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What do you think about "Don't envy other people's children, first make yourself the envy of other people's parents"?

What do you think about "Don't envy other people's children, first make yourself the envy of other people's parents"?

It's not too modest to say, but we did used to be the envy of other people's parents because our kids grew up learning well and not asking parents to worry.

I was born into a large family. My children have an unusually large number of cousins. In their generation. He was the best learner. Therefore his aunts and uncles always take him as an example to educate their own children, as well as those of my neighbors always ask me to introduce the experience, in fact, we are passive. Our experience is not to act is to act, because he grew up without having to care it, we do parents just go along with his thinking service on the line, we do parents do not follow the routine out of the box, since childhood, the use of free-range education, do parents did not worry about a little. Instead, he got into a prestigious university, and later through his own efforts. Over the GRE, applied to the world's leading schools, along the way, for our parents to win numerous honors, I often think, he may be a case of it!

Don't envy other people's children, first make yourself a parent who is envied by others.

That's a good one.

Too many parents in life envy other people's children, mine being one of them.

They often praise other people's children for their excellence, that's how they see how good other people's children are, and how they see how bad I am.

So, I grew up with a bit of an inferiority complex. This low self-esteem seriously affected my marriage, my career.

It is important to realize that children are replicas of their parents, and if the parents are good, the children will naturally not be bad.

Many parents, who are very ordinary themselves, compare their children to those of good families, and there is no comparison.

Although the urbanization gap is now getting smaller and smaller, there is still a big gap in education resources.

For example, in first-tier cities, English is taught in kindergarten, while in other cities it is taught in third grade.

Children from families with good parents have access to good educational resources, while children from families with average conditions do not have access to good educational resources.

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These gaps are hard to change.

Besides, parents have different patterns and give their children different education.

Children raised by parents with big patterns are naturally better than those raised by parents with small patterns.

Education experts are right, for children to excel, parents need to be excellent parents.

Parents are good, teach by example, subtle influence, the child will not be bad.

Envy of other people's children will only bring negative effects to the child. For example, the child will have low self-esteem, feel unloved, be jealous, and other unhealthy mentalities.

Therefore, parents should strive to become parents who are envied by others so that their children will naturally become children who are envied by others.

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Parents is a child's teacher, good family style is worth envying, I remember when I just gave birth to my son, due to my features in general, the bridge of the nose is not high, the grandmother said that the bridge of the nose looks like me ugly, I have been living in shame, really afraid of my son's nose like me, but God bless me, my son looks better than me, and now my granddaughter is even better, the good people of heaven does not deceive, a generation stronger than a generation!

I am in our small remote county, my colleagues in the unit, my classmates, my neighbors, all very envious of me. But I myself don't feel at all that there is anything how good I am compared with other parents.

However, as a parent, I think it is most important to teach by example, and I ask myself to make peace with my neighbors, never swear, never fight against the progress of others, and treat anyone politely. I have never been involved in playing cards and gambling, I always work hard to do my job, in the unit, whether it is internal or external work, I have done a good job, in the unit was praised by the people.

I teach my own children to develop good habits from an early age, be polite to others, complete homework positively, learning to have a clear goal, academic performance is not the best but its at least try their best.

My oldest daughter graduated with a Bachelor's degree and now teaches at a middle school in the county and is a classroom teacher, earning the title of Master Teacher.

My youngest daughter is now enrolled in a master's program at the Chinese Academy of Sciences. (specializing in particle and nuclear physics).

I have also been named by the county government as the Best Parent of the Year!


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I couldn't agree more with this sentiment. And have always strived to be, well, the envied mom!

It's something I wanted to say to my parents when I was a kid, and it's something that hurts my heart.

When I was a child, I was one of the "other kids". At the same time, I was always asked to follow the example of "other people's children".

Mom was a teacher, and in their group there were three other aunts about the same age, and there were four of us kids about the same age, and it was a real comparison from childhood to adulthood, and the only thing I was glad of was that I didn't go to the same school as them. The most unbelievable thing is that we even compare our meals. Other kids love to eat this, why don't you eat it.

A few of us have always been good friends, but when we all went off to college we pretty much cut ties. After growing up and leaving home, the last thing I wanted to hear was from them, and I felt sure they felt the same way!

Now that I have children of my own, I want to make sure that I don't let my children repeat my grief. Every child is a different body! Every child deserves proud parents!

I'm still a rookie at being a mom, but I do agree with growing up with your kids, they are your mirror. I hardly watch TV on my cell phone for fear of my child becoming dependent on it. Cell phone at home is also to answer calls, want to entertain when the child is asleep. In order to make the child love reading, every time I take the child to the playground must go to the bookstore once. The cost of buying books is also one of the annual expenses. Maybe my kids can't understand the significance of books now, but I'm sure they'll miss reading quietly when they grow up!

I'm also writing in the headlines because my daughter is in elementary school and she's writing little essays and I promised her I'd write something too!

Parents have always been role models in the eyes of their children, and even though we are not successful, we are doing our best to become good and be proud of our children! Our children will also be our pride!

Thanks for the invite, I'm a mom of two. This really speaks to my heart, instead of envying other people's kids, I'd like to be moreFocus on your own learning and growth and keep your mind on your own children. Or learn more about parenting from great parents and become the envy of others.

I used to envy other people's kids.

When Dabao was in third grade, a classmate often came to my house to play because there was no one at home after school. Every time he came, he was seen doing his homework and finished it quickly. Sometimes when he ate at my house, he politely put the bowl back to the kitchen to clean it. After two parent-teacher conferences, the teacher even praised that student for his top grades, often helping the teacher with his work, and being well-liked at school.

There was a desire to learn from his mom about parenting, and they moved soon after. On occasion, when taking lessons from his mom, his mom said that because his brother gave himSetting a good example., my brother has always been a good student, homework is completed in a timely manner, and it is only after homework is done that he can play painfully.The usual habits and good study habits should also be set at a very early age and supervised to be done happily. This is because self-control is very weak in children before the age of 15.

The transformation of the baby mama

After the fourth grade, the big baby's grades dropped, often a hundred problems, the conflict between me and my child also two days a small quarrel, three days a big quarrel, the child 80% of the mind is dealing with me, it is no wonder that the grades will drop. Once a very coincidental opportunity to take the child to the library, found a few educational books, then a look at the addiction, theIt was also seriously realized that the reason why my child's problems were getting bigger had a lot to do with my poor parenting methods.At that time, I often complained about life, to the child is either nagging or scolding, the child's small point of the problem is to hold on to, the child's merits but seldom praise. I didn't set a good example for my children, and I never listened to my children, forcing my thoughts on them. It was then that I realized that I needed to learn more in order to keep up with my child, who is learning and growing every day, and to become better together with my child.

I became the envy of others.

Last year's National Day, Grandma came to Guangzhou to visit us, Dabao even took the initiative to ask to cook for her, Grandma was so happy, I was also excited for a long time, the child really grew up to understand and know how to be grateful. In fact, every weekend, Dabao will be responsible for buying groceries or washing dishes by himself, and often helps his brother to take a bath. His academic performance is also improving rapidly. On weekends, the whole family goes hiking or plays ball games, and sometimes goes to the bookstore or library. In sixth grade, I basically let go and don't have to worry about him, and he can still help me do a lot of things, and often encourages and praises me.

After my second baby went to kindergarten, I had more time to study, attended a parenting writing class, practiced what I learned and then summarized it, wrote nearly 500,000 words, and took two certificates. Non-stop learning and growth not only allowed me to find my own sense of value in life, but my two children also became more and more outstanding, and I became the object of envy by others.A person who wants to manage their children must first focus on their own learning and growth.

Parenting Tips

You want your child to be what you want them to be, you have to be what you want them to be first. You want your child to fall in love with reading and reading well, you have to fall in love with reading and learning yourself.Don't force your child to do what you can't do yourself

Children grow up learning new things in school every day, and if we parents do not move forward, do not think and do not learn. Then one day, children and society will abandon us.

Love to learn in order to meet your excellent self, learn parenting knowledge, parenting classes, child psychology, etc., or your favorite things, as long as we learn and not only learn, we will surely become envied by others as well.

I am Wang Shuxia, sunshine love learning full-time baby mama, if there are aliases, please be more tolerant. Because every child is different and other people's experience can only be used for our reference. Parenting is the most amazing project, and we need to keep learning and growing. It's not easy to write, welcome to follow, like and forward. Efforts are like sunshine, warming everyone; transferring positive energy, caring for every child.

What a poisonous parenting advice! The first half of the sentence teaches people not to compare themselves, but the second half teaches people to compare themselves. There is a saying that "a dead horse runs on a hill", and every family's situation is very different, so how can we compare ourselves?

Don't envy other people's children, because your child will not be exactly the same as someone else's; likewise don't aim at the parent that other people envy, you're not him, and you can't copy him, and more importantly, your child needs his own parents, not someone else's.

In the eyes of every young child, no matter whether their parents are right or wrong, no matter how they are treated by their parents, they always think that their parents are the best existence, the most powerful existence, do not believe you ask those 3, 5, 7-year-old children to give them a new mom and dad willing to.

And the most important thing we can do as parents is not to be the envy of others, but to be the parents who keep adjusting ourselves as our children grow up and keep ourselves improving!

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