There's a saying that a car with gas, money in the card, and a cell phone with power is security. Expecting others to be bullshitting, and a better co-pilot is not as good as holding on to the steering wheel yourself.

The so-called sense of security is roughly the same. That is the sense of inner stability. Like a bird that lands on a tall, thin branch, it doesn't fear the branch breaking; it's its wings that it trusts.

A sense of security is the foundation of human existence, a human instinct.Everyone is looking for various kinds of reliance and attachment points in his or her life. When we were young, we relied on our parents' love and support; when we were young, we pursued academic success and love; and after adulthood, what can give us a sense of security is career, family, children, work and even insurance. Because only in this way can we feel the value and meaning of our life existence. Therefore, if these things are managed well, a person's life will be much better, and will be more stable and smooth to finish this life.

But in fact, even these things are closely related to our lives, but also unreliable. Whether it's love and affection, or fame and fortune, or anything else it won't be ours forever, and sometimes it's nothing more than a passing cloud.

The only real inner security is to be independent and confident, strong and fearless, not to rely on others, and to create your own life with your own hands.Even if there is nothing to rely on behind you, you will be fearless. Accept all the gifts of life, flowers or thorns, happy or suffering, soldiers to block the water to cover the earth, as the case may be, fearless forward!

When you're at the end of the line. Sit back and watch the clouds rise.

I'm afraid that's what real security is all about.

Many women often talk about security, and many women break up with men for the same reason: "I'm sorry. You don't give me the security I need.." But is security really something that someone else can give?

Before we answer the question of how to improve security, let's figure out where it comes from.

British psychiatrist John Bowlbyargues that the sense of security within human beings is determined by earlyMother-child attachmentIt is decided that if our early security needs as infants and toddlers are met by our mothers (caregivers), then when we grow up, our security is relatively adequate. According to scientific research, there are four main types of parent-child attachment relationships: 1.safety type: I am safe, my mother loves me; the world is safe for me to explore 2. Avoidance type: I'm bad, I can't do things right, the world is unreliable, I can't step outward 3.Anxious and ambivalent: I only deserve to be loved when I'm good 4.disorganized: I don't know what to do to be loved, I feel like I'm acting either good or bad, and people are liking me or hating me.

Of the above four types of parent-child attachment relationships, only those in the first type of secure relationship will have a more adequate foundation of security. The others, when they grow up, are filled with insecurity, a sense of not being in control, and a sense of fear.

So how do you cultivate and enhance your sense of security?

1. Facing up to past traumas and saying goodbye to the past

The first step to solving a problem is to look at it head on. Our insecurities as adults often come from traumatic experiences growing up. All, think about the dark moments and events you've experienced, be careful to talk to those hurt selves, and gently say, "Be good, it's okay, it's all in the past, you can come out of it." . When you are able to face your trauma head on and have the confidence to come out of the shadows, you pave the way for your own safety.

2. Accept your true self, your whole self

We feel insecure, in fact, in a certain sense, we are dissatisfied with ourselves. We subconsciously hope that we are superhuman and can solve all problems, but the reality cannot be like that. When ideals and realities conflict, we feel anxious, we feel incapable of coping with the world. But, my dear, we are all mortal. So, accept your mediocrity, your imperfections, your "inability to solve", and realize that we can only improve on what we have. When you accept yourself for who you really are, when you accept your limitations, you remove unrealistic illusions and obstacles to your own safety.

3. To try to explore and define the self

When we know exactly who we are, what we like, and what we want, we don't feel insecure because we are lost.

4. Give yourself a quiet and calm state of mind

When you feel uneasy all over the city, think of a person or a scene that makes you feel at ease, it can be the relaxation of your grandmother when she put her arm around you when you were a child, it can be the leisure and happiness of throwing stones by the creek, or it can be the beautiful grassland that you see when you go out for a trip.

5. Learning to set specific and implementable goals

A lot of human insecurity comes from confusion. When you set goals, and specific and executable goals, you will focus on the matter at hand, asking only for plowing, with no time for anxiety. When you look up again, you will realize the gains made, the confidence gained, and the sense of inner security increased.

To summarize, security can ultimately onlyturn inwardWhen you yourself become moreSelf-confidence, self-reliance, self-improvement and self-loveWhat security is missing when it comes to the time? What more do you need to ask for? Not anymore.

Security can ultimately only be your own. No one else gives real security.

Continuously enrich the positive energy within, self-improvement and self-reliance. Life goes on and on, the struggle continues.

Correctly face the bumps in the road, in the tough to establish their own strong will, one day at a time, and survive the past on the spring blossoms.

What is lost will always be made up in other ways; what is given will, at some point, be doubly rewarded.

Failure and success, learning and practicing, growing and strong in alternation, taking it lightly, dealing with it seriously, everything, blossom and see the fruits.

Security comes from within, do not seek it from outside. External security is impermanent; internal security is what will stay with you for the rest of your life.

Fear, worry, helplessness, loneliness, are all inner weaknesses. Constantly recognizing oneself, correcting oneself, allowing the inner light, allowing the spirit to grow, allowing the mind to strengthen, and relying on oneself is the constant security.

There is no real security in the world, security is just an inner belief. Not fearing 'insecurity' is the psychological feeling of 'security'. All the worries and fears are poisonous inner assumptions, and it is only true to face each day with courage and live it to the fullest.

A man has a hundred years to live, but a thousand years to worry. Worry and terror are universal in nature, and overcoming these mentalities and becoming strong enough to bring security to others is the only way to achieve true security for yourself.

First of all, I am glad to answer your question and I hope my answer can help you, thanks! For your actual situation I I have the following suggestions:

1, first of all, you and your family should maintain a positive and optimistic mindset, have the courage to face the difficulties, and maintain good health, because the body is homegrown, is the most important, is the capital of the revolution.

2, you should find a stable job, do a good job of a man or a mother's child should be responsible for the future you have to face a lot of difficulties, cheer up! As long as there is income, everything will be good, the work will be better and better, to dare to pay, no pay is certainly not gain!

3, when you have a stable job, stable income, this time you need to have a positive mindset, and try to find a suitable for you that she, although it is said that fate is predestined, but everything depends on the fight. Therefore, to overcome the inner fear, try to accept others, and step out bravely.

4、When you find a girlfriend and get married and have children and the family gets along and is happy ......

Above my own thoughts and suggestions, in general, you need to keep a positive and optimistic mindset, dare to pay, all the good life will beckon to you, this time you can get a life full of security ...... wishing more and more better, happy and joyful!

First of all, security is a kind of feeling, a kind of psychology is from the performance of one party, the feeling brought to the other party; is a kind of people can be assured, can be relied on, can be believed in the speech and behavior and other aspects of the performance of the bring.

Live with a sense of security, first find a good man to marry. There is a commitment to have responsibility and love, hard work and pay for you to take care of you love your man. There is a sense of security at home, the heart is solid. Encounter sudden emergency, cell phone does not leave the hand, maybe send a message, ask for help, what. More to have their own money, economic independence, living environment is not good, have money to change a place to live. Civilized security good safety and beautiful scenery place to live, away from the hustle and bustle of the calculating hooking sad place to harm people. Change a mood, a different way of living, happy mood, living with a sense of security, these are the security I want. Unfortunately, love is like a haze, the fog can not be seen and touched. Love is very far away from me, can only hope to stop, and like the realm of the son of dust, your dream prince covered, when you want to reach out to him to hold hands, towards the good, but only dreaming. Dreams wake up, past the age of dreaming, life goes on. Live your own life, people do not offend me, I do not offend. Let the bad guys do evil first, first tolerate the evil dog, biting more people were killed. It is the first to protect themselves, have a sense of security, the most want is when to have money to find a beautiful environment to set down to live. The most important thing is to have money to find a place to live in a beautiful environment.

The sense of security is given to oneself, is a psychological state. So I personally feel that belonging to their own enough "talent" and "wealth" will have a sense of security, with these two, then at any time in any place to face any place are not afraid of (at least 90% of the time, right?). [Yay]

How does a person feel safe?

There are several aspects of human security, including personal security, property security, and friendship security. The most important aspect of security is personal security, and I will only talk about personal security.

First, there should be a good social environment. Everyone who lives in society wants to be in a safe environment. There is no terror in society, no crimes against public safety (such as: explosions, poisoning, arson, fires, drowning, hijacking of airplanes, hijacking of ships and major accidents), no security incidents. A good social environment is what gives people a sense of security.

Secondly, there should be a good and safe living environment. There are many aspects of security in residential neighborhoods, for example, do dog walkers keep their dogs on a leash? Is the elevator a safety hazard? Walking in the neighborhood there is no overhead throwing? Have you turned off the gas stove after cooking? Are there any flammable materials stored in the building? Is there any electric bicycle charging in the public area of the residential building? These things cause safety accidents often happen, some cause major personal injury. Poorly managed neighborhoods can create a sense of insecurity.

Thirdly, there should be a good traffic environment atmosphere, otherwise there is no sense of traffic safety. Now walk on the road often see takeaway riders flying cars and running red lights, walking against traffic, speeding, daunting, how can this have a sense of security?

Fourthly, major liability accidents, which can lead to the death of a certain number of people. There are chemical plants and dangerous goods warehouses around, is it safe to work and live in such an environment?

How can a person feel physically secure? A good social environment and a good living environment can make people feel secure.

Both men and women need "security." What people often call "security" is actually the psychological need for stability and safety. It belongs to the inner spiritual needs of the individual. The "sense of security" is the premonition of possible, internal, physical or psychological dangers or risks, as well as the individual's response to the environment, dealing with the experience of the feeling of power or powerlessness, which is mainly manifested in the sense of certainty and controllability.

In our life, there is a need for security at all times, whether it is a man or a woman, if we lose the security, then Ta will not be able to live well.

What is security?

Sense of security is a sense of foreboding, is the desire for stability, the desire for security of a heart need, belongs to the individual's internal psychological needs, is the possible emergence of the danger or risk to the body or mind of the premonition. It is mainly expressed as a sense of certainty and controllability. The sense of security is mainly reflected in the emotional level and material level.

What makes you feel safe?

If you want to have a sense of security, then the first thing you have to do is to let others have a sense of security for you, as if you want to let a person love you, you have to do a good job of loving Ta, only Ta see the love you have for Ta, Ta will consider whether to love you. Security is also the same, want to get a sense of security, you have to do first to be able to give others a sense of security, then, how can we give others a sense of security, the first thing to do is to let the other party to believe you, only on the basis of enough trust to be able to bring a sense of security, however, want to get the other party's trust is not an easy thing, you need to be in the words and deeds in the behavior of the life of a little bit of the performance. For example: talk to count, say get to do, do not do not mess commitment; often and Ta talk about the heart, say your thoughts, often care about Ta's life; no matter how busy are not ignore Ta and so on. There is also material security, if you want to really let Ta assured, you must also specific material security, that is to say, you must let Ta feel, life needs are not worried about, do not worry about no money to live, this is in fact a fairly important factor.

Home is always a harbor from the wind.

Home, for any of us, is the most secure place, home has always love our parents, no matter we are poor rich, whether we are down and out, our parents will never dislike us, the door of the home, always open to us, parents' arms, always open to us. So, when we are lost, when we are upset, choose to go home to see, hug our mom and dad, and they talk about their hearts, say what frustration they have encountered, perhaps, our mom and dad can also be for us to come up with ideas. Home, will always give us endless security!