Conflicts between relatives is actually a lack of communication! Communication is very important, after all, is a relative, blood is thicker than water, more and each other to talk about, to see what he (she) is the idea, each other to think for a while.

What contradictions encountered in the premise is heavy in communication, no matter how intimate, is always a man's heart, who do not know a person's true thoughts, only each other openly say, in order to find a solution to the problem. Then there is between the loved ones is to understand each other tolerance, stand in each other's point of view, at any time do not let the impulse to dominate their own so as to hurt the people you love. The main reason for the occurrence of conflicts is that communication problems first slow down, do not appear too much to hurt feelings and each other's self-esteem behavior, there are contradictions always have to be resolved, there is always a person to accommodate, not to say that the person is stupid, but tolerant, calmly think about who is right and who is wrong, if it is a small matter, you can ignore, if it is a big deal, it is your fault, it should be admitted that mistakes, contradictions, who all have, it is critical to calm down! The key is to calm down and think about what should be done. When everyone is quiet, then say their point of view to communicate. Teeth still bite the tongue when there is a contradiction between the family is also a very normal thing, usually get along with each other, more for each other to think differently, to understand each other, mutual tolerance, the blood between the family, not only is the place of reasoning, but also to speak of the place of love, with the melting of the family will be a contradiction between the big things small, small things is an important magic weapon of family harmony.

Conflicts between relatives should be solved rather than knot, to solve the bell also need to be a bell, the person who created the conflict, should be generous, take the initiative to resolve the conflict, honestly admit their mistakes, accompany the courtesy of apology, so as to resolve the conflict, so that the relationship between the relatives to be alleviated and improved, reunited, and hand in hand.

I think that affection is affection, no matter how much conflict they have, in fact, it is a matter of words, sometimes more than a word can cause trouble, but sometimes less than a word can misunderstand a lot of things, in fact, the difference between affection in more than a word or less in a word, I think that since they are all loved ones, why bother so much it, are broad-minded a little less to bother a little bit, not all the way through it? What is the purpose of living, is not family unity, family harmony? Life is only a few decades, why not all happy life, have to be twisted it, are relatives what can not be forgiven it, life is short, and walk and cherish it.

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In fact, affection and feelings are not contradictory, affection has the extension of feelings, feelings also have the connotation of affection. In real life, kinship and affection are side by side, complementary and inseparable!

How can you reconcile the relationship between intimacy and affection without putting yourself in a dilemma?？

1,initial step: You need to keep when dealing with this aspect:Calmness, tolerance, common sense.A good mindset that is not in a hurry is a prerequisite for getting things done and solving any problem.

2,Step two:We all know that everyone has their ownPersonality, temperament, preferences, outlook.The answers are not the same. This results in different ways of doing the same thing or answering a question, even though the end result is the same answer. For example, to answer a math problem in geometry, there are many different ways and methods to answer it. Therefore, before dealing with this aspect of the problem, you need to have a certain understanding of the personality, temperament, preferences, and outlook of the person in question.

3,third step: With these two conditions met, we can begin to deal with the problem of the conflicting relationships between kinship and affection. This is where the focus should be on ways and means of dealing with this aspect of the problem.As the saying goes, it's hard to clear the air.In the family structure of affection and feelings involved in each other, as the middleman you must not take the laws and regulations, this is taboo, if it has been to the extent of the laws and regulations, that is to the extent of family disintegration, and later will certainly be old and dead. Well, more next time to talk. The following talk about how to deal with this issue, to make a list to say it!

Most of the problems of intimacy and affection arise in the relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, so let us take this aspect. A family members are living together, the original harmonious coexistence of more than twenty years used to, suddenly one day this family added a new member (daughter-in-law), in this family, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law roles in the responsibility to serve in the overlap, which breaks the twenty years used to get along with the family, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts arise. This requires other family members to mediate. Therefore, the third step is: let's not talk about the right and wrong of the matter, but let's talk to the two parties separately.Talking, talking, talking about the family.Chatting and then other related stories as a column, talk about mutual views, and finally at the appropriate time to put forward the two sides of the matter to the person, mediation, reasoning, moving to feelings.

The above is a general direction to solve the ways and means of affection and feelings, specific to people and things still need to be randomized. Thank you for the invitation to the original owner of the question and answer, feel free to give a concern, click a like.

Affinity is no profit to be sought, don't have nothing to do, this kind of never develops not to become affinity, not of a question mark. Not of bragging. The volume of the story each other good or bad. That is all a concern. That's the situation.

There are conflicting relationships in life between affection and other feelings, especially love. Some people directly regard one or the other as the most important in order to solve the trouble at one time, which not only creates a lot of trouble, but also each kind of relationship will not be maintained.

So how do we resolve the conflicts in our lives between relatives and various feelings? (The following are examples using common mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships)

Try to give latitude to different emotional problems.

"Emotional but not filial piety" This is obviously unreasonable, any sentimental and righteous people are balanced between the two relationships will be praised, when you meet the family and emotional conflicts may wish to give them to divide the latitude, make clear the relationship between these conflicts.

Example: mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are at odds over whether or not to live together, and the son is caught in the middle, where the feelings of the two women are weighing him down.

Analysis: The most important conflict between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law whether to live together is the living habits do not have to, and to a larger extent, the life view of this dimension. The older generation of three generations live together in too many cases, but most of the young people are resistant to this behavior.

Solution: You can let your parents live closer to you, or at least reserve space for the couple's life, even if you can't solve the problem immediately, you should put the matter on the agenda. Your parents raised you and need you to be filial; your wife has entrusted you with her next life and needs you to give her a life, not with your parents. Balancing the conflicts between the two while considering the pros and cons is the hardest thing to do, and the most important thing you should do.

Be smooth, wherever you are.

What I mean by smooth is not lying, perfunctory, but more of operating wisdom to resolve points of conflict. Sincerity and lies are both a double-edged sword, regardless of the face of any feelings need to use both to balance. Because many situations are not simple right or wrong can be said clearly.

If the wife itself is not wrong, but because of something and the mother-in-law has a gap, as a husband needs to take the initiative to help his wife to explain the role of the wife and his wife "lie", to explain the original cause of the matter from a gentle point of view, so as to avoid misunderstandings caused by irreparable consequences.

As a final note, never take things at face value and take sides based on the situation, it just becomes inside out and you think you're being fair but it just makes it look like you're not focusing on any feelings.

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Hello and thank you for the invitation. Jiangnan morning language thought that what you said about feelings and affection is not quite accurate. Because affection encompasses kinship, and kinship is also a kind of affection. I thought you should be talking about love vs affection 😄.

Now on this question, an answer. Every one of us comes to this world from affection, especially parents. That is why it is said that kinship is the first love in the world.

About love is the bloom of life, is life nutrients, is to enjoy life, is one of the "staple foods" of life, and reproduce the continuation of life.

From the above two situations, is indispensable to our life. Just like we pick the burden , one end is affection , one end is love , pick up such a burden of people , walking on the road of life , only to seem balanced , seem heavy , stimulate the potential of people to strive forward. I don't think there's anyone who doesn't live for affection nor love.

I may be asked what if you can't have both? Or what if you have to give up one? Then it depends on your actual situation, while I personally would give up love and become affectionate. Because where is the fruit without the cause 😄?

`Resolving family conflicts: what kind of conflicts?' Depending on the cause, size, principle and degree of concession, not all conflicts of affection need to be resolved! Only one point and filial piety related to the word of family conflicts, that is, not to resolve can only be tolerated, that is in order to do filial piety. Other than this can only be complimented, because the reality of life should be self-independent! There are many contradictions can not be resolved by retreating, that can only be respected from a distance, so that everyone is good! Check: eyes not to see, heart not bother!

Self-interest dominates, and the three views are different. There is no need to resolve them, each one is fine.