Good writer, you're in a very bad state of mind, with all your worries about the baby and all your other abilities, and you're showing signs of a fearful mind--

The eyes are full of confusion and lack of self-confidence, the most afraid of depression, the devil you. Please look at the open more put down, more out to walk and talk: talk is also a solution to the knot medicine, more talk about the heart of the troubles, the side of the narrative side of the said side of the crying ...... a few times to talk about, the heart of the depression of the shadow of the natural move.

In addition to find happy things, while coaxing children while entertaining, such as going to see the street things, but also observe the field dance theater ...... so that the heart of the depressed knot solution, the other small annoyance is not worth mentioning.

As for the future, there is an auspicious time when the car arrives at the mountain. Worry too much about the future, look in the mirror and smile. Be happy every day, the darkness will fade away and the dawn will be glad!

Tail best wishes to your fellow writers, and update a new you after seeing this post!

This is a very realistic and common phenomenon in today's society, every mother has such experiences and ideas, and even now there are many young girls are afraid to enter into marriage, afraid of raising children, in fact, this is all cognitive misunderstanding.

First, being a full-time mom doesn't necessarily mean you're incapable. Don't you need to be capable of bringing up a child and raising him? A confident woman will be confident to do anything, even sweeping the floor to collect the garbage are meaningful and valuable, to fully see the value of their own life, it is very important.

Second, if you feel that with children, there is a lot of free time, feel bored, then participate in more group activities, you can also go to study a course, psychology is also recommended, or writing about parenting, practicing writing, but at the same time can make like-minded friends. Add color to life.

Third, Lu Xun said: the world has no road, people walk more into the road. The road you take is your unique road, no need to compare with others, others are other people's road, everyone's scenery is different, your road also has your unique scenery, therefore, you do not have to inferiority complex.

Full-time motherhood is the most amazing profession, and if your child becomes a productive member of society one day, you are the proudest and happiest woman.

The greatness of a mother's love is that it's great because it's love.

If the problem is only one of confusion and lack of self-confidence, it should be the result of low mood and a bad heart. However, depression is not something to be taken lightly. Psychologically, this state is "suggestive", that is, the more you think there is something, over time, there really is something.

Especially in terms of health, there are often people a little uncomfortable will easily fall into a harebrained situation, want to think of their own body is not to grow something; pondering whether they are mentally ill; always feel that their heartbeat accelerated ...... and so on. This belongs to the reinforcement of suggestive behavior, may start just by chance so once or simply never, but the person repeated many times for a long time that he or she has a problem in some way, at first just do not feel confident, anxiety, with the passage of time may really evolve into a disease. In fact, there are many illnesses that are the result of bad behaviors such as rumination, mood anxiety, and anger.

During the period of wearing children, because there is no fixed work and rest time, coupled with the fact that many children have the habit of drinking night milk, it will exacerbate the problem of sleep deprivation of the mother, which is likely to cause lactating mothers with endocrine disorders, mood disorders, anxiety and other conditions. If this mood is not relieved for a long time, it will not only have a very big impact on the body of nursing mothers, but will even spread to children and family members. Therefore, breastfeeding mothers should learn to take care of their moods, and can be more free and relaxed with their babies.

Here are a few suggestions to help moms and dads with children.1. Synchronize with your child's routine. The time of day is different from the day-to-day life of a child. In particular, the child's work schedule is seriously upside down, the mother is a very big test. At this time, it is recommended to follow the child's time, the child rests, the mother rests; the child has fun, the mother accompanies. Synchronize the adult's routine with the child's or keep the same, so as to avoid the child's naughty too tossed mom, and more in line with the child's nature.

2, scientific planning time. You can utilize the period when you have children at home to recharge your interests, hobbies or work. For example, learn a foreign language, listen to an online class, learn to cook bread and pastry, and so on. Intersperse some positive energy and challenging content in the dull life of child care. Many working people don't have much time for self-education, self-testing, or developing a skill in their daily lives, but the baby-wearing stage has a fairly long period of time. If moms can make the most of this time to recharge and refresh themselves, it will definitely make it less difficult to return to work in the future.

3, increase appropriate sports. Many baby moms after joining the work, the longest vacation is with children, some places a full 12 months. This time can be appropriate to add some sports, fitness, yoga, etc., exercise can bring the best relaxation experience. Especially with children stage intake of a large number of meat products, milk and eggs and other high-energy, high-fat food, such a catering structure is very easy to get fat. Daily appropriate to increase a certain amount of physical activity, exercise body shape at the same time to enrich the rhythm of life with children.

A lot of full-time moms who have been at home for a long time do this because they've been out of touch with society for too long and have become unsure of themselves. Tell you, the best way to change the status quo is to go to study, to enrich themselves, so that they are confident. Learning, to learn what it is, first of all you have to find yourself like things, like me, I am also at home with children, the child went to kindergarten, I went to learn makeup, I learn makeup is not in order to go to become a makeup artist to make money, I am just a personal hobby, and then learn to make up, go out and give yourself a light makeup, beautiful, there is much more self-confidence, what to learn is not important, the important thing is that you want to get out of the step, if you are always nested in the house, you will become afraid to go out and party, afraid to go out and party, you will become afraid to go out and party. You will become afraid to go out and party, afraid to meet people and so on, so you have to let go of your children, don't always think that children can't do without us, in fact, they are very strong, so you have to pay attention to your own learning, words and deeds, and the child also needs you to be her role model, otherwise the child is older, may dislike the scruffy mom's oh.

I feel that I have no other ability except for bringing up children, and my heart is full of fear and confusion and lack of self-confidence, and I have a tendency to depression, so what should I do?

I didn't hesitate to rush in when I saw this question. Because of "déjà vu", because of "empathy", because of having been there.

A word to the wise: all you have to do now is change what you can and accept what you can't.

• I'm also a mom of two, 4 hours ago I just finished a busy and fulfilling day at work, 3 hours ago I rushed home to cook and do chores with the oldest and tuck in the second, 2 hours ago I got the kids fed and changed, 1 hour ago I accompanied them to their daily nightly playdate with stories, games, toys, and tucked in for bedtime, 40 minutes ago I'm sitting here writing this after my 7 year old old first baby just asleep, 10 minutes ago I picked up my 9 month old second baby who woke up in a panic and put him to sleep once again ......

• I was like you when I had my oldest, raising a baby on my own, and the fear and confusion and lack of confidence and depressive tendencies you mentioned were experienced, and I'm sure a lot of moms and dads are experiencing them now ......
  

• But we can't just sit around and muddle through and just get by. We can choose to help ourselves, we can choose to change, we can choose to accept, we can choose the choices you want to choose.
  

A little bit of loyal advice in the context of my past for moms and dads who are also going through this experience:

• If you can, unplug yourself, both physically and mentally. At this stage of our lives, we are at the most important age, the most exciting age, the age when we should satisfy our need for self-realization. Although our children are our responsibility and obligation, we should at least be ourselves first. Only if the mother really lives a meaningful and worthwhile life, with optimism and self-confidence, her children will grow up better in the future, because the mother is the best role model for her children.
  

• Based on this, don't give up on self-growth, this is an era full of opportunities, there are so many channels, ways and means to grow quickly, give us space to develop, and give life another possibility.
  
• You can read, build up, and dabble in a particular field or specialty to make yourself an expert in that field;
• You can practice writing, honing a skill while finding an outlet for your "emotions" and "feelings", headlines are your platform and we are the best audience;
• You can become a creator of watermelon videos to record your child's growth, gain followers and earn income;
• You can practice yoga and practice meditation through Keep;
• You can create and draw at home;
• You can record a video of the crafts you do with your child and upload it to the platform for everyone to learn from;
• You can share your newly learned baking results with your family and send them to your friends for them to comment and appreciate; you can teach yourself English at home through the APP and be your child's English enlightenment teacher while learning;
• You can ...... you really can ...... if you want to!
  

There are too many possibilities in life, you can try to change yourself, change your mindset, change what you can change; you also need to learn to accept, accept what you currently can not change. At this time, you will find that their fear, confusion, not confident are gone. Just turn around, is a confident, optimistic, positive, full of positive energy you.

I hope my answer helps you and all the moms and dads who are going through the confusion and fear and lack of self-confidenceFind your own piece of the sky, after all, the first thing we came into this world to do was to become the best version of ourselves.

I'm Manny Manny, a psychology enthusiast and a mom of two who is constantly seeking self-growth. Also a working woman. If you like my articles please give me a like to support me and feel free to follow me, I will continue to provide quality articles and insights and look forward to growing with you.

Uninvited, first of all you shouldn't be nervous, it's normal to experience this phenomenon, it's something that happens to many moms and dads.

When you are bringing up a baby, you will be unhappy for no reason and want to lose your temper, sometimes a small thing is not done well, you can collapse, and infinitely amplify this pessimistic mentality, the more you think about it, the more horrible it is, and the more you think about it, the more you feel that you are useless. For your situation, you can use the following ways to regulate:

The first thing is to get your routine right.

With children, often routine is more chaotic, you can first adjust the normal routine, chores and other chores slowly handed over to the family, every mother with children are hard, but a form of anger to vent their dissatisfaction, it will make the family even more do not understand you, sad or their own.

The next step is to exercise more

Schedule some time to do some exercise every day, exercise is really a great way to destress. Try it and you'll be able to experience that rush you get after exercising.

The third is reading to learn

In the age of self-publishing, there is a lot of information to access, tips to learn and more. If you feel like you're slowly getting out of touch with society, you need to take action and make time to recharge your batteries when you're not with your kids. Listening to music, writing in a journal, drawing, etc. can be a way to let off steam when you're irritated.

Fourth don't keep it in your head, say it.

There is a lot of poisonous chicken soup nowadays, learn to distinguish it, don't see others being pampered and then magnify your pity infinitely. In fact, many people's lives are all over the place, you can talk to your mom friends around you, it is said that 80% of moms feel the same way, but since everyone can live a good life, it means that these problems are not a problem for you. Having the support of your mom friends and knowing that you are not alone will also slowly help you through this mental journey.

These are my answers, I hope they can help you.

I feel the same way!

I'm also a full-time 10 year old mom, and my daily life consists of waking up at 6:00am to make breakfast, waking up my eldest at 7:00am to wake up, wash up, eat, and then sending my eldest to school on his own (when I don't have a second baby, I have to send my eldest to school). Then I go to school by myself (when I don't have a second baby, I have to send him to school). It's almost nine o'clock when I come back, and after I go to the market to buy food, I come home and start to clean up the house, wash clothes and do cleaning. It's not long before noon, so I'll just make myself some food and take a nap. After sleeping until two o'clock, I get up to prepare the materials for dinner, wash the vegetables, cut the vegetables, after these preparations, rest for a while, Dabao will come back from school. After he came back to eat some fruits, he stayed home to write his essay, and I hurried to pick up my second baby from school. When the second baby came back, it was almost dinner time, so I dove into the kitchen to make dinner again, and I had to keep my ears open to see if the two brothers were arguing and if the second baby had fallen. After dinner, I had to wash the dishes and clean up the kitchen. Only after all these are done do I have time to check homework for big baby. When the two kids are at home, I'm like a gyroscope spinning non-stop, and the only time I have a little time to myself is when they're both asleep, and it feels incredibly relaxing to check my phone and catch up on my dramas!

All the ideals of my youth have disappeared in the midst of my wealth, and I have become a housewife that I used to despise. Some people would say that other moms have a pretty good life and are strong women, even though they bring up children. But that's a minority after all, and the majority are still people like me who have lost their way in the family! Maybe I lack the courage to change, maybe I'm so common that I don't have a skill, maybe I lack some luck, maybe many excuses are so pale, but I'm happiest when I can accompany my two children to grow up healthily!

Individuals make different choices, so they have different lives! Common Gratitude!!!

I, as a full-time mom of two, would like to say a few words about my experience as a full-time mom! I hope it helps you to get through the anxiety, lack of confidence and lack of acceptance that comes from being without yourself with kids and in turn!

My oldest is seven weeks old this year and this is my seventh year as a full-time mom. When my oldest was three weeks old and I was pregnant with my second at the same time, the anxiety and insecurity I felt inside came rushing towards me all at once, and I was especially helpless and uncertain. There was no one around me to help me, and I didn't even know who to talk to when I was complaining! Because I was married far away from my parents, my friends who used to be good friends, after I got married, slowly contacted me less! And I haven't had a job for three or four years, so I don't have a social circle. During that time, I did not have the spirit to do anything, I feel that my life is already like this, no goals, no ideal, no self, and at the same time not recognized.

It was like that for a month, my mood was getting worse and my temper was getting worse. When I realized that I, myself, had lived the last thing I ever wanted to. I decided to change this situation and told myself that this was never the life I wanted. So I picked up my books again, enrolled in a title exam, and used all the time I had to study hard, and finally got my title certificate six months later. Until now, I still remember that the moment I learned that the results passed, the satisfaction in my heart is a lot of things can not be replaced! Self-confidence has also been greatly improved, but also a recognition of their own. So, I enrolled in another examination that can enhance my education, although, every day, I am tired of bringing up children, and even the rare rest time is used to read books. But this kind of busyness is fulfilling and happy for me! I don't have so much time to think about something unknown, living every day in the present is what we should try to do!

There are low points in everyone's life, and that's not scary, what's scary is that we stay stagnant. All the hard work will eventually pay off, and God never fails a person who tries to live a good life! Please be patient and listen to the sound of blossoms!

I was like this for a while after I had my baby, I just wanted to be with my baby, I didn't want to go out to work, I felt separated from my peers, and I was a bit lost and unsure. I often get angry for no apparent reason and have a tendency to get depressed.

But the subject has already realized the problem, so it's not too late. It is recommended that at this time, you talk to your friends or go out to social events to make a few new friends.

First, change yourself mentally.

When you become a mom, a lot of focus shifts to your kids, but never all of your life's focus shifts to your kids. A child is an individual and will grow up, not always tied to mom. So as a mom, you must maintain your inner independence and never impose your goals, your life's meaning on your child. It's not fair to your child or yourself. From now on, set goals for yourself and what you want to become. Take one step at a time to accomplish the realization. The way you keep working on yourself, your child will see it too.

Picking back up old specialties or job skills.

What were we doing before we had children? Were we regular company employees, teachers, or students? There must have been something we were good at. Even if there isn't, then we need to start learning new skills to prepare ourselves to enter the society again and find a job. Many moms will do this self-publishing thing in order to take care of their children at home. In fact, I don't really recommend it, the first time to comeback to work must be a regular income, only then can enhance the confidence. It's not that the self media is not suitable for baby moms, but the income from the self media is not very stable at the beginning, and it is easy to have a negative impact on the mindset of the baby moms. Of course, if there is already a certain foundation, the work time is more free of self media is still very suitable for the side of the home to take care of children, while working to earn money baby moms.

lit. say yes and then do it (idiom); fig. when the word is right, do it

Leaving the child to the elderly or child care center, the baby mama boldly has to start looking for a job. Often it is not objective factors such as lack of ability that hold you back, but subjective factors such as lack of confidence in your mindset. Believe me, after you go to work, your depression will get much better, because your focus is no longer just around your husband and children, but your work and yourself.

Be a student again and keep learning

Being a student again doesn't mean going back to school and going to graduate school; it means not giving up on learning and always learning something new. For example, skills needed at work, cooking or illustration needed in life, and languages. When the mind is replenished with new nutrients, our whole being becomes confident.

Go for it! We're all the strongest moms!