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Have you ever been yelled at at work and how did you handle it and how did you adjust your mood?

Have you ever been yelled at at work and how did you handle it and how did you adjust your mood?

If there is a reason for the scolding, it is appropriate to reflect on whether there is any blunder? If there are, we should correct them; if there are not, we should add to them.

In fact, it is inevitable that unpleasant things will happen at work, such as being criticized by the leadership, how should we deal with it?

Have you ever been yelled at at work and how did you handle it and how did you adjust your mood?

In our work, it is inevitable that sometimes the work is not completed on time, completed without meeting the requirements of the leadership, or other work reasons are criticized by the leadership.

Some leaders are more facetious, subtle speech, criticism will not make you feel too bad. Some leaders speak directly, work is not good is a scolding, let you heart is very difficult.

It's normal to be in a bad mood, or even to want to quit your job. But it's not easy to find a job.How are we going to adjust?

in the first placeYou need to be clear about the work not being done, not being done right or all sorts of things, and look for the reasons in yourself and try not to make the same mistakes next time.

after thatTo learn to self-adjustment, the work is inevitably not good, do not move to feel hurt, the work is not a family, no one must take care of you, to think a little more open, the leadership scolded their own work is also valued, and expects you to grow, and is not malicious.

ultimateYou can find some spare time activities you like to regulate yourself, don't let yourself guard your grief. Some problems are nothing when you get past them, and experience will only make you stronger and stronger.

personal viewpoint

In short, whether you are a workplace white or a workplace elite, it is inevitable that you will encounter some work mistakes and receive criticism. We have to learn to face the problem squarely and adjust our mindset so that we can keep growing.

It's normal for someone at work to call you names. But someone is not scolding you in a scolding tone. Some people say look so-and-so is still 70 years old and still working. You chew at home all day. Is this cursing or what? I went straight back. Tell him. I'm working. I have an income. Even at home to gnaw old age is not gnawing your father. If you have a problem with it, it's my dad, not yours, so just die.

First of all, we need to find out what exactly is the reason for being scolded, whether it is because of ourselves or which aspect of the reason and cause of being scolded. This is what is meant by identifying the cause, and it is only after identifying the cause that the next step can be taken.

Secondly, there are two kinds of cases. First, you think it is not your cause, but in essence, it is your cause, or because of your carelessness to live a small aspect of the error and did lead to the occurrence of this wrong thing, but you do not realize. Then you have to find the problem from yourself. The second, in fact, is not your reason, but caused by others: if things are not very big, you can get along with the leadership, unintentionally talk about this matter, but do not be too obvious accusations of each other, can not make it feel embarrassed; if things are bigger, then, you can find the leadership to talk about, if the leadership is not quite acceptable, it is recommended to take some other ways to reduce stress, such as exercise, find the beautiful little things in life, find a friend to talk about.

I would like to conclude by saying that mindset is something that you give to yourself, especially remembering not to bring the mindset that you have at work into your family, and not to allow yourself to have a moment's pleasure at the cost of anything else, no matter what time of year it is.

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Have you ever been yelled at at work and how did you handle it and how did you adjust your mood?

It's not uncommon to be aggrieved at work, and your boss could have wronged you. I guess it depends on what you've been wronged by, and if you're not wronged at all, that means your emotional intelligence is too low.

1. Try to keep your mind open.

First of all, if you have been wronged at some point, learn to accept it openly and manage yourself emotionally so that you can really let it go and not keep it inside. Some people will keep it inside and won't let it go completely, in which case it will explode one day, which isn't conducive to improving the relationship. For minor grievances, they can all be the result of a misunderstanding. After a few days, when the mood calms down, you can sincerely communicate with your boss, or find your friends, or write in a diary, or running can vent your dissatisfaction, choose one that suits you.

2. If it is a matter of principle.

Involving your own pay raise and promotion has a lot to do or with your own interests. At this time, there is no need to bear, but not for you to vent their emotions, calm down, rational thinking, sincere communication with the boss, explain their own ideas, explain their own point of view, and strive for, and the emotions do not occur in the communication of emotions, which is not conducive to solving the problem.

Don't choose this time to communicate when you are in an emotional state; emotions will only make communication more and more confusing.

First, deal with your emotions.

3. Some subordinates will help their leaders to get blackmailed. (In the eyes of the questioner, this is presumably a huge grievance.)

A grateful and amiable boss can understand this. He knows what he's doing, and when it's over he'll talk to you rationally: I owe you a big favor, and I'll pay you back someday.

In short, it's worth it to help your leader take the fall. In short, it depends on what the grievances are, and it's important to distinguish between them, and it's not.

For small, unimportant aggravations, then be open to them.

Well that's it for this diversion, I hope it helps.

If you meet the work was scolded, first of all to determine whether I work has not made a mistake, indeed do not do the right thing, scolding a couple of words can be tolerated, but scolding the leader is not necessarily a capable. Because the ability to control emotions, the ability to deal with emergencies is very important. First of all, we must remember to reflect on ourselves. If after reflection, there is really no problem, no reason to be scolded, then do not endure, the workplace is also a place full of people, you have to endure the first time there will be a second time, to put your bottom line and principles to light, so that your colleagues will think you are a principled person, as far as possible behind the cooperation with you, the leadership will also feel that you are more reliable. So the adjustment is to look at the situation, it is really your own problem, then reflect, change, avoid the next time it happens again. The workplace is best not to bring too much emotion, you can find your friends to talk to, you can find your favorite way to de-escalate, relax, but must avoid not to show weakness in front of the leadership and boss, they are all hope that you are strong and capable, the picture is fifteen women's rules of the workplace, I hope that my answer can bring help!

There have been. Reflect for yourself if there are areas where you are doing something wrong

Work has not been scolded, I think as long as the people who have been on the shift will have this experience, so do not care too much, care about these you lose, and also affect the work, but also more likely to be the boss to find excuses to criticize, thus entering a vicious circle, the loss outweighs the gain.

Being scolded are usually just entering society, is in the young and vigorous, you scold me I scold you in this state, can know how to deal with. I guess there are a lot of cool people, some things in the past, there is no need to put in the heart, with their own bad.

If you are from the older generation, you will definitely be told that it is for your own good that people scold you, that it is good to suffer, and so on. You can imagine how they came to be so used to it, and thought it was a frustration one had to go through. And what about us now! How can a supervisor curse, just a few bad words, there should not be any personal attacks! But the older generation has heard a lot of bad words, after that is not the same work, so now those things, really nothing, to grow up must go through the trials and tribulations, so think is not the heart is better.

So there is no boss will be with you, only their own with themselves, as long as they maintain a good mindset, nothing is a matter, may also see some details that could not be seen before, but also can harvest full of dry goods.




[Employee Circle Lao Jin] suggests: 1. take a deep breath; 2. find a place where no one is; 3. vent it out yourself.

Anyone at work will have been blamed for something that wasn't handled properly, resulting in being blamed for it. Work is like life, it's all one problem after another. So try to control your emotions when it comes to being yelled at.

Step 1: Deep Breathing

This method is actually the most common method, but it works.

When we are scolded, our body's first reaction is a high level of mental and muscular tension, but when we take a deep breath, we are able to quickly relieve the tension, which in turn allows us to be relaxed and soothed, and our emotions will become calmer.

Step 2: Find a place where no one is around

Why do we have to find a place where no one is around? In fact, it is also considered self AQ spirit, after all, when there are many people around, they were scolded, emotional instability, most people will be more concerned about some of the psychological views of the people next to them, and even sometimes fantasize about their own, colleagues are not thinking that they are very useless, is not going to think that they are too humiliating.

When we find a place where no one is around, we can focus on relieving our emotions without the presence of some external distractions.

Step 3: Let it out yourself

It is an instinctive reaction to feel more tense in the moment if the more you repress yourself when you are emotionally stressed. So need to find yourself an outlet to get that tension out, then you can do so:

1. Swing at the air as an "imaginary enemy".

2. Take out your cell phone and type out what you want to say, on your cell phone

3. If it's a girl, you can sit down and cry it out

Special note: There are all kinds of ways to vent, but don't create a loud noise.


Lastly, the subject is advised to stop thinking about being yelled at before after venting their emotions, although sometimes it's not easy to do, and try to focus on the work matters of the moment.


I hope my answer can help you, thanks :)

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There must have been, leaders scolded, senior teachers scolded, doctors scolded, patients scolded. Gradually learned a phrase - two ears do not hear outside the window.

Leaders, coworkers say. Whether she is right or wrong, whether there is any aggression - hmmmm, I know, I'll change. As for changing it or not is up to you.

Doctors scolding - generally let's say scolding me during resuscitation, ignoring him at the time, after all, dealing with the patient is important, but later still. Once there was a doctor said I, I was angry at him, and then never dare to scold me.

Patient scolds me - I hold back, hold back. Then calmly say what to do first, and then do things and say: well if there is anything to call me again. Then I don't care whether he cares about you or not, just leave. In fact, this a few minutes will not be angry. Every day can not be angry. Simply no one heartache you ah mainly.

Let others scold you. If a dog bites you, you can't bite it back.

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