The absence of one of these three is not a reliable and happy old age. However, there is no such thing as perfection, especially for the elderly, and only a solid career can cope with crises and ensure well-being.

I appreciate that the reason why a successful career should be the priority weight in comparison is because:

For one thing, there are things to do, there is a steady stream of income, you will have the actual ability to heart to heart, hand and foot love of the wife good, filial piety and righteousness of the children good, in the young people of the heavy weight of the special period of time, your career success is the children's happiness and well-being, happy and progress of the ladder;

Secondly, Xing thing to eliminate boredom, busy every day in the cause, drilling in the knowledge, thinking of new trends, over time, for the gradual aging of you, because of the inner strength, the inspiration impulse, the new "blood" injection, you will maintain once 㕵 full of vitality, beneficial to the health of the body and mind, and contribute to the cycle of positive energy. You will have the foundation, ability, passion, charisma, chicken soup for themselves, for their wives, for their children, for their families, for the community to do something for the old, to create value.

Touching the scene, have feelings, inevitably not well, please friends index. I look forward to your encouragement!

Words to say:

I can't spend the money I have in both hands.

You can't rely on having children;

I'm afraid my old partner has traveled to the west.

Woo! Woo!

For an elderly person, the old partner, money and children are all dependent. Before entering the stage of old age should save for a rainy day to do a good job on the mind, body, material preparation, of which the money is to "soldiers and horses have not yet moved, food and fodder first", the need for long-term accumulation.

Decades with you around the old partner but your backbone ah; children is one of your spiritual dependence, if you want to rely on the children of economic risk is great; money is a man's courage, is the soul of old age, but also your cohesion. Once the property is scattered (prematurely to the children), it means that your soul is scattered, at the mercy of others, the old life is not guaranteed! As for the old partner, children, money which is the most reliable question or look at the true story of a nearly seventy-year-old man with two houses and millions of dollars in savings. He lay in the intensive care unit has been in a coma for nearly half a month, in a life-and-death situation, children due to family matters or physical reasons can not be accompanied by long-term. At this time, only the frail and sickly old companion put his life on the line to run around, pleading with the doctor to save his life, pleading with the other nurses accompanying the patient to help carry the patient back and forth to undergo various checks ....... After the doctor's wonderful hands back to the spring, the old companion and caregiver care, multi-party cooperation finally recovered an old life, the old man has now recovered and can work. You see in the end who is more reliable answer already have it.

【Super Sister's point of view] rely on who is better than relying on yourself, what can't have a disease, nothing can't have no money! Real life will give you the naked answer!

Super Sister gives you an example from her own side:

First, when you are young, you are old! Life is not ambitious old hand no money million not!

My upstairs neighbor has been noisy all his life, his son got married and had a child and moved out of the neighborhood, leaving the old couple at home. This uncle is the type of person who has worked hard all his life for nothing, his daughter-in-law has disliked him all his life, and he has been repressed all his life.

We are an old-fashioned neighborhood, the house's sound insulation effect is poor, from time to time, I heard the upstairs aunts counting the bit uncle how incapable, the home can not, outside can not ...... aunts are scolding, crying at the same time, seldom hear the uncle voice, every day to see the most is this uncle to get the bike to repair over to repair over.

This uncle seldom greeted people in the compound and was usually quiet.

Listen to my father said he used to do a lot of business, but all ended in failure, the old age of his son did not strive to be pulled into the water by pyramid schemes, borrowed money from an aunt's family in the compound, and finally unable to repay the defendant to the court. In the court under the mediation of the uncle's monthly pension for his son to pay off the debt, the career is not good, the child is not filial, husband and wife do not get along, the uncle's body slowly exaggerated!

The community has a free physical examination every year, the uncle also went to the physical examination, some of the indicators are not normal doctor recommended that he go to a large hospital for review, he in order to save money are to their own good health as a reason to shirk. As a result, he died of heart attack one night, a life so hastily gone! He didn't spend a penny of his pension before he died, and he didn't leave a penny of his inheritance. The family three days after the completion of his loss, everything is back to the usual calm, the uncle also so quietly gone ......

Secondly, children are their own debtors; those who are promising will leave them and go far away, while those who are not promising will have to work for themselves!

There are a few families in our compound whose children grew up to be great readers, but now they are settled abroad, and they can't come back once a year, or not even once in a few years, and they are busy with their work! Parents can only watch videos when they want to see their children.

An old couple is old, their own mobility is not convenient, can not go out to buy food to cook, clothes can not wash themselves, so they sold the neighborhood house to live in the nursing home, the couple more or less have a care, the child is still busy abroad!

A holiday unit sent people over to pay their respects, the old couple said with tears in their eyes: children almost on the line, do not expect too much success, too much success will be too far away from their own, want to see can not see! Later, I heard the unit said that one of the old man died of illness, the child did not have time to come back to see the last time!

Pity the world's parents, the child has no success when parents will be for the child to worry about the child hope that the child has success, and when the child has success far away from their own, they will regret!

Third, the old rely on who is better than relying on their own, the old own hands have money is the hard way!

When you get old, you can't point to your children or your partner, only money in your own hand is the hard way.

The old partner's health is better than you can still make more companionship with you, if the body is not as good as you, you have to take care of him, your health is good, if you live difficult to take care of their own ideal care of the heart is not enough!

The child also has to support the family and work, he can hold his own home up okay, not hold up you have to help to beat him!

When you are old and have money in your hand is different, you are economically independent children will miss you, you have a big problem as long as the money can be solved is not a problem, the old unless the old age, sickness and death of their own can not make the decision, the other money can make the decision!

Money isn't everything, but you can't do without it!

The child filial piety but the hand is in short supply, the heart is not enough, he wants to filial piety without the ability to no use, their hands have money in the hands of what you want to do can do what you want to do, want to give the child to help can also be solved to solve the child's urgent needs! Money is especially important when you are old, money is the hard way!

Young and hard to raise their children, for children to the death of the silk square, their old age can spend their twilight years, the old have to rely on, the old have to support, there will be someone tea and water, in the hospital bed in front of the Hou, which can only say that there are some people have the possibility of, but more people can only be supported by their own suffering, there is a sentence on the classic, but also said to be in place, even if you have a group of children, when you are old, you really understand that you are not dependent on anyone. Who can not rely on, can only rely on their own. Now young people many people do not believe that said pessimistic.

Old companion, children, money can only choose one, I choose money, old companion and their own age, they are old, old companion is also old, take care of their own very hard, if you really can not move, to take care of your old companion every day to eat and drink, the old companion's body can not eat, and also not possible to take care of you every day, unless you have a monthly retirement pension of 7,8000, and his pension is less, you die, his two or three thousand dollars! It is not enough to take care of you for the sake of money, but you will be cursed every day, and even if you take care of you, you will be unwilling to do so.

Then look at the children, some children even want to come to take care of you, but the harsh reality does not allow, the children themselves have a home, there are children have children to raise him, to earn a living, if you come to take care of you, it is necessary to resign from his job, his family will be less than a point of income, the quality of life in his home is not the same, but also cause his other partner's strong dissatisfaction, the two will be quarreled because of their own fights, fights, and even divorce, a good home because of their own broken up, their hearts are also very upset, have strong feelings of guilt, children have a happy home, can be happy happy life, this is the parents' greatest wish. A good family because of their own scattered, their hearts are also very upset, have a strong sense of guilt, children have a happy home, can be happy and happy life, this is the parents' greatest wish.

And some children from childhood are enjoying the parents of the meticulous care, even after marriage and children, parents and continue to free home with children, take care of all their lives, so that they are dozens of years old still feel at ease to enjoy the care of their parents, pampered from a young age. Now parents old, no self-care ability, want children every day like you take care of him, this is unlikely, one is not as good as the patience, filial piety, he can not do it, more disgusting than the end of the poop and urine. Don't tell him that everyone has to be old, he is not old now, people who are not all old at once, before their parents did not say that you will also be old? Did you accept it all at once? It is not their own age day by day, the body is getting worse and worse, their own slow experience.

Like children do not study well, every day parents talk hard, children can listen to it? Can't listen to it, only into the society, was bumped head and blood, ate all the uneducated, unskilled suffering before regretting then why don't study well, but it's already too late. Personally, I would choose money, money is good. If you can't move, your children would like to take care of themselves, and you have the money to give him a salary, that is, take the money to invite them to take care of him, so that his other partner will not object to it, and have a monthly salary, and not to take care of themselves, there is still no reason to object to it.

If the children do not take care of themselves, they can go to a good nursing home, or hire someone to take care of the old, no money, children to take care of themselves, but also to pay for your hospital fees, living expenses, who can take care of how long, that is, to take care of their own old people, their own money is good, their own are poor, is not complaining? Some of the old partner is particularly selfish, only you take care of his, if it is his turn to take care of you, not to see all his face, suffered a lot of stares, money is better, no money would like you to die earlier. People are inherently selfish, once you have no value at all, he died less of a burden.

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When people grow old and cannot give to society, to others, to their children, it is safe to say that a certain number of them are not very well off in their old age. Only a small number of people are in a good position. So, who can we rely on in our old age? Many people agree that: rely on the mountains to fall; rely on the water to flow; rely on everyone to go. Are we in a desperate situation? No, there is still a way: mainly rely on their own money! Money, this is the king's way, is also the fundamental way out. Why do we say so?

1. Rely on your old partner? Since you are old, what can your old partner do? Can it serve you? The answer is no. If you are in your seventies or eighties, your partner is also in the same situation, and has lost the ability to work, and is unable to provide you with effective services. If your partner is not in good health, you still need to serve and give all kinds of help and care.

2. Reliability of children? Probably not. Children have their own lives, work, and family, they can not stretch, it is difficult to manage themselves and their children, how can they still have the energy to take care of you? For those who are filial, it would be good to hire a nanny or send you to a nursing home. However, the money for hiring someone and going to a nursing home still has to be paid for by yourself. The ungrateful children, do not even bother to ask you, you have to do everything yourself, or to do. It's good enough to ask you on New Year's holidays, and you should be satisfied.

3. Only money can be relied on. There is never any savior in the world, everything depends on themselves, rely on their own hands with money. As the saying goes: "in the hands of food, the heart does not panic". Yes, usually their own way, to accumulate a part of the money, and should be tightly clenched in the hand, do not give all the children. You do not have money in hand, looking for them to ask for, is like "a tiger's mouth to take food"! How can they give it to you? It's almost like giving it to them! So, if you have money, you can hire a nanny or enter a better nursing home to spend the rest of your life.

4. It also depends on a good body. Of course, the last very important issue is: usually, must take good care of themselves, pay attention to health. It is best to exercise more, more sports, they can take care of themselves, have the ability to take care of themselves is better than anything else.

These are some of the author's views and suggestions to elderly people. They may not be entirely correct, but are for reference.

The most reliable is the old partner.

Everyone travels through the river of time, and all grow old with the flow of time. Time is fair to everyone, and will not be lived for an hour and sixty-one minutes just because of who has more money, or who has a bigger government.

When we reach old age, what is most reliable for us, on second thought, money is the most important.

The reason why I say that is because:

Don't expect your child to stay by your side all the time

From this point of view, people should rely on their children in their old age. It is not wrong to assume that "I gave birth to you and raised you, of course you have to give me old age". However, nowadays the social pressure is too great, a couple of old people and children, but also busy with work, I am afraid that filial piety in front of the bed is not enough. Some parents live alone, January difficult to see their children once or twice; besides, parents old, sick, no money to reach out to their children, son willing to daughter-in-law may not agree; daughter want to give son-in-law will also make a mood. It is also true that, when encountering ungrateful daughters-in-law, son-in-law, do children's left and right difficult.

Expecting children to do filial piety is also unrealistic, can give a little money is not... There are a lot of children who are not filial, and there is no such thing as 'chewing on the old man'.

A companion can only be with you 'for a while' and can't always be counted on to be there.

'Young couples grow old together', there is no more beautiful picture in the world than an elderly couple with gray hair, walking hand in hand, or feeding the sick among them with medicine and food, accompanying them in their old age, which is only the ideal state. In fact, there are exceptions. There is no feeling that the old man after the industry, the heart gradually can not load a lot of people, because TA already can not care so much, they are thinking about their own live well, live long. At this time, also expect the old partner care, wait, and even coax you, for you to pay, and how many people can be so? Lying in the hospital bed by the old partner to call and call, no good look is not a lot. Besides, the old partner will eventually have a first to leave this world, this old life rely on who?

Children are unable to be with them or are ungrateful; when your partner is no longer with you, it's better to have some money saved up.

Money isn't everything, but without it, nothing is. Mentioning money is a bit realistic and seems cold. In reality, it is the most solid. It is yours, bring it and use it. Especially in the event that your children are no longer filial, and your old partner is no longer there, it is the 'bottom line', so you can go to a home for the elderly, or hire someone to take care of you.

Don't be too dependent on others, whether spiritually or materially. What others can give you, they can also take away; as long as it is your own, you have the exclusive right. It is only money that belongs to you. It can also be said that how others treat you depends on your ability and 'strength'.

Saving for a rainy day is not a cowardly thing, born to be a man, or have to educate the children well, treat your partner well, after all, the hearts of the people are meat long, affection can not be ignored. People are old, rich certainly reliable, the old partner can not accompany the whole life, even if the children will know the kindness, usually save some money, the evening is not miserable, the later years will not regret.

Upstairs in my house, there is an old couple, they are together, and there is a lonely old man, lonely and cold, the two comparisons, let me feel deeply, after the old, the most reliable, is to have a shadow, interdependent companion.

I live in a six-storey boarding house with two elderly people living upstairs, both of whom are retired old cadres. The family's name is Zhang. 70-year-old Zhang's aunt passed away a few years ago, and he lives alone. He does not know how to do any housework, and has two sons, one in a foreign province and one in the local area with bad legs. Uncle Zhang has a bad temper, his sons have money, his pension is not low, spend a lot of money, hired him several nannies, they are all by him fussy and dislike, because no one can not do his old partner as meticulous care of him. Uncle Zhang is always seen sitting alone in the pavilion downstairs, motionless, sitting for hours. Recently, he had a seizure and could always be heard gasping for breath as he walked up the stairs alone, taking several steps and resting for a few minutes. Sometimes he was confused and urinated everywhere, and the hallway was always filled with stench, and the whole building was full of grievances, but it was not easy to talk about him. A female bellhop nanny in his home in and out for a while, other than that, he is always hanging, eyes like a wooden fish, face pale, no smile, rarely care about people, aging very quickly, like more than 80 years of the appearance of dying.

The other family's uncle is surnamed Wu and his aunt is also surnamed Zhang. While Auntie Zhang is also a retired administrative leader with a cheerful and enthusiastic personality, Uncle Wu is quiet and always smiles faintly. Both families are from Shandong, also more than 70 years old, a daughter lives in Chengdu, a son in the neighborhood. Sometimes they go back to Shandong and bring back red dates for our families to eat, and sometimes they teach their neighbors how to make dumplings. In the morning, we see the two people in the yard for a few rounds, and then follow each other to the market to buy food back, in the afternoon they go out to the senior center to play, and in the evening they take a walk together again, talking and laughing. The old couple can always be heard conversing in the hallway, and often chatting and talking with everyone. The two look younger and younger, healthy and light on their feet. Last month, Auntie Zhang had an operation for a long thing in her mouth, and Uncle Wu took good care of her, boiling congee every morning, going to the market to buy vegetables for various flavors, and feeding Auntie Zhang one bite at a time. When we went to see the aunt, she could not speak, only gestures, Uncle Wu understood at a glance, with her gestures as an interpreter, the two old people have a heart to heart, a tacit understanding, a picture of a happy old age, let a person envy and sigh a lot.

People should count on the old partner in the old age, it is said that the young couple in the old age, followed by money, counting on children, I can only say that your idea is too naive, you raise children is the task, but do not count on it, because the children have to earn money to support the family, take care of their parents are not enough time ah.
I'll tell you my own personal experience, my husband was 51 years old when he got a terminal illness of cholangiocarcinoma, although his relationship with me before he fell ill was like an enemy, and he didn't speak for years, not to mention his warmth to me, but I'm not a narrow-minded woman who holds a grudge, and I poured out all the money I had left for my future retirement to take him to major cities to accompany him to see a doctor, and in the process of treating the disease, I deeply felt that the companionship and the money are very important, and only the companion can take care of you at the bedside. Only a companion can take care of you in front of the hospital bed, expect to spend money to find a caregiver to help you? Money is cold, only the hand of the loved one is warm, I saw those who do not have a companion and children in the hospital, want to drink water or go to the toilet can not be immediately as you wish, because the caregiver is not exclusively for your one person, the general family can not afford to hire a full-time companion.
Counting on the children? In the hospital I met the old couple sick at the same time, this old couple has four sons, two daughters, because the family demolition money is not divided into two daughters, when the old couple is sick, the two daughters did not even come to see a glance, only three of the four sons to take turns to take care of, that did not come to the old couple's favorite son, the three sons to come to the hospital one day to wait for their parents, a person to take care of the parents are not on the same floor, it is very difficult to take care of his father can not take care of his mother. Parents are very difficult to take care of his father can not take care of his mother, take care of the elderly to eat the most time-consuming, usually takes more than two hours, because the time to eat is either to poop or to pee, take care of this one, and then go to take care of that one, and again, more than two hours, I saw their sons rushed to the sweaty, which is still the three sons take turns for a day, if it is the only child in the parents in their old age, I feel that the parents are not the only children in the hospital to accompany around the clock. If the only child in the parents' old age around the clock, I feel too unrealistic, because the child also has a family to take care of, he also has to spend time working to earn money to support the family, how can there be extra time to take care of parents? Therefore, when a person grows old, the old partner and money are the most important things. Whoever leaves early enjoys the happiness of the couple, and the one who is left is the most pitiful one, and when he collapses in the hospital bed, money can't buy dignity, and the most appropriate dignity on this earth is reflected in the end of the life.
The hospital is a magical place, every day in the most extreme sadness and joy on earth, in the hospital for a long time you will find that there are rich people here, there are also poor people, people can only come here to realize that there is a cold heart in the world, there is also the warmest love, here you can see the companionship of the old and can see the sadness of the old and not support the old, where hypocritical love will be the original form, and sincere love will withstand all or even Across the life and death, here you will find that old age, sickness and death is the norm of life, sweet and sour are small things, and you have to remember, those who hold you tight in the darkness, the person who came to see you by car, the person who cried with you, the person who stayed with you in the hospital, and the person who always puts you first, those are the people who should be cherished the most in your life.

Below, the Lodgemaster expresses his opinion.

As the saying goes:Life is a life of grass and trees. Most people's life, have to intertwine the love of husband and wife, the love of children, and accompanied by a lifetime of wealth, and finally have to be accounted for. Old partner, children, money for everyone, are very important, but the Lodge owner believes that these three, the old partner is the most important and most reliable. The reason is as follows.

First, about the old companion, has been together through thick and thin for decades, mutual care, mutual companionship, all the way through the storms and difficulties, the emotional foundation is quite deep. People to old age, when put down all the laborious time, will be more lonely and loneliness, only the old partner can be long-term care for each other, mutual warmth, can play this role, but also have the time and energy to play this role.

Secondly, concerning children, children will only rely on their parents when they are small, and as they grow up and mature, their reliance on their parents will become smaller and smaller. As they grow up and mature, their dependence on their parents will become smaller and smaller. When they start their own families and have their own new lives, their parents will only be the objects they miss, but not the objects they need to be with every day, and it is already good enough for them to come home to see each other often. They spend more time and energy on their own families and children, in addition to their work.

Thirdly, concerning money, the desire for money tends to decrease after old age. As we can see in life, people need more companionship in their old age. When their partners are gone and their children are often not around, many old people who have a certain amount of money tend to have a very low sense of well-being. If the children are reasonable, understanding and filial piety, okay, otherwise, the wealth of the elderly on the contrary is a burden, but become a family rupture, the escalation of conflict trigger.

The above is only the Lodge owner's personal opinion, less than, we can correct, remind, add!