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Chronically controlled by anxiety! The mind can not concentrate people can not be quiet! I can't even read a book! What's the best way to self-regulate?

Chronically controlled by anxiety! The mind can not concentrate people can not be quiet! I can't even read a book! What's the best way to self-regulate?

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When you see your description, you are able to feel very anxious and eager to calm down and get into your studies.

But sometimes your own feelings may not be accurate, so to calm anxiety, you first need to recognize it objectively.

You can take the Self-Anxiety Scale (SAS) to measure your level of anxiety.

Read the questions carefully and choose the option that matches you based on how you really feel throughout the week. Look carefully at the options as it is not exactly 1, 2, 3, 4, there are a few questions that are reversed so be careful.

After doing all the questions, add up all the numbers to get the total crude score. Then use the total crude score x 1.25 to convert to a standardized score T.

If T≦50 is within the normal range.

50<T≦59, belonging to mild anxiety.

59<T≦69, belonging to moderate anxiety.

T≧70, belongs to severe anxiety.

There are several things we can do to face anxiety:

1. Take a deep breath and adjust your breathing rhythm.

2. Change the environment or thing that you feel anxious about.

3. When you feel anxious, move your body, such as stretching, turning your neck, twisting your wrist and fingers, etc., in short, do not let yourself feel stiff.

4. If, in addition to anxiety, you often feel very serious physical reactions, such as shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat, or even sweating, then it is recommended that you seek professional counseling to help you.

A little bit of advice from me that I hope will help but you.

Anxiety is caused by deep internalized insecurities, often brought on by concerns about future uncertainty.

An effective way to combat anxiety is to come back to the present moment.

Unable to be still, unable to read a book, unable to do what you think is right. These thoughts coiled in your mind prevent you from being still, creating a vicious cycle.

If we remove these excessive desires and just hold on to this mind in the present moment, as long as your mind is still within your body, you are safe and you can watch this one mind. There is no need to do anything else.

So what if you didn't read the book? Be still or not, and don't worry about it for a while. Just keep this heart.

How do you keep that heart? I offer a few ways here.

  • First, deep breathing. Focus all of your attention on your breath in and out. Mobilize your imagination, as if your eyes see the gas from the nasal cavity, slowly being sucked into the body, to the lower dantian, and then slowly from the lower dantian by the body out of the mouth. This cycle is repeated.
  • Second, the counting method. Take a string of rosary beads or something and count them one by one in a round with your fingers. Count through the round and then count backwards. Focus all your intention on one bead at a time.
  • Third, the slow life method, when you cook and wash dishes, cabbage leaves one by one rinsed with water, feel with your heart the feeling of your hand touching the leaves. When you wash the dishes slowly one by one feel the difference between the inside and outside of the bowl, their smoothness and their cleanliness.

Anyway, all of the methods used are designed to help you bring your thoughts to this present moment, and as long as you don't think too much about the past or the future, your anxiety will ease off.

Give it a try and good luck with getting out of the anxiety spiral.

Long-term control by the anxiety, the mind can not focus on people can not be quiet, the book can not read, this state is indeed very difficult, want to do things can not be done, see the time a little by a little past, they have not made any progress in their previously set goals, will become more anxious, in the long run, it will become a vicious circle.

Excessive anxiety can cause a lot of bad effects on a person's body and mind, but if you can live with your anxiety correctly, it will not only affect you, it will help you.

Anxiety is made up of unpleasant feelings and thoughts of worrying about the future, and unpleasant feelings occur because the thoughts of worrying about the future come up, so the most important thing you can do to alleviate anxiety is to change your thoughts about worrying about the future.

I'll go over both why I worry about the future and how to adjust.

1. Why worry about the future

If a person is full of worries about the future, one big reason is that he or she imagines the future too well, sets high goals for himself or herself, so high that he or she finds it hard to achieve them, and every day, no matter how hard you work, you feel that you are still far away from the future you are looking forward to.

If you are, there's something wrong with the goals you're setting.

As an example, we have a general rise in anxiety before a test, but if the test is not too difficult, then our anxiety is relieved, but if the test is very sad, then your anxiety becomes higher.

You set high goals for yourself, as if you were taking a difficult exam every day, and your anxiety certainly isn't relieved and will continue to be.

2. How to adjust

Lower your goals, make a reasonable assessment of your actual situation, and then set a goal that is a little bit beyond your capabilities.

Somewhat difficult, but able to be accomplished again with some effort.

You can feel yourself improving every day and solving concrete, practical problems every day.

You'll feel like you're getting closer to your goal every day, and with each little bit of progress, you'll feel a little bit more grounded, and your anxiety will decrease a little bit.

When the small goal is accomplished, you can then set a bigger goal so that anxiety is relieved in the long run.

I hope you will find the above discussion on the components of anxiety, the causes of anxiety, and how to make adjustments helpful.

First of all, you first need to figure out what the root cause of your anxiety is, and you can only treat it if you know the cause.

Second, think hard about what the worst and best outcomes are, respectively, with respect to what you are anxious about. The worst result, can he or she bear, if not, what are the ways to adjust it to the range that he or she can recognize? The best result, is it within your ability, if not, can you reach this goal by tapping your potential? If it is not, you can adjust your expectations appropriately.

Finally, given that you are currently in a chronic state of anxiety, you also need to take specialized measures to regulate your mood. Such as:

1. Attention Shift: consciously shift your attention to something that interests you;

2. Reasonable venting: find someone to talk to, run and other strenuous exercise, sing or shout loudly;

3. Rational control: try to self-deprecating, self-soothing, constantly self-suggestion, remind yourself not to be anxious.

Hope this helps~~

Anxiety is qi disorder! Lung and Liver disorders, self-massage "Yongquan, Ximen, Sanyinjiao, Si Shenchong, Neiguan".

Anxiety generally arises because you are not satisfied with your current situation. Your current life and work situation is not in line with your own expectations, and all aspects of your requirements are not met, thus generating internal tension, anxiety and dissatisfaction.



I was also in the grip of anxiety for the first two years, when I had just quit my job as a college teacher and ended my long-distance life with my husband in my current city. I got a new job as a teacher at a technical school, but it was a job I was never satisfied with. Whether it was the salary or the working environment is not comparable to my previous job, dissatisfaction, anxiety continues to ferment in my heart, let me sleep and eat insecure. Later on, I also thought of some ways to regulate myself, so that I slowly get better.

If you're not satisfied, do something about it. Positive action will alleviate anxiety.

In fact, the generation of anxiety is that we think too much, do too little. For example, we have to go on stage to speak, a few days before the speech you will be very nervous, anxious, always thinking about their own bad speech on stage, others laugh at you how to do, their own nervousness and forget the words how to do, can not get the name of the shame how to do. In fact, the best way to solve such a problem is to do, take action, the preparation, the do are trying to do well, anxiety will naturally disappear.



Read your favorite books

Anxiety can also be relieved by reading. Start with a book that interests you and is easier to understand. It is often said that books can comfort the soul, reading can make our restless heart slowly calm down.

confide in sb.

When you are anxious, you can find a trusted friend or relative to talk to, or you can find a professional counselor to seek professional help, so that they can help you analyze your current situation and find the cause of your anxiety. I went to a trusted colleague and told her about my anxiety. She helped me analyze my current situation, helped me see the cause of my anxiety, and gave me several suggestions to solve my current situation. This kind of confabulation was very helpful in relieving my anxiety.



With the increasing pressure of work and life in our society, more and more people have anxiety. We believe that as long as we are willing to change and take action, life will slowly change for the better towards what we expect, and anxiety will be unbreakable.

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Tackle anxiety first, and when you're not anxious, your natural mind can focus.

Thanks for the question!

The first step is to change the way you think about anxiety. Do not see anxiety as a bad thing, but should be seen as a "possibility", the reason for anxiety must be because there is still something not quite satisfied, that our life and the possibility of getting better, when the anxiety into a "possibility" to see, you will not feel anxiety is a bad thing, naturally not so big mental burden. When the anxiety is converted into a "possibility" to look at, you will not feel anxiety is a bad thing, and naturally there is not so big psychological burden.

Next, take action. There are times when anxiety is simply a result of overthinking things upfront, and when you break down what you want to achieve step by step and take action on it step by step, you won't feel as lost and naturally anxiety isn't as ingrained.

Lastly, it should be supplemented with good habits. Some times anxiety is not anxiety itself, but because of your personal lack of sleep, lack of exercise led to the phenomenon of anxiety, mind can not concentrate, so usually pay attention to the rest time, and increase the time of personal exercise, because I just every time after the workout, the attention will be immediately more focused.

The above is purely personal advice and I hope it helps.

Traditional Chinese medicine + sleep + Buddhist sutra, Tao Te Ching + exercise + distraction + change one's wrong thinking and life habits + deep breathing + relaxation + soothing music + laughter + sunbathing (it's best to go to the beach to sunbathe in a bathing suit and lie on your back on the sand)

I am like this, more serious than you, outside to see people will be afraid, around someone watching TV are not into, staring straight at each other, I have no pupils in my eyes, things around me feel like a flash, can not concentrate on doing things, every day seems to be living in a dream, but now I feel much better, I resigned from my home, nothing to do, I am not asking you to resign, come back to a period of time the situation is also very bad! I'm not telling you to quit your job, I've been back for a while and things have been bad, and I found out later that I'm the one with the sensitive nerves, the nervousness, the hyperactivity, and I suddenly realized that my back is tense all the time. The back I relax myself, relax, let go, relax the shoulder nerves to and body parts of the sensitivity of the same, and then soon there is feedback, I breathe well, junior high school when I nose is not passable, exercise will also dry vomiting, thought it was rhinitis, but no rhinitis needle-like, after relaxation of my nose can be unobstructed breathing, breathing smoothly, and then now every day there is a fitness, good did not have to be good all over the place, my tailbone nerves are also very Sensitive, what I do will involve that nerve, I'll sit on the fitness cloth with both hands on the ground buttocks fall empty impact buttocks, buttocks nerves can stimulate the brain nerves, Baidu saw, I feel quite useful, every day impact hundreds of times, will help your disease, I hope that my answer is helpful to you.

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