I'm happy to answer your questions. First, define what is old age? Age 65 or older is called old age, and this age group is basically three generations of fathers, sons, and grandchildren. Next, define what makes an aged couple become enemies.

1. Even if you were young and didn't get along, you made do for the sake of your children;

2. Middle-aged for children (house, tuition fees, bride price), the father's medical expenses for a long time outside the struggle, less and more away from each other;

3. Older idle when the contradiction is centrally highlighted, coupled with the lack of (cherish, tolerance, care, care), look at each other everywhere, full of contempt, full of grudges and bad language, coupled with long-term (separate beds, separate washing, separate food), love all the corners dug out, the other party as a hater is bound to be a logical thing.

Annotation:

Separate washing: Wash your own clothes.

Sharing food: getting your own food.

There are many couples, when they are young, in order to raise children, each other will choose to hold back, take my neighbor, now the neighbor's uncle is old, bad health, legs and feet are not convenient, I always hear the aunt will be loudly scolded uncle, you might as well die early, die I will be liberated, let me live a few days of comfort, please ......

I just told my mom, ahhh! Can't really listen anymore.

Mom said, you don't know, that aunt had suffered a lot of losses when she was young. When I was young, uncle is the leader of the unit, not at home all day, the family things fall on the shoulders of auntie, auntie has become a typical "rural women", of course, uncle in the unit, but also suave man, inevitably peach color news.

As a result of getting together and being away from each other, the uncle has little affection for the aunt, having seen more flowers and plants outside, the yellow face of the family can not see, but just throw down a little living expenses every month, on the grounds that work is busy, and then left.

Auntie endured most of her life in silence for her family and children. Now, when you are old and need a companion, you come home. Where was your aunt when she needed you? So this is why old couples become "enemies" even when they are old.

Now that the kids are older and have families of their own, Uncle is getting old and needs to be looked after, so he stays with Auntie. When I was young, I didn't think of today. Old companion old companion old to be companion.

I am also puzzled by this question. If couples have conflicts when they are young and become enemies in their old age, it is still justifiable.

It is incomprehensible that some couples who were so in love when they were young should turn against each other, pull out their swords, and separate and divorce when they enter old age.

This may be directly related to the physiological changes of the elderly. Some old people hold grudges, seven hundred years of grain and eight hundred years of Kang, the older they are, the clearer they remember.

Often reopen old scores and say angry words. Like the lamp oil is about to boil dry, there is no passion between husband and wife, no care for each other. Brain is not as good as the unpleasant code, couples once hand in hand through the burning years of passion, the heart of a piece of armor did not remain.

The great mathematician Hua Luogeng's later years is so. He and his wife did not live in harmony, had to live separately, each in loneliness and loneliness in the rest of their lives, to the death of each other did not meet. Celebrity husband and wife relationship can be so, ordinary people is not surprising.

When conflicts arise between elderly couples, children must step in and persuade and mediate in a pleasant manner. Let the father be humble, let the mother be kind. Really irreconcilable, can not be resolved, from the point of view of safety and health, you can let the parents live apart for a period of time to see what happens.

After some time of missing each other, you can get back together. If you still bite the bullet and won't let go, then separate forever. No divorce, no division of property, each to their own good. It's just that this will increase the burden on the children to take care of their parents separately.

As for whether they will be buried together after a hundred years, the views of the two elderly people will have to be respected.

Can only say that when young did not rub well, three different views, weak feelings, all for the sake of the children have a complete home, tolerate, children older, their own old do not want to put up with, and then produced no goal of resistance. Instead of taking care of each other, they complain and blame each other. So it is never the last straw that breaks the camel's back, and three feet of ice is never a day's cold.

Marriage is the practice of two people, a person knows how to retreat, two people can be happy, know how to tolerate, give each other respect, leave space for each other, in order to be happy to grow old together.

Elderly couples have become "enemies" in their old age, and although the reasons for this are manifold, I still think that it is worth pondering over and regretting.

First, there is no emotional foundation, resulting from arranged marriages.

Now 60 ~ 70 years old or so of the elderly, young love, which is now so open and tolerant with their own hearts. At that time, as long as the parents fancy, this matter is settled, although the heart is not very satisfied, but the father's order is difficult to disobey, but also had to stifle the pain to deal with the life. By now everything else has passed, this kind of dissatisfaction and resentment, but can not help but burst out again, new grudges and old hatreds together, you look at my eyes, I see you come to the gas, to see what all bored, became an enemy.

(b) Stressful living conditions and chronic poverty.

When I was young and started a family, my family was penniless, barely making ends meet, and after decades of hard work, life still hasn't changed much. Look around the relatives and friends, in the standard of living by others to be left behind for more than ten years distance. Feel too lose, feel very lose face, feel each other is too incompetent, so that people can not see hope, began to look down on bored with each other, how many days do not say a word, and over time has become an enemy.

Thirdly, by emotional derailment.

Life after the food and clothing, one of the party for the old not respect. Think they have money in hand, the body is also good, began to look at their partners, looking for the wrong picking reason to see strange, outside the womanizing, do not do the right thing. Older partner repeatedly advised ineffective, quarrel also useless, so the other side of the resentment, quarrel into a regular meal, the family has no peace, see each other like an enemy.

Fourthly, we can share in suffering, but not in blessing.

When they were young, in order to change the family's living conditions, husband and wife hard work, wind and rain, get up early in the morning and crawl in the middle of the night, work hard, no regrets. But after having a modernized family with everything, the couple's feelings have thinned and changed. The beginning of you do not like me, I am also sick of you, but also dislike each other, words do not agree, talk about the fight, really become enemies.

One night husband and wife, can be together through thick and thin, living to old age is not easy, although there are still some complaints and dissatisfaction, but no one is perfect, after all, is the past. Should be more sympathetic tolerance each other. To think more about these years, the other party to bring those benefits to themselves, the contribution made to the family. To cherish the family, mutual understanding, mutual tolerance and understanding of each other, and spend their twilight years together. Can no longer put the "enemy" to continue, so that the consequences, is regrettable and regrettable!

Thanks for the answer: this subject matter in a lot of old age after the old couple most of the perverted heart, after 50 years old and 50 years old is not the same, 50 years old before most of the love of face, male dominated by female dominated by a man to make money and women to spend generally do not fight, harmonious home, 50 years old men and women have entered the old age, when the scenery has been over, and the money is not earning too much, strength, physique is not as good as the young when menopause a decline in immunity to the various problems and then on the body, people are selfish, then the body of a good party to the bad other half of the boredom. People are selfish, this time the body of a good party to the bad half of the other half of the boredom, to the old age of the conflict is more and more, the language with profanity is also more, the beauty of the young are forgotten, some three days and two head quarrels, others and children and grandchildren in the eyes of the two old like the death of the enemy, forgetting the love of the past years a lot of a sentence are perverted in the heart of the more elderly people eat and wear worry-free to take the pension as a treasure, the old! A point does not take a disease the more you look at the more angry a lot. I have a friend his old man 89 years old, Alzheimer's bed urination and defecation to eat all the old lady and children wait, the old man monthly salary of nearly ten thousand (department level) a family of young and old to the old man as a treasure, the most touched me is his younger brother in law (more than thirty years old) to the old man's bare buttocks on the back to run to the bathroom, grabbing a pull-down pants urination and defecation, than daughters, sons are good waiter, more than twenty years ago, such a filial piety of home to pay tribute to the elderly is not more than an elderly man or wife do not lack of money, there is no husband and wife do not have a good relationship. Not lack of money and there is no husband and wife discord, no pension also have love not much, most of the heart perverted into poor and sick reasons into the death of the right.

Thank you for your question:

Why? Old couples become enemies in their old age. In my ex-neighborhood (to protect people's privacy, it is not convenient to introduce the real name)有一对老夫侣，一生恩爱，从未有打闹过，夫妻都活到九十大多。 Sons, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, great-grandchildren before they were born, so old enough to be "five generations of the same family" is not common. It is very enviable, and may be in the family ancestry. When there is an old man in the time, it is also ninety-eighty-nine to die. In the past, some people often ask the old man how old, the old man smiled and said ninety, after a few years and then asked or ninety, ninety-something he never said, perhaps there is a taboo confusion.

The old couple had been kind all their lives, and had never been heard of giving him a quarrel or a fight. Good temper. I am also very close, often listen to him tell stories. Because of his old poems and books bottom, every day to keep a diary, know a lot of things. The old man is fine often sitting on the gate, there are many people are willing to listen to him Laquan. He knew a lot about ancient times and was very popular.

However, in his later years, his temperament changed. He was still very good-tempered with outsiders, and there was no change. It is the husband and wife began to get more and more discord, son, daughter-in-law can not take them. The old couple a yard, four rooms, there is a cubicle. Because often fight, the two mouths separate, daughter-in-law cooking separate delivery. Perhaps the old man is senile, every day scolded his daughter-in-law want to poison him, his daughter-in-law will not let him. I sometimes see, quite happy. In fact, it is not cowardly, do not care about the old quarrel, all live how old age is also quite good, old and confused how to explain it?

As a husband and wife, no matter how good it is, there are not quarrels, just for fun, and generally no real thing. According to past fortune tellers, too much love is not good. As long as you make peace and don't go too far, you'll be fine.

Well, don't ramble on any further, it loses its meaning if you say too much.

My classmate's mom, who is in her 70s, moved in with her family and is adamant about divorcing her dad!

The old couple has been married for fifty years, her mother can't read or write, she just knows how to work all her life, and the money in her hand has never exceeded 100 dollars. The old man is bad-tempered and loves to scold people. He can scold you, but if you return the favor, he will kick you with his feet and beat you with his hands. The old lady has never worn a few new clothes in her life, and when she was young, she picked up her neighbors' clothes to wear.

The day just over a little, and the in-laws from the old home to take over, a little delicious are first available to the in-laws and husband, they ate the end of her and the children to eat, the youngest son because it is a grandson can eat two mouths of meat, she and her daughter can only be on the sidelines of the gulp, really swallowed the anger of a lifetime.

If you want to send some money to your parents in Jiangsu, the old man will scold you for half a day, saying that the daughter who is married off will be thrown out of the water, and you can at most send a hundred dollars to them.

A few years ago, the land was expropriated and the house was demolished and relocated, with a compensation of 2 million dollars, and the in-laws had to go back to their hometown, saying that they were going back to their roots and that they would be buried in their hometown when they died. The old man then said that he would go back to his hometown to take this money to build a house.

Because her parents died a long time ago and her children are here, her mother doesn't want to go back. Her parents-in-law are in their 90s, and she is also in her 70s. She can still have her children to help her here, but she doesn't have the energy to go back and serve them alone.

But the old man just won't do it, have to go back, all day long at home scolding, in-laws also all day long at home, worried about their own death outside. My classmate's mom couldn't stand it anymore, so she said to go for a divorce, so that the money can be divided up, and she can also live a few years of leisure.

The situation now is that the old man is adamant that he won't leave, and there's no way he's going to get his share of the money.

Why do old married couples become enemies:

After years of holding back, I'm finally at the age where I have nothing to lose.

When you are young couples have feelings and many things can be solved through communication. In middle age, there are a lot of concerns. For example, if the couple has too much trouble with each other, it will affect the growth of the children, make the old parents worry, and even affect the job stability and promotion. In addition, in the face of the heavy pressure of survival, in order to be able to rely on each other to live, many couples hold back so that they can have more time and energy to make a living.

But in old age, the old parents, the children have grown up, started a family, struggled all their lives, also have a little savings, many concerns are gone. The original nagging things, stars and sparks come out, once this emotion is not constrained, it is easy to become a big outbreak. Once involved in the matter of the old sesame seed rotten grain, quarrel, old married couples will become "enemies".

Loneliness in old age and becoming mouthy is also a factor.

There is a large part of the elderly, when they are young, the words are not much. But in old age, do not work, nothing to do, become a chatterbox, what big and small things can read and say three or five times. When the old partner in something not as good as their own intention, but also love to pick and choose to scold.

Older people are already more easily bored when their circle becomes smaller and they have fewer social contacts at work. Some may also have to deal with the fallout of their health not being as good as it used to be. It is also easy to get angry and feel dissatisfied when being scolded by their old partners. In the long run, the two look at each other.

It's disappointing to be all over the place when you should be living comfortably in your old age.

When it comes to life in old age, we all hope that we can live in peace, have something to rely on and enjoy our old age. To put it simply, we want to be happy, have filial piety, have savings to face the risk of illness, and so on. But how many people can realize such a life in old age?

How many people struggle all their lives, in the end, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, children poor, no one to rely on there are also people. There is endless worry, but it is already more than enough. The old man's state of mind to be more miserable and more miserable.

This is a time when old partners who cannot understand each other may turn into complaining about each other. Each has their own helplessness and heartache, and this negative emotion can only be vented towards the old partner. No one will not let anyone, leading to become "enemies".

In the final analysis, the elderly are a group of people who need special attention, and their livelihood and physical and mental health should not be neglected. As children, we should care more about our elderly parents, and we should try our best to make our own life better and not to let our elderly parents worry. Fewer worries, a broader heart, the old parents will be less worried, quarrels will also be relatively reduced.

There is a pattern to life, and all the animals in the world have this pattern. Real life and imaginary life are two different concepts. There is no such thing as a married couple that does not fight. To take an unrealistic example, dogs and cats can fight together, not to mention human beings. Human beings have a brain with high intelligence, high thinking and high judgment. In connection with this issue, I would like to say a few words about our couple. I've been studying and teaching for eight years. Love only read the third grade elementary school did not graduate. As the saying goes: ignorance is worse than poverty, and there is wisdom not in years. I think God since we put us together should cherish, life is not a few days of good times, really, this is the will of God, couples do not have the right and wrong, since you occupy the right and so what? I and my partner have entered the sixty, seriously love temper than before more irritable, no way to only take on, hear also as not heard, and then on fire, I will memorize a verse, she beeped I have the sense to read aloud the verse, anyway, I do not argue with you. Husband and wife life must have a hard have a soft, needle point to sharp knife both lose, and then there are children have children have grandchildren should pay attention to the image of the old man, otherwise the children are looking down on. Children do not have a good impression of you the consequences are terrible. Now, couples fight much less than in the past.