I am the creator of the field of life Pegasus WD. "Today's society, a lot of talented people in their 20s, have lived as 30s," this sentence has a certain truth but also has a touch of sadness.

I. Life moves too fast

Now the development of society, especially science and technology development is too fast, just innovation and invention of technology has not been fully mastered, the new science and technology has developed a new alternative products, which requires people in a limited period of time to master more new knowledge and new technology, to adapt to the new science and technology products, and familiar with the new workplace. But people's time is limited, can only be from eating, drinking and sleeping in the time to "grab" time "squeeze time", leaving less and less time for personal discretionary time, so that the pace of your life is getting faster and faster, non-stop shuttling in the city streets and alleys, running around at home and the unit at two o'clock. Running around at home and the unit two points on the road. Especially the first and second-tier cities to fight the young people who feel this most deeply, because they face the most competition, leaving him the least room for independent choice. With the rapid development of science and technology, fast-paced life has basically become the mainstream of the urban population.

II. Too little social experience

20-year-old young people have just entered society, the understanding of society is limited to the words of family and friends and books on the boring description of the text, the understanding of society is one-sided, fragmented, incomplete, need to be through the real social practice of this classroom to recognize the original face of the community, the social experience for them is just a symbol of just a blank slate. Simply in terms of interpersonal communication and treatment of people, relying solely on the knowledge learned from books, the experience taught by the old man is far from enough. There are many problems that are not static, you have to learn to use the developmental perspective, stand in a different perspective, according to the actual situation to quickly find out the solution to the problem. Sometimes a little inattention to a casual glance, a light word, an insignificant small things, can affect your work, decide your future development direction. This is not an alarmist statement or a myth, but a fact of life. This inevitably puts a certain burden on the minds of young people who are just starting out.

Third, too much pressure

20岁的年轻人刚出校门，刚刚步入社会，来自社会的家庭的压力便纷至沓来：找工作、找对象、买房子、买车子、结婚、要孩子等等很多很多，而每一项对于他们来说都是头等大事，每一项带给他们的压力与他们的实际年龄都是不太相称。 Parents can not be with you all your life, can not take care of you all your life, can not put all your hopes on your parents, then you have to learn to be strong, learn to go alone, learn to silently bear the pressure into power, to find their own position in society, to seek a place to live. In the process of walking alone in society, facing the psychological pressure and the reality of the pressure, seems to have exceeded the ability of these young people to withstand, and therefore the young face is written with the vicissitudes of its age is not commensurate with the vicissitudes.

A boat sailing against the current will go backward if it does not advance. In today's fast-developing society, young people must study hard to increase their talents, must keep on exercising to be strong and fit, and must stand firmly and courageously in the tide of society to shoulder their due responsibilities and obligations.

Pressure is not generally big ah! House, car, wife, ticket, after marriage and son (daughter) and so on, do not work hard how to do ah!

It's an honor to answer your question!

Personally, I think that today's excessive pressure is the main reason for this phenomenon, such as high bride price, car loan, mortgage, children's education and other issues, each of which will give young people a headache.

Especially today's bride price, the price of high, let a person daunted. Of course, some bride price as a colorful celebration, understandable, but many female families marry their daughters as if selling "daughters", basically is the lion's mouth, however, today's society, fewer women and more men, many men's families, in order to get married to the child, that is, the sky-rocketing bride price pressure down, also had to be from, which really makes the marriage between the two sides! The pressure has increased greatly.

What is even more terrible is that the woman to marry not only to high bride price, but also cars and houses, the family is better, on these conditions can be reluctant to accept, the family is not good, and even loans to buy a house and a car, and finally ended up after the wedding to pay back the mortgage car loan, and borrowed in the bride price money, the money may have to exhaust the whole family's efforts to spend a few years or more than ten years to pay back the loan, which is that a lot of young people should have been energetic and full of state, but turned into a thirty-year-old vicissitudes of life.

Children's education has also been one of the headaches, especially for rural migrant workers, in order for their children to get a better education, in order to get rid of the shadow of left-behind children! They choose to spend a big price to let their children enter the city to receive quality education, however, this is another huge expense, so very often, in order to mortgage, car loan, education and other issues, many young people have to work hard, basically can not stop for a moment, a little late, maybe will be replaced or eliminated.

There is also the home of the parents age, physical problems suddenly, need huge medical expenses, as one of the Chinese virtues of "filial piety", every son and daughter will comply with, if the parents because of illness hospitalization expenses, as a son and daughter can not be unheard of, so such a situation, but also let a young man into a vicissitude of maturity! man.

Twenty years old age thirty years old face, is because too much experience, face too much pressure! Many times more willing to "save for a rainy day", basically the price to pay is overdrawn health in exchange for money, then the loss of health, the face will certainly look vicissitudes.

Of course! Young people can strive for a better life, try to get ahead and struggle, but do not try to buy a house and car to save face, otherwise the pressure of later life will be very huge, for marriage, it is more important to look at the character, the three outlooks should be positive, not too material, or marry a very material woman, but not a trace of feelings, then what is the significance of it?

In today's society, it is not surprising that many people who are only in their twenties are already living like they are in their thirties due to the fierce competition and pressure of life.

First of all, there is no greater pressure than to talk about marriage. Originally, the twenty-something years old is in the life of the rich and powerful, rich and prosperous time, intolerant of the three mountains (house, car and high bride price) pressure, coupled with the situation of the country, more men than women, more aggravate the load of this age group, and to many families has brought unprecedented pressure. Nowadays, society is very realistic, you say that is gold-digging, where is no money you can not do things.

Secondly, because many people in their twenties just out of school, full of beautiful visions of the world, but do not know the reality is not as imagined as desired, perhaps everywhere, high can not be low, society is a larger examination paper waiting for their own, the original in the school only to learn some theoretical knowledge, or learning is not the right board, or no social experience, or is in the probationary period, obviously lower than their own expectations.

Third, there is no diploma, no knowledge of education is even more crippling. If you can learn a craft or two is slightly better, if there is no craft and technology, into the factory alone, although not sun and rain, but a day of more than ten hours is difficult for most people to withstand.

Fourth, for girls, this stage is more critical than men, although the pressure is a little less, but in case to thirty after it is difficult to marry a good man. So at this time to do everything possible to find a good man to marry out, marry the right man, this life will be half successful.

There is another reason for early maturity, due to the abuse (widespread use) of hormones in today's society, which makes many people develop secondary sexual characteristics when they are still in elementary school, which is a bad sign, thus causing many people to move forward in maturity, and naturally live in their twenties as if they were in their thirties (look like).

Therefore, at this stage, many people live as if they were in their thirties due to the fact that many of them work hard to get married and make ends meet, coupled with parental pressure, social comparison, and comments from friends.

In short, nowadays society is so competitive and unpredictable that only by striving to be strong can we stand invincible. The waves of the Yangtze River push forward the waves of the past, a wave is higher than a wave, did not learn a little real skills, real technology, is sooner or later will be eliminated by this society.

The age of the "wave", but the life is a mess!

In today's society, a lot of people are only in their 20s and are already living like they are in their 30s. Not saying how bad it is for 30-somethings to get, just expressing some of the pressures of the 20-year-old crowd.

People say that 30 is the right age, and usually in their thirties they are also starting a family, living and working under a lot of pressure, and even without self, with mortgage, car loan and children's education being the challenge. Yet is it easy to be 20? Is it easy?

Embarrassment begins with graduation.

What a wonderful age to be 20, and some of them haven't even begun to know the world properly.

The 20s are usually just graduated from college, ignorant to enter the society. They have not even forgotten those crazy classmates on the college campus, the unbridled singing, the tireless all-nighters. Not even from the graduation on the breakup of the spell to break free. However, life is so step by step or unexpectedly.

Wearing a cheap suit, in and out of the office building, just to interview a satisfactory job. Suddenly woke up to the fact that his college living expenses are not quite a lot, I did not expect to earn money is more difficult than I thought. Begin to adapt to be rushed, begin to adapt to overtime, begin to adapt to be criticized by the leadership, and even gradually understand that the workplace drama in the TV series can only be inside the TV. Renting a remote dark room for rent even began to miss when complaining about the crowded college dormitory. Squeezing the crowded bus and subway even began to miss sitting behind the bicycle her. Gradually accustomed to the boring takeout even miss the university cafeteria that was difficult to swallow the food. Slowly accustomed to saving even regret the impulse to buy an aj. This is the gap, this is the reality, this is more ordinary people's lives.

The spirit of vigor and vigor, swagger. Always feel that they are unrecognized, and even feel that they are all dog-eyed. I want to get ahead and prove myself. Even sometimes after forgetting that they are just a new graduate. Taking the poor salary every month, began to count, counting the rent, counting the food and drink and pocket money. I hope to give myself a new cell phone, I hope to buy myself a new dress, shopping cart lying for a long time cosmetics, every time I want to pay but choose to give up. I've been trying to pay for my makeup for a long time, but I've chosen to give up. I've even had to pay for my flowers in installments every month. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to do that. I'm not sure if you're a good person or a good person. Even when you receive a phone call from your parents to say hello, you can't help but shed tears. Suddenly, I feel like I've grown up, I've got responsibilities, I've got difficulties, I've learned to carry them on my own, I've never been able to tell my parents what's good or what's bad, and I feel like they're starting to get older, and I know how to be considerate of my parents. Maybe maturity is a thought thing.

The mess started with a blind date.

Twenty years old, what a short time, you do not even feel like starting to run three. You may be happy in the workplace, or you may still be bumping around for life, however, before you can find your way, and even before you've dashed around enough, your relatives and friends are starting to introduce you to someone. Whose son is a meter eighty-five, an engineer, fifteen thousand a month, and has a pretty good personality. Whose girl is a beautiful teacher and has a stable job. Wait, don't be surprised, when you start to feel that you are not a child, others have long felt that you should have a child. Seven aunts and aunts of the busy, New Year's holiday arrangements, look like a farce, but you are the main character.

Your uncle's cousin is younger than you, and her child is two years old. Your aunt's cousin is the same age as you and is getting married this year. You unknowingly start receiving invitations to your classmates' weddings, and it seems like every month there is a share of money to give. Time just goes by so fast, the urging of your parents and the advice of your friends and relatives seem to loudly proclaim to you that you are not young anymore and it is time for you to get married.

You can't even remember how many blind dates you've been on, and your own reasoning is always that it's not a good fit. The ones you see may not see you, and the ones that see you you don't see each other. It's not a deal, but it's more like a deal. Your helplessness, your woes and your advice are important, but not the most important.

The pain started with the purchase of the house

Whether you like it or not, your family starts preparing you to buy a house, and in their opinion not having a house is not an option. In the whole society seems to have no house is really not. Begin to pay attention to real estate, began to have the agent's micro-letter, began to non-stop wandering between the various properties. If you have an object may be with her to conceptualize the future, if you do not have an object may fantasize about having a house can have an object. The original salary is not high, you start every month on time mortgage loan mortgage. Hate it every month that day early in the morning to get up the deduction text message. Begin to save more, cut off water and food can not cut off payments. You're upset, you're in pain, the new cell phone you've been eyeing is about to go on sale, your favorite aj is new, your date's birthday is coming up, look at the balance, look at the reality, this is the beginning of the pain. You begin to laugh at your own wretchedness, helpless smile, can only firmly hold up that noble head.

But that's where the happiness begins.

The years of 20 years old can be said to be the most wonderful years since you were born, is your fastest growing years, is you begin to think independently, is you begin to recognize the time, is you begin to human warmth and warmth, is you begin to show talent, is you begin to outline the life of a few years. Ignorant 20 years but in just a few years sober, carefree 20 years but in just a few years complex, fantasy 20 years but in just a few years reality. You are still the same young you but not the same you. You began to understand the meaning of life, began to work firmly in the direction of the work, began to make the right love, but also began the journey of happiness.

Thirty is not far away, 20 is short, should be "wave" age, there is not only a mess, but also the promise of the future.

I hope that after 30 you thank your 20 year old self and pay homage to time and to being 20 forever!

Nowadays, society is not like the old days when you can get rich by working hard and being thrifty. We people after 60 years of age were poor when we were young and often had to help the family with housework, but there was no pressure to go to higher education or to get a job, and no one instilled in us the need to go to university in order to find a good job, and there was no loneliness that comes with being an only child, and we had a lot of happy times, no matter if it was our childhood, our teenage years, or our young adulthood. In those generations, even poor boys could get married and start a family. Today, there is an abundance of material goods and very little manual labor, but almost from kindergarten onward, children are burdened with heavy school bags and endless pressure. The problems of attending good schools, getting into good universities, earning money to buy overpriced houses, and so on are constantly stabbing the minds of children and parents like windy knives and snowy swords. How much sleep and physical exercise have been squeezed out of children by increasingly difficult questions and more and more knowledge. Years and years of desperate study, children do not have a normal childhood, teenagers, youth, although the age is still young but already physically and mentally exhausted. I sympathize.

I don't know if the author's obsession is with social status? Looks? But the face of an old man is knowledge? There are old ministers of the appearance of wisdom ...... both and know-how of the talented minister ......

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Said is myself, after 95 a, because of the epidemic, home, watching the daily life of Mom and Dad, because Mom retired last year, to this year exactly one year, Mom that year because of family poverty, only finished elementary school sixth grade, and then ate the suffering of the uneducated, but usually like to chat with other people, say things, say the family, and also like to shop in the market, buy groceries, shopping.

During the week, I would go out with my mother, go to the food market and the superstore with her, and pick up fruits and vegetables, clothes, and daily necessities, as if I were looking at her daily life from a third point of view, and as if in the future I would be like this, like my mother, who would work on the house, do the chores in this way, and live in this way for the rest of my life.

Every day is a flat Buddhist life, calm as the water surface, without a ripple, perhaps also like the old man, carrying a birdcage 🐤, skating birds, playing chess. Do not think so much, just live in the present, I this may live to fifty 😅

I am a small Shang daily, today's society is very stressful, 20 years old has been living into the appearance of 30 years old ...... around there are many such examples. The body is burdened with home loans, car loans, children's education, parents' pension and other kinds of pressure.

My husband, a man from the countryside, his father died when he was a teenager and his mother could not walk properly on one foot due to polio when he was a child. Growing up in such a family, he had to rely on himself for everything. 28 years old, people thought he was over 30 when they saw him, and he was relying on himself to buy a house (with a loan), raise his children, and provide for his mother's old age, etc. There was no way back but to carry the family's burdens. There is no way back, but to carry the burden of the family.

There's no going back in the adult world, you can only take responsibility by going forward head on ......