave them a history of my old man's illness. After doing the films, it was found that the old man's bleeding had coagulated, and there was no danger.

One day eight years later, when a clinical patient, specially came to my home to see us, but also jokingly said: "After you left, we all said that the woman home certainly have to marry another person to go, who knows that you're so strong, really didn't go ...... '' '

Now, my sons and daughters are afraid to mention the past ten years of hard times, for fear that I will cry again, those years of tears flowed into a river, from a soft woman who could not do any farm work honed into a strong woman!

Although the old man did the aftermath (mentally disabled), all day long more than abusive, even beat me and the child. But he can help me do some small jobs and feed the cows. It's a hundred times better than being a vegetable, right?

When he insisted on treating him, the family did not break up, and after extremely difficult years, they finally had the bitter end. The children have all become families and are very filial. As the saying goes: be content with what you have.

So, if one spouse is sick, no matter how much debt they are in, they must do their best to heal. For one thing, it is good for one's conscience, and for another, miracles are everywhere! As they say: the rainbow always comes after the storm!

I'm a critical care physician and I run into one of these almost every other day! To save or not to save, that is the question! Because of the high risk of these patients, high rate of death and disability, so the doctor will talk about the heavy, the jargon is called to talk about death! But most of them can be evaluated to see what the prognosis is, dead or alive? Will they wake up? Will they be able to take care of themselves? But the conversation will be very heavy, because the risk is too great, do not be bad or the doctor's responsibility!

I generally explain the condition of the heavy, but there is hope when I will not let you give up, even if the family has the idea of giving up, I feel there is still salvation, will induce you to continue treatment! But some times especially heavy, there is no hope to live, I certainly advise to give up, for fear that you have two empty, and may be able to live, but no quality of life, such as can not withdraw the ventilator, or can not wake up, but also tell you the truth, you consider your own, this I can not help you to make a decision, I do not know, because from the treatment is useless, but emotionally sometimes the difference between the too big, I also do not know how to choose!

Finally, how do you choose? First, from your feelings! Two, if you really can't figure it out, ask your primary care doctor, get some advice from your doctor friends to see if there is any hope, hope to live, and what the prognosis is, and whether you can accept this prognosis to make the right choice!

Are there miracles? I suppose there are, as long as they're not in their final state, there are still miracles, and I've seen miracles, and quite a few of them! Because man is supposed to be a miracle! If it's not bad, and you're kind enough, you can wait a little for a miracle to happen!

I have thought about this question a thousand times! An elderly woman in my former neighborhood had a stroke and finally got her life back. Every time I watched her husband pushing her wheelchair, with a young nanny walking beside her, the two of them talking and laughing, sometimes even some intimate gestures, while the patient was nestled in her wheelchair with her head tilted stupidly, I shivered inside!

If so, what is the meaning of living? Is it just for the peace of mind of the living! There is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness, and couples are not the same! I am not in good health, I have been relying on my own perseverance to exercise every day, rely on traditional Chinese medicine, rely on sleeping pills, rely on the faith to live hard, bear the heavy work. But I can predict, perseverance and faith can not fight the disease, I do not know the day I fell, so recently I have been thinking about writing a will, if those who are beyond redemption, or to save the life of the walking dead still like a walking corpse like living, to the family to their own great pain, must not be resuscitated! It's a sign of respect and care now!

Life has a long and short, living is the quality of you. Once read Yu Hua's novel (alive), although I admire the old man's optimism, tenacity of life, I do not know the meaning of living in. Of course, his body is healthy, at least did not bring burden and torture to others! So, living in good health is the most basic meaning.

However, the questioner is not talking about himself but about the other party. This one is indeed a bit awkward , and in the end, it's a matter of whether or not one's conscience is at peace. If one is saved and can be a normal person, of course one can be saved, otherwise, it is really unnecessary! Dumping the family, other living people suffering , and not necessarily good for the patient, and the patient, as long as there is still conscious, will be more painful than dead!

Even if her family was rich and powerful, for such a person, the purpose of living was only to make other people's conscience peaceful, and for herself, there was only pain!

If your spouse had a brain hemorrhage that required you to dump your family's money to save her, and it wasn't always possible to save her, would you be willing to save her? I'm willing to give you an answer to this question. To be honest, in the real version of life, Dr. Zhang, as a doctor, has basically seen all kinds of results. Simply summarize, most families choose to save the treatment, while a small number of families choose to give up, how to choose is each family's own decision, outsiders can only be persuasion, absolutely can not be said to blame what, after all, each family's situation is also different, we absolutely can not be moral abduction.

In fact, when all is said and done, the leading factor behind the different choices made by different families is still money. Families with money at home, even if the couple is not in good terms, will usually give their sick partners the most effective treatment. And families with poor financial conditions at home, very often with some other circumstances, will choose to give up the treatment. If this is all said and done and you don't have any personal experience, I suggest that you go to your local hospital and walk around for a while, and then when you see those people crying in the corners, you will have a general idea of some similar feelings. In fact, at the end of the day, different families have different attitudes towards their loved ones, and behind this is the fact that different families have different financial conditions.

From an emotional point of view alone, I believe that the vast majority of people, when they see their spouses suffering from cerebral hemorrhage, will go to save their spouses, rather than standing by and doing nothing. One of the most touching couples I have ever seen was an elderly couple from Handan, Hebei Province. The couple had been together for decades, and their two sons had grown up, but the old lady suffered a cerebral hemorrhage because of poorly-controlled hypertension over a long period of time. Her partner is a particularly good old gentleman, has always insisted on saving the old lady, from the initial surgery, to the later wait, the old lady was taken care of particularly well, and the old gentleman never had a word of giving up and impatience. The old lady had a brain hemorrhage from the age of 68, to 78 years old still alive, and every day still live a clean life, it is really admired the old gentleman's great dedication. The old couple was also named the Five Good Families of Fuxing District, Handan City, Hebei Province, which is a good indication of the social recognition and praise for them. Of course, things in the world are not always such a good result, there are many negative examples, here we will not say.

Anyway, this is Dr. Zhang's answer to the opening question, in fact, there is no fixed answer to this question, each family is different, and the final decision made is also different. However, I hope that the friends in front of the phone are aware of the usual control of their blood pressure, in fact, blood pressure is good, so that the body does not occur cerebral hemorrhage is the best, don't you think so?

This happened to my family, and my brother told me about it afterward. He said that he stayed at the ICU door for many days at a time, and every time the doctor called for a talk and a signature, he was torn, especially when faced with a patient who had tubes all over his body. He also thought of giving up, but he said that if he gave up, there would be no one left, could he face his conscience? How can he go home and tell his old mother? So he gritted his teeth and got through it. Now, although he has lost all of his family's money, he is still alive and recovering. Doctors say that due to the seriousness of the disease, may not be able to take care of themselves for the rest of their lives, that is also recognized. At least the person is still alive, there is hope. From a deep coma to now being able to barely walk, isn't this the rhythm of recovery?

A sister I know was in a relationship when she was young and the man was very good and good looking. But the two eventually did not come together because of the elders' obstacles. Later, my sister was introduced by her family to her brother-in-law, a fat, black, honest man. Brother-in-law is an ordinary worker, hard-working, do not know how to be romantic, but very family-oriented, for sister's head. Later, my sister's ex-boyfriend appeared, he has been a national system of a middle-level cadres and he divorced. He often came to the unit to visit my sister and always gave her some gifts. During that time, I saw the most smiles on my sister's face. .........

In later years, brother-in-law suddenly one day cerebral hemorrhage, very serious. 120 pulled to the hospital rescue, the doctor said it is very dangerous. Sister found a lot of relations, emergency disposal and then transferred to a more authoritative military hospital. But the same is the doctor said, the chances of rescue over is very small, even if the rescue over, the person may be a vegetable, even if awake, life can not take care of themselves.

Many people around the sister have advised her to give up resuscitation, and surprisingly, there is a sister-in-law's sister in these people. We all know that, as an ordinary worker, brother-in-law's financial ability is not enough to pay for surgery, post-operative and a series of other costs, more afraid of the money spent, the person is still gone ......

In the midst of all the opposition, her sister decides to smash the pot and save it! Save the man she always thought she didn't love and couldn't bring herself to romance ......

That day sitting in the restaurant looking at a few years have not seen the sister, used to be so beautiful and love to dress up her, hair prematurely gray, listening to her very calmly about these, I asked: Sister, you were how to think about it?

My sister looked at me with a warm and firm gaze and said slowly, If the person lying there was me, your brother-in-law would not have given up on me ......

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Seeing so many friends who have praised my sister, I'll let you know: nearly four years, under my sister's careful care, my brother-in-law can now walk downstairs to buy groceries on his own (heavy things can't be lifted). Basic life can take care of themselves. Sister vacation time also took brother-in-law to Yunnan travel once ...... heartfelt wishes my kind sister brother-in-law, good people good fortune, always safe and happy! 🌹 Also wishing everyone on the other side of the phone because they saw this reply post, happiness and beauty! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

This kind of topic is an ever-present paradoxical issue in China! Treat it and you may lose both your money and your people, give up the treatment and you will surely end up feeling guilty for the rest of your life! I have a little bit of my own opinion about this issue, just for your reference!

First of all, to confirm the age of the patient, if it is already in the old age of the old man, I personally recommend to give up the treatment, here is not disrespect for the elderly, just that people inherently have a death, as a previous expert said, the treatment is also non-death or disability, even if the old man you later resuscitated, waiting for him may be the physical endless torture of the disease! Spiritually because of their own even children and guilt, this approach is undoubtedly selfish. So I still hope that we can be calm!

Secondly, if the young people, that also need to consider the actual situation, if the family still has small children need to take care of, I do not recommend treatment, after all, we also need to consider the growth of the next generation, the traditional Chinese thinking is all for the sake of the children! If you do everything you can to save the other side, you may not have a guilty conscience, but the child is aggrieved, so that the other side of the rest of their lives are living in guilt! This is also selfish behavior! But if you don't have a child for a while, then it's better to try your best to save them! After all, money is outside the body! Don't let yourself live in guilt for the rest of your life!

My wife and I also made a pact that if I got a serious illness so that she wouldn't have to lose her family's money, that if she got sick, I would do everything I could. This is a very big weight, and can not be nonsense, because I really came across, she really got a brain tumor, and is the third level of malignant, I have been looking at ten years, the house, the car, including all the things that the family has, and hundreds of thousands of foreign debt, although she went away the year before last, but I've never had any regrets, because I tried my best, not for anything else, just for the commitment, responsibility, and past life, this life karmic!

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Author's opinion: my answer is that it must be saved! "To ask what love is in this world, is to teach people to love each other in life and in death!" In order for him to see the sun rise tomorrow, I will do my best.

“If you cure it, you will lose both your money and your family. If you don't, you lose your family!"When faced with life and death decisions, many people are in pain.

But that is a loved one, is their own day and night with their loved ones, living a life, how can you give up. The money is gone can go back to earn, but the person is gone is really gone.

If you see death to save money, how can your conscience be at peace?

What others think and how they choose, I don't know, and I won't comment on it. But when it comes to life and death, I won't have the slightest hesitation, I'll go all out!

My husband in 2016, a sudden cerebral hemorrhage, the child is still small, in elementary school, at that time did not want to give up, the doctor told me that it would cost a lot of money, and we do not have insurance, I said smash pots and pans regardless of the amount of money spent on treatment, and now it has been four years, looking back on the previous variety of heartache only they know that, at present, my husband and normal people, and now have gone to work, do the relatively easy work, although the The money is not much, but very contented. I hope that our family of three, as long as it is safe and sound, healthy on the line.