The reality of our country is now, in most young people's marriage markets, that this is the case.

The custom in most places is that the man pays for the marriage.

In the vast majority of regions, it is a long-established custom that the man pays for all the expenses required at the time of the marriage, including the purchase of a house and a car and the expenses for organizing the wedding.

The woman spends as much as she wants, and she can spend as much as she wants. The economic conditions of the female family, parents for the happiness of the child, there are women to pay, but still a minority.

In some economically underdeveloped areas, there is also a popular female to male families to ask for the custom of the bride price, the bride price of the amount from about 100,000 to hundreds of thousands of all, invariably increase the economic pressure on the family with a male child.

It is unrealistic to rely on boys to earn their own money for marriage, and most of them are helped by their parents.

Boys after graduating from college, the general wage income, basically, is also in the 5000-6000 or so, the salary to reach tens of thousands is a minority.

So, basically, most boys who start a family and get married still rely mainly on their parents to help them with the cost of the marriage. It is unrealistic to rely on a boy to earn his own money to get married, and with the exception of a very few, it is basically impossible.

It's hard to change that. You have to face reality.

This has led to the gradual increase in the number of male singles and the number of bachelors, and the more economically disadvantaged the more bachelors there are. After all, no one, male or female, wants to live in poverty.

Originally, there was a gender imbalance in the ratio of men to women in our country, with the male population exceeding that of women by more than 30 million, which has invariably increased the pressure of competition among men.

There is no law that says you have to pay a high bride price to get married.

A lot of men, like to attribute their delay in finding a date to lack of money.

Let's look at the keywords.

'Over 5,000 a month'.

A monthly salary of over 5,000 may seem low in your eyes, but it's actually a very common income figure in China.

'Two years of not eating or drinking would have saved up enough for the bride price long ago'.

5,000 a month, 60,000 a year, two years is 120,000 dollars. Since you said you can't save enough even for two years, that means the dowry money is more than 120,000 dollars.

I don't know what kind of family opens their mouth to ask you for more than 120,000 dollars. But 80% of them are introduced through blind dates. Because it is introduced on blind dates, there is not much emotional basis, and you are eager to enter into marriage, naturally headache each other proposed high bride price.

You say all women want a bride price, right? But clearly there are so many girls who marry naked! There are even girls who pay money to marry the man. Why haven't you met them? It's not that you're unlucky, it's that you don't have what it takes to attract this kind of girl.

For example, a girl is willing to be in a relationship with you, but her prerequisite is to take her time and engage for two or three years. As an older teenager, do you agree?

For example, if there is a girl with average looks and average ability, but her prerequisite is that you have a house, can you do it? Do you agree?

For example, if there was a girl who was divorced but had a small child, would you mind? She doesn't want a dowry, would you marry her without hesitation? Would you treat her child well?

In many areas where the bride price is high, there is a corresponding lack of respect for the woman. The woman is sold as an object with a price tag and has no choice at all. Many men pay a bride price of 100,000 to 200,000 dollars and get married in a month or two.

Are you sure there's an emotional basis for this?

Many girls on this side of the answer do not want a bride price. But do not want the bride price does not mean no conditions.

A girl I know requires the man to have a house and a car, it doesn't matter if it's in her name or not.

There is also a girl who can earn her own money and can accept that the man's salary is lower than her own, but on the condition that she does absolutely no housework.

There are also some girls whose parents at home have already bought her a house and have their own jobs. All you need to do is go to her house to live there, be her parents' house son-in-law, move your household registration to her house, and then make money to support the family.

Would you like to? You don't want to, you'd say it's a bummer. You hate it when the woman buys you a house and has a better job than you and then goes to live in your house.

The world is full of good girls. You need to be attentive to find and pursue them. You have little patience yourself and expect to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on a wife, who is to blame.

As we all know, many girls in Sichuan do not want the bride price. But many of the boys in Sichuan will go to the market to buy food, go home to cook and drag the children are not wrong, earned wages paid to the wife. Occasionally, you can also accept the wife in their ears chirping and cursing, see the female parents like to see the parents as filial piety.

Can you do it?

You are not at all worried about not having enough money for the bride price. You're just worried that you don't have the personal charisma to attract girls who don't want the bride price, but the girls on the market who only look at the bride price and not their personal charisma will not see you because you don't have enough money.

Hello, everyone! Let me say this! It doesn't really matter how much or how little you pay for the dowry! If you guys are talking about the bride price! It means you're powerless! You think you're useless! As a man, you have to be ambitious! If a man is crushed by money! That's not a man! You have to work hard to find a daughter-in-law! You have to work hard to make a lot of money! Don't waste time! Do business! Open a farm! Grow herbs! Grow vegetables! Grow rice! Growing fruit trees! Scientific and technological development! You can see it all on the internet! Learn it well! If you don't understand something, you can talk to your friends! Can a man be handcuffed by money? With money! Be good to women! Care more about women! Be considerate! Protect women! To cherish women! To like women! Only then can you get the woman you like! Women will also like an ambitious man! And smart! And capable! And caring! And considerate! Any woman would love a man who's successful in his career! Work hard! That's a man's hope!

Good 👌! Thanks 🙏!

There are a lot of good things in the mall, what if you don't have enough money, just don't buy it, it's as simple as that.

If you don't have enough for the dowry, keep earning, and when you do, find a wife. It's as simple as that, so what else is there to do.

The house is more expensive, let the developer reduce the price or give it to you, you can get the house for nothing, developer he give you?

Why do you talk about bride price every day? A big living woman, easy to get will you cherish it?

If you can afford it, get married. If you can't afford it, don't get married. If you can't afford to get married, don't get married. Even if you are a bachelor, you can earn your own money and spend it on yourself, and you can feed your whole family without going hungry. If you are poor and can't afford to get married, don't try to cheat the girl to harm other girls. Even if the success of deception will be divorced, the man if you think it is not easy to deceive the success of not agreeing to divorce, the woman can be divorced through the court proceedings, can not be by your male tactics to play smart useless. By the time how humiliating na.

Lawyer's point of view: the world is colorful, there is no one path is the only one, and no one rule is the only one. Your income can not afford the high bride price money, then you can find no bride price or bride price less women to get married, do not put all the women into the bride price only do not look at the person of the category.

Of course it's relatively easy to get married if you have the financial means, but that doesn't mean that you're doomed to be single if you don't have the financial means! Not all women are as materialistic as you might think.

Modern women in a considerable part of the people are with independent economic ability, this part of the independent women even after marriage is not dependent on men, in the marriage is not valued bride price, the main importance of the other party's character and both sides of the feelings.

So, if you show your sincerity, genuineness and truthfulness, you are the dish for independent women!

Open your horizons a bit more, as long as you're nice, even if you only make 5k+ a month, you can still find a wife who makes 50k a month yo!

Finally, good luck! Remember, money isn't everything! Often times, sincerity, genuineness, and truthfulness can move a woman's heart more than money!

According to this projection, your dowry should be over $120,000, if it is around $120,000 put in the national average is not a lot, see the following national dowry map:

Since they are older, the desire to get married must be very strong and should be very motivating.

The solution is always more than difficult, who do big things (marriage and buy a house) are not likely to have so much cash, to rely on friends and family, or borrow or ask for their own contacts.

There is also whether you and the bride truly love each other, she valued your people or money, this is very critical, if you run into a DuShuniang and so on the infatuation of the woman, then you do not have to worry about, no, you did not run into, to not mention this problem.

And then there is to deal with the mother in law, so that she likes you, so that she decided that her daughter is not married to you, this you have to make all the skills ...... you realize yourself.

If you don't have money and don't have the above skills, it's not a bad life to wait to be a bachelor and live a free life where one person is fed and the whole family is not hungry.

Going to a foreign country to marry a foreign girl ......

Borrowing money to do things, saving up is too slow, marriage doesn't wait [aura] It's hard for one person to

Now the bride price is 200,000/300,000

Buy a home in a small town with about $300,000 down payment

And a car for a hundred thousand dollars or so.

Nowadays it's all about getting a daughter-in-law with your family!

[I want to be quiet] Poor father, rich son.

Or you're not good enough, how much is the dowry is the intention, my two brothers, the other side do not want to pay the dowry when they get married! The man's family is free to give as much as they want. Marrying a daughter is not a trade!