Speaking as someone who has been surrounded by three loved ones with cancer, this is a question I've actually thought about and asked in my mind many times.

The first time was in '88 when I was 17 and my father, who was 60 years old, died of squirting door cancer. The diagnosis of my father's disease was in '85, my father was a strong man and when he got the order, having been an army hygienist, he knew the results before my sister and mom did. He had no fear, or didn't let us feel that he did.

He actively cooperated with the doctor's treatment. At that time, there was no chemotherapy, and only the hospital in Shanghai had just introduced chemotherapy on a trial basis. Because of the long distance and little money, his unit did not support cross-province treatment, and then he stayed at home to recuperate. His disease was actually a malignant tumor, and he lived for three years after the operation, which was a long survival time at that time.

Death was so sudden that my mother took on the responsibility of caring for my father alone.At 17 years old, I was saddened by my father's passing, but instinctively resisted thinking about death and cancer.

The second time I thought about it was after I got married, when my husband's third uncle's 26 year old daughter died of the same disease as her father. As old as a flower, 988 college, a know-it-all up-and-coming other people's kid, not yet married.

Because of the similarity in personality, I am very afraid of getting cancer myself.

I thought about it in fear for a month, and the thought of "what if it was me" made me sweat and breathe heavily in fear.

Because of my youth, and because of my attachment to life, I will definitely treat it, and dump my family into it. I may even have to go, so I don't want to think about my husband and son, who must think of themselves first anyway, as they live.

The third time I thought about it was in 2012, when my 77 year old mother also had cancer, at a time when we siblings and my mother were living a happy and prosperous life.

I always thought that she, who was so gentle, calm and always smiling, would not be associated with cancer.

My mother was a clean person, over 70 years old, and her house was so spotless that she could hardly find a single strand of hair. After she was hospitalized, she was unable to take care of herself, and even though we sisters took good care of her, she developed bedsores around her tailbone at the back of her hips, and the wounds were red and slightly infected.

The attending doctor was a man in his 30s, and when he came over to look at the wound, my mother always said shyly, "It doesn't hurt, don't look, it's fine.

The very sick mother was very weak and had a very hard time because of the difficulty in breathing. Many times she told her brother that she wanted to be discharged from the hospital, but he just wouldn't give up. Once the mother, who was having a hard time, said to her fourth sister, "Why don't you let me die? I don't want to suffer."

One day during the last 10 days after returning home, my mother detached my sisters and tried to fall headfirst out of bed, but she didn't have the strength; she was about to bang her head against the wall when my fourth sister sensed something was wrong and rushed through the door, and my weakened mother didn't actually have the strength to even lift her head.

That day we sisters and our brother begged our mother to live for us with tears in our eyes. In the end, life came to an end under the weight of both mental and physical pain.

My mother is gone and I am beyond sad! I, who never wanted to think about death, saw the whole process of my mother's journey towards death. I saw the sadness and despair of an aging person who, at the end of her life, had no quality or dignity and could not even decide whether to give up her treatment.

My mother reminded me in such an extreme way of her death how terrible it is to age and lose your health, not only do you suffer mentally and physically, but the amount of money you have to spend on medical treatment is simply incalculable. You don't realize how poor you are until you are in the hospital.

I've grown to think about a lot of things through my three loved ones. If I ever get cancer, I will have several things to think about.

☞1. If the cancer is an early detection and is a benign tumor, I would still believe in medicine, communicate with my doctor about the best options, and actively cooperate with the treatment.

Nowadays, a lot of cancer deaths are caused by over-exertion and over-reliance on the "three light" policy of Western medicine - open surgery, chemotherapy and radiotherapy.

Western medicine treats the surface, Chinese medicine treats the root. I would choose to use Chinese medicine, and time has proven that using Chinese medicine allows patients to live a little longer.

☞2. If I were 80 or so, I would choose not to have treatment. I have seen and loved the world for as long as I have lived, so I will not feel sorry for myself and will accept death with open arms.

When a person is old, his body organs have already failed and he cannot withstand any torture, and he will die even if he is treated, or he will die even if he is not treated, and the treatment will be a waste of money, and it is very likely that he will lose both his money and his property.

☞3. If it is found late and is a malignant tumor, I will give up treatment. Many cancers are operated on and the cancer cells spread from the bloodline instead. Once the cancer spreads, death comes immediately.

Instead of lingering in pain with tubes all over your body, give up treatment when you are sane and spend the rest of your life choosing to spend time with your family.

You don't have to give me first aid if you can't do it anymore. People have to die sometime, so don't feel sorry for me. I hope my son and husband live well and don't spend all their savings on my medical treatment.

One day, I hope euthanasia will be practiced in China. That way, after I have made all the arrangements, I can say goodbye to all the loved ones I want to see and leave this world peacefully.

If you are unfortunate enough to have cancer, what you need to do is not to hastily discuss whether to give up or not, but to find out what your condition is, and make choices based on that. Cancer is not one disease, but a large group of diseases, and a large group of diseases cannot simply be grouped into the same treatment; different cancers, different conditions, can be completely different, both in terms of treatment, prognosis, efficacy, and so on.

Figure out what condition? Aren't all cancers the same? They can't be cured anyway. See, that kind of thinking kills people.

First of all, you have to find out, what kind of cancer it is, what type of pathology it is, for example, lung cancer, you can't simply just start arranging for the aftermath just because a CT found a mass growing in the lung and the report said lung cancer is possible. This is obviously not right, you have to further examine, you have to biopsy or operate, obtain the tissue of the lesion for pathological examination, in order to diagnose whether it is lung cancer or not, which kind of lung cancer it is, small-cell lung cancer or non-small-cell lung cancer, and non-small-cell lung cancer also has adenocarcinoma, squamous carcinoma, large-cell carcinoma and so on, which have to be clarified. Genetic testing is also needed to figure out the gene mutation. A lot of people have so-called cancers that are not actually diagnosed and the exact type of pathology is not clarified.

Secondly, you have to figure out the staging. Different cancers are different, the same cancer, different stages are different, most of the early stage have a chance to be cured, you don't figure out the stage, just say give up the treatment? Even if it is advanced, there are different situations, some advanced cancers still have the possibility of cure, and some, although not curable, may survive with cancer for a longer period of time, of course, there are no effective means of treatment. So, you have to figure out the staging.

These are just two of the most basic pieces of information, and it's rash to be talking about giving up when you don't even have this most basic information. It is only after figuring out your exact condition that you talk about whether or not to treat it and how to treat it. Go for aggressive treatment if you should.

Thanks for the invitation! For this problem I have personal experience, five years ago I got breast cancer, I was working at the time I could not accept the sudden conclusion of cancer cells, holding the report of the heart of mixed feelings, want to cry and afraid of sister's hard to hold back their own, I do not know how to get on the bus with my sister, my sister wanted to send me home, but I was worried about my sister late no bus home, I let my sister go home first, I went home, and my sister at the station respectively, my sister was not worried and came back to watch me, for fear that I would not go home, because in Beijing rental housing does not live with sister, so the direction to go home is not the same. Station respectively, my sister is not assured and come back to watch me for fear that I do not go home, because the rental housing in Beijing does not live with my sister, so the direction to go home is not the same, they later sat alone on the bus home, get off the dare not go home, shaking on the road tears can not stop flowing, when the real heart of their own acceptance of this disease, all put down, from Beijing and her husband back to her hometown to do the surgery, frankly face, afraid also It's useless to be strong enough to survive! Experienced six chemotherapy is worse than death, once afraid of once boiled ...... now more open-minded, live a day to earn a day, live to live and go to work, and often encourage themselves to refuel! So the mentality is good everything is fine!

I was the one who got cancer in 15 years. I was 37 years old at the time of my illness, with advanced cancer, and there were target drugs that I could take, but they were very expensive, so I was finally forced to find a way to get some raw drug powder to take. Control day is a day, a variety of test drugs, chemotherapy. People do not have to the pain, life is worse than death are not courage to die, but also fear of death. After being sick for a long time, our family members have become numb and annoyed with us. Every day only their own adjusted state of mind, learning the development and treatment of this disease, three years more, living than the doctor are professional. Long illness to see the people, family members to you a little kindness, you have to be grateful. The key, you also have to clamp the tail to do people, can not live husband hate the appearance, or minutes with you tear, people feel aggrieved, stalled you. Well, good people do not if, really "won the lottery", try to make themselves comfortable. Sick for a long time, no friends, few siblings care, only inner strength, can walk alone in the darkness. Because you want to live as a child's example, the child's road is still long, he grew up, encountered difficulties, remembered his mother, are like that, but still optimistic, strong.

"Happy Little Dawgs" has the answer for you. Joyful Concerns

Being a doctor and being around cancer patients all the time, as well as having been a patient, this is an issue I've really experienced:

Early last year, I had an unexplained fever, lost 20 pounds in a month, found mediastinal occupancy and bilateral hemothorax, and at the time, all the tests pointed to lymphoma, which I was pretty much certain I had myself.

This is what I wrote at the time:

Just in the prime of life, a lot of life ideals: when a good doctor, do a text writer, hiking China's top ten hiking routes ...... seem to be one by one away from me gradually far away.
Parents, children, loved ones, relatives, friends so many things I should be doing seem to be pushed back and adjusted.
Is it his grandma's guppy steps, collecting cheap sympathy and pity for being sickly every day, or is it healing while continuing my happy steps.
The body has been like this, and although it affects the daily mood, the state of mind is my own, and I have to continue with every dream I have and take responsibility for it.
Especially as a dad: every time my child gets aggravated and upset, the first thing he thinks of is me and calls me.
My first reply back is always: big girl, it's okay, there's daddy that ......
I can't give in this time for the sake of my child, whether I'm there for her or not, and can fill her with happiness and pride when she mentions me!

Fortunately, the sky was the limit, and then the pathology returned with lymphoma, and there was an immediate vacation and a feeling of rebirth.

It's hard to understand the despair and loneliness of not having a serious illness, and I hope every patient can be optimistic and strong!

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Cancer is really not new to me. Dad died of cancer, mom had cancer, and there were a lot of people in my family who had cancer. I can even say that in the county where I lived, there were too many people with cancer.

I've seen people who have had surgery after cancer and lived for more than a decade, and I've seen people who have been tortured by all kinds of chemo because of terminal cancer. I have seen so many cancer patients that I am both fearful and calm. The fear is that the family members of those patients with terminal cancer have not given up, and in order to prolong the life of the patients through surgeries as well as chemotherapy, the pain of the patients has actually been increased. People who have early stage cancer and do rehabilitation after surgery, on the contrary, can have some years of quality life.

What if I have cancer? It depends on what the situation is, and you have to believe in human potential and resilience. We have to face what we have to face. If you are unfortunate enough to have cancer, and if you are lucky enough to have it at an early stage, you have to treat it actively, operate it and cooperate with your doctor actively. After all, for example, if esophageal cancer or stomach cancer is in the early stage, the result after surgery is still good, and the quality of life can still be guaranteed. If it is in advanced stage, the possibility of "cure" is too small, so it is better to ensure the quality of life before considering the length of life.

Life without quality is meaningless to me. If the time comes that it is irreversible, then I think I will "do whatever is relatively comfortable", should I consider surgery or chemotherapy? It depends on whether my body can accept such treatment. If after surgery or chemotherapy, you can only lie in bed for the rest of your life, then it is better to give up such treatment.

I have a relative's mother, a few years ago, cancer, siblings actively for the mother's treatment, first income, and then chemotherapy, back and forth a number of trips, and finally did not save the patient's statement. Not long after the mother died, the father also found cancer, and also advanced, this time, the siblings simply respect the father's wishes in the treatment of the problem did not make a big fuss but conservative treatment, at least to ensure that the father's last quality of life.

Thanks for the invite: here are a few things I would do if I knew I had cancer one day.

First of all, what kind of cancer did you see, and how far did the cancer develop, if it was found in time without metastasis, it can be treated with surgery, and most of them recovered very well after the surgery, I have a friend who has lung cancer, and he was found in time and had the surgery, he is still living very well, and can commute to and from work normally, and he has already lived for ten years.

Secondly if the cancer is advanced when it is found and has spread, give up on pointless treatments and let yourself go in peace.

My mother passed away from pancreatic cancer, which was already advanced when it was discovered. My mother underwent two interventional surgeries, and at the time of her death, her whole body was swollen, and at a later stage, her skin oozed and ulcerated wherever there were pinholes, and the whole treatment process was painful and excruciating. Transitional treatment did not relieve my mother's pain, but brought her untold harm, which I regret and regret to this day.

Cherish the life we have now and live each day to the fullest.

First of all, thank you for your question. This we the author that there is no one standard answer, this is everyone's right to choose. But from the perspective of the author's heart, willing to put down the work at hand, take the family, parents and children, to go to some have always wanted to go but did not go to see the place. Everyone grows up with some unfulfilled wishes, such as traveling around the world, extreme bungee jumping, paragliding, surfing, rock climbing and so on. There are always unfulfilled career aspirations, a one night stay at the best grand hotel, a vacation to an uninhabited island, a glass room under the sea, etc. The end of cancer is death, we can't choose, we can only face it, just like birth, old age, sickness and death, and the mind is undoubtedly the most important. Maybe in a joyful and pleasant atmosphere, the cancer will progress slower than expected, maybe the last moments of life will leave the world with a smile, that's what everyone would like to see. This is the kind of life that has no regrets, no regrets. Do not leave in loneliness, sadness, I would rather leave laughter in the world. At the same time, we should also believe in science and technology, believe in the physician's treatment program, actively cooperate with the treatment, do not give up every ray of hope, which is responsible for their own and other people's attitude. Most of the people who have cancer are devastated in their hearts, and their brains only think of one question, how long they can live, and they always think of these boring things, and they will not think of anything else, since they are dying, they can make more valuable things out of the time they have left. I can't control the length of my life, life is given by my parents, everything is in thanksgiving, if you are unfortunate enough to suffer, you can only believe that this is the arrangement of destiny, actively cooperate with the treatment, diet therapy, family and friends are actually sad, don't lose your temper with them, be optimistic, and live every day as a new life. Can not chemotherapy, do not chemotherapy, combined with a moderate amount of exercise, sing if you want to sing it, if you can still walk, more to walk around, see the great mountains and rivers. With or without disease is important is the mind, I wish you all happiness like flowers, health, peace and joy!

I hope the above answer can help you.

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I am a mid-stage rectal cancer patient, 36 years old, and just had surgery.

It was really a very difficult time, from the despair and helplessness at the beginning, to the company of my family and the encouragement of my friends, I gradually began to face the reality and accept the treatment.

During the period of radiotherapy late hemorrhoids aggravated, like tearing flesh like pain when defecating, the second chemotherapy after the whole body rose chaff rash, full of red spots, itchy and intolerable, after the operation of the knife mouth, catheter mouth, stoma pain and discomfort, several times I want to give up, think about my daughter, my wife and my mother, again and again clenched their teeth and insisted. Fortunately, the most difficult time has passed, followed by a few more chemotherapy and regular review will be able to.

Whatever happens in the future, stay strong and stay with your daughter as she grows up!

Using the free time during the treatment, wrote a song for his daughter: "Daughter Baby" QQ music

If I do go one day, I hope to leave some goodness behind for my family and friends!

If one day found out that cancer, I will not go to treatment, I will use the rest of the time, want to do what do, plan routes to go out to travel, see the great mountains and rivers that have not seen, know that you can not move to die slowly, and never give their loved ones to add to the trouble and pain, get the results on their own, laugh at life, and bravely face death!