According to your age, I should call you grandpa. Hello Grandpa, let me say my little opinion, I hope that after you read it, you can be at peace and not be angry with your daughter and son anymore:

Grandpa, I don't know if there are any rules and taboos on your side of the family for birthday celebrations.

However, on our old side of the family, there are more preoccupations. Especially for the 80th birthday, many old people are actively choosing to avoid it themselves, though.

For example, when my grandmother was about to turn 80, my family offered to celebrate her birthday. However, my grandmother firmly refused to pass, she said: "80 birthday for the elderly is a threshold, can not make a big fanfare over, lest alarmed the people who should not be alarmed, in turn, not good. 80 years old, can only be sneaky, hiding over. Either that, or don't pass it, and just forget about the birthday. Anyway, it's, absolutely can't pass." Later, the family asked a few elders in the family, and they all said the same thing. Then they no longer insisted. My grandmother's 80th birthday, didn't happen, didn't even dare to buy a cake for my grandmother. We just like a normal family dinner, grandmother's several children, with their own family back to my grandmother's home to accompany my grandmother to eat a reunion dinner. Beforehand, we children, all received their parents repeatedly urged, must not say grandma happy birthday and so on, honestly eat a meal on it, eat and go home.

My grandmother hasn't had a birthday since she turned 79, it's always just a family reunion dinner. This is my grandmother's own insistence. She said that the older she gets, the less fanfare she can make for her birthday, for fear of disturbing the little ghosts underground, which will in turn go away early. My grandmother, nearly 90 years old.

One more thing about my grandpa, my grandpa didn't have a big 80th birthday either. He kept a low profile. After my grandfather's 80th birthday, my parents and my great-uncle bought something back to my grandfather's house, let my two brothers-in-law and aunts prepare a home-cooked meal, also accompanied by a piece of dinner on the past. My grandfather was 86 years old and died without any illnesses or disasters. He died peacefully.

Grandpa, this is what really happened to my grandma and grandpa back then. After reading it, I wonder what you think?

I wonder what your real purpose is in wanting to celebrate your birthday, Grandpa?

If you simply want your daughter and son to have dinner with you and spend time with you, then I think that's a good request. I think this is a very easy request to fulfill, just tell your daughter and son and they will surely fulfill your little wish as much as possible.

If you want to have a birthday party just to save face, to compare, to show off and so on. Then, Grandpa, I think it's totally unnecessary.

This kind of thing is really laborious and tiring. Your daughter and son are busy with their work, not only with their work, but also with their family, they are busy enough. If you make a big deal out of it just for your own selfish reasons, it will probably bring bad influence and they will have to spend a lot of time and energy to make it happen. Personally, I don't think it's necessary at all.

Grandpa, the older one gets, the easier one should be satisfied. As long as your daughter and son honor you and are usually good to you, then what is there for you not to be satisfied?

Many old people don't celebrate their birthdays when they reach sixty!

Personally, I think it's the same whether it's a birthday or not. Many old people around me don't celebrate their birthdays, it's a kind of sentiment, but it doesn't matter!

In the past, children used to have birthdays so that they could have a nice meal and receive some gifts, but nowadays there is no shortage of anything, so it doesn't matter if they have a birthday or not!

88 years old, already counted as a long life, do not dwell on whether to celebrate a birthday or not, whether to organize a big birthday, this is a small matter, they can be healthy, happy, happy and safe than anything else!

I wish you a long and happy life!

Since you like birthday parties so much, I suggest, pay for your own birthday party. Order your own take-out chicken and a big cake, and then call your children to come back for a dinner. We'll have fun together, and everyone will be happy.

I'd like to answer this question in reverse!

Old man, with no offense intended, on your upcoming 88th birthday, I wish you blessings like the East Sea! Live as long as Mt. Nan!

But old people, have you thought about it? Your children are over 60, right? They are also entering old age! Are they as healthy as you? Do their children treat them well? Have you ever personally empathized with them?

When you enter the stage of high life expectancy, your children have old and young, if they have their own sick pass, and face a lot of social pressure, how do you think? If they have the ability to give you life, I believe they will not refuse, how many families in the world children want to raise but not wait for their parents, looking forward to your children cherish the happiness of the four generations of the same family 😁 take the initiative to do life for you!

If they can't give you a birthday, then you must laugh it off, cherish the life in front of you, look at the beautiful world, enjoy the sunrise and sunset every day, see the ebb and flow of the tide, and have a good heart!

A few words here and there with the children of the elderly; if at the age of sixty, you have an elderly person by your side, then you will always be a child! What a blessing it is to be able to pamper an old man! Parents are here, you still have a place to come, parents are not here, your life is only a way back! I hope you will cherish it! On the occasion of your parents' birthday, the whole family gathers together to enjoy your life's own festival, whose significance is more desirable than public holidays! You guys think about it!

For information only!

Is that even a topic?

It's really no fun.

Filial piety should be promoted.

Do not go through the formality.

I've seen everything.

It is not advisable to be more picky.

Filial piety is multifaceted.

Why do you need a birthday celebration day.

I'm 84 years old.

Not celebrating more sturdiness.

Over can not live a few more years, did not pass will not die, and then you have money, if you have money you can own over, anything to invite others, set up his a dozen or twenty tables, if no money, now the child is under pressure is also busy on the sympathetic, 88 is not what the big birthday, 90 do not give you over to beat him, die to them to see the joke opened up, according to our hometown to do the birthday is not so good to do, all the relatives and friends to come to anyone's gifts Money can not be received, it is free to invite them to eat a meal, all the people who come to give a red envelope, you think the birthday is so good to do?

Hello everyone! I read this question of yours and was going to pass by but, instead, it triggered something in myself. So, let's talk about some of my personal views. I hope you will bear with me if I can't say anything.

My parents are also of advanced age. Our brothers have thought of organizing a big birthday for them, but my parents have never agreed. In fact, like you, my parents have never had a big birthday. As children, we are very sorry. We have no choice but to respect our parents' wishes.

I know that my parents don't want us to organize a big birthday for them for the simple reason that they don't want to bother us too much and they don't want to increase the financial burden on us.

We are three brothers, in addition to the eldest brother labor at home, my second brother and I work outside, far away from home, it is not easy to go back and forth, therefore, our parents understand us, do not want to bring us unnecessary trouble, hope that we can work at ease on the good. Until now, they have been opposed to us organizing a big birthday for them, they said, what is the use of doing this? It's just formalism.

We are honored to have such parents.

As for you want to hold a big birthday, you can discuss with your children, I think the world's children are born of parents, should be on the parents of reasonable requests should be met, even if there are no conditions they will create conditions for you to hold a big birthday. It's just a matter of time.

Of course, if your children do have difficulties, I hope you can give understanding, do not hold a grudge, unforgiving. After all, the children's working life is not easy. Why figure this form? Hope each other can communicate with each other, as soon as possible to reach an agreement.

First of all, I'm really impressed that an 88 year old man can still chat online! Not bad for an old man! You are 88 years old, I am afraid your children are not young either. People's experience is limited, they also have their own family, in the eyes of parents children will always be children. You are already living a long life, the most important thing now is to be healthy and happy! I wish you a long and healthy life!

This brother, so old, what can't you let go of a birthday? What's so important about it? It's meaningless, and it's a big fuss. If your son or daughter is successful, you can have a birthday party and receive some gift money. If your children are mediocre, forget it, don't mess around.

I don't like this whole thing. What's the point? Relatives and friends, neighbors, disturbing the peace. It's just a gift, eat and drink, and then life goes on as usual. How many years you should live is still the same, enjoyment is not in the form, usually eat a little drink is not quite good. I was a child, my parents gave a birthday, fifteen years old after the proposed birthday, so far, no birthday, children and grandchildren are not officers, we are full of crops, high grain flower, what birthday, let people laugh, right. If my grandson is the chairman of the board of directors, this still need to Zhang Luo, he did not do, how to mix in society?

Buddy Terrace, you can't bring this up on your own. People get old, things don't happen to you anymore. As the saying goes, 'In the first thirty years, the father honors the son. In the next thirty years, the son honors the father.' Right? Right, things ah think more, do not give children trouble, they are also quiet, is not it? I can only talk to you so much, wrong or wrong buddy Taiwan more to bear. Finally, I wish your old brother as blessed as the East China Sea, longevity than South Mountain!

I think your children are cherishing your blessings, for one's life's usage is counted, and a big birthday is sure to be a big deal, and it would be a big splurge on the rations you have left.

Although the money spent is your children's money, all these expenses will be deducted from your blessings. Life is even rarer at eighty-eight years old, which is the envy of anyone. You should be contented.

As long as you exist in this world, every day is a birthday, why do you have to labor to get your friends and family to come and eat and drink with you? People eat but your blessings ah, blessings are eaten, even regret the opportunity is gone. The water flows slowly, prolonging life.

If your sons and daughters make a big deal out of your birthday, then I'm sure they will receive a lot of gifts that will far exceed their expenses. It is honorable that your children did not want to make a fortune on the occasion of your birthday. You should be happy, this is for their own virtue, but also for you to accumulate blessings ah, should not be difficult for them ah.

No one will believe you if you say that your children are ungrateful, because you are surely in the headlines because of your children's help, which means that you are living a good life. If your children make you angry every day and forbid you to do this or that, then how can you still enjoy your life?

You ask what you should do? My answer is that you should be glad that you have such good sons and daughters who show their filial piety in every ordinary day, not just on the day of your birthday.

What should I do on my birthday? I think it's nice to have a family dinner, light a few candles on the cake, and make a quiet wish.

The image of this Forsythia flower is from the web. Thanks to the photographer.